I just started college and my study is nursing. I'm starting out great, though nursing classes haven't yet started. I'm still trying to adapt to college life & the only thing that seems to bug me at my small college ( Brown Mackie ) is that I am only 18 and I'm surrounded by people that are minimum 5+ years older and some even could be my grandma! I need advice in fitting in with the other older nursing students and how to handle being on my own since at the moment they don't want anything to do with me because I'm so young..
I know its easier said than done, but your focus shouldn't be on fitting in. It should be focused on your studies. My experience with nursing school was that it was very click-ish. I would see these groups of "friends" hanging out, then I would see these same "friends" talk about each other behind their backs. I recommend only "talking shop" so to speak around these people. You DO have a common ground with each and every person, regardless of age. Nursing. So when you're sitting waiting for class to start, find something to add to a conversation that has to do with an exam or an assignment. When you start working, you're going to be working with the same wide age range and you will have to get along. Its just my experience and my opinion, but don't make "friends." Acquaintances with light conversation is good, but make your real friendships outside the nursing realm. If you only take my advice on one thing, take this advice: Don't get sucked in by gossip. That's often how immature people make "friends." You don't want to be associated with that. After graduation, you may need these people to network with, so make the best impression. And that impression is that you're trustworthy.
Last edit by SleeepyRN on Jan 27, '13
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Jan 29, '13
by Stephalump, RN
Oh, I don't think the "your focus shouldn't be fitting in" spiel is really accurate in this case. I'm sure we've ALL spent plenty of time with Erikson and his developmental stages. And we've all spent time as 18 year olds fresh out of high school where it's all about fitting in and having friends. OP is completely normal.
I wish I had some great advice for you. Are you at a traditional university or a commuter college? I think your school sounds like one of the for-profit schools? Those tend to be for older students who need more accessibility. Have you considered going to a regular school? With people your own age? Dorms? Parties? You're way too young to be isolated and drowning it debt.
Last edit by Stephalump on Jan 29, '13