Jealous that I have no life

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I am in my first semester of nursing school and I spend most of my time studying. I don't really have much of a life outside of school and work other than hanging out with my fiance. My fiance has been going out with his friends and family on weekend though while I am left home to catch up on all the work I have to do. My fiance had to pick up a 3rd job to support us while I am in school this semester since my job cut my hours significantly. He is at home when I am at work/school and vice versa so we never really get to see each other since he keeps hanging out with his friends and family. He tries to get me to go with him, but I am literally drowning in work so I just can't go. I am so jealous that he keeps going out and wont ever stay home with me. I hate having no life, and sometimes I just wish that when I had no life he would have no life too. I know that's wrong, but I am so overworked with school that I just cant help but wish he would just stay in with me. Anyone else married/engaged and have the same problem as me while in school? Any advice? Am I wrong for wishing he would just stay home with me?

I got married after first semester. Had my mother plan my wedding. Had the hubby working full time while I worked weekends. I actually liked the days we were apart because I got to do homework. It motivated me to get everything done ahead of time so I could look forward to the few hours we had together. I delegated a lot away- including fun things like my wedding planning! The house was forever messy but as my instructor told us- we can either be nurses or housekeepers, but eventually we need to get our priorities straight! It's all temporary. Think of the day you pass your nclex and find freedom!

Specializes in Hospice + Palliative.

Honestly, if you are working so hard studying in first semester/fundamentals that you don't have a few hours once a week to go out with your fiance, then I think it's clear that something's amiss. Yes, nursing school is hard. Yes, nursing school is demanding and challenging. No, nursing school should not command your every waking moment, or even close to it. You should be able to structure your study time so that you can take a break for 4-6 hours on a Friday or Saturday evening to enjoy time with him and/or your friends. If you are literally studying that much, can I humbly suggest that you reassess your study habits. What are you doing in all that time? It might be time to develop some new study skills, and figure out how you can work smarter and not quite as hard. I'm concerned how you'll cope in future semesters when the workload is far heavier.

Specializes in Med-Surg, Ortho, Subacute, Homecare, LTC.

My fiance is a pilot and got stuck in New York on a trip. I now have time to study without him bothering me. Haha, so bad.

Specializes in Neurology.
I REALLY don't understand these posts, I had almost a full time job through nursing school with heavy extracurriculars and I STILL had time to party on the weekends regularly.

I think a lot of you guys psyche yourselves out or makes the work seem more difficult than it is. All you have to do is work/study smart. From what I remember the 1st semester was pretty much a joke (basic CNA stuff) and a geriatrics clinical. I paid attention during lectures, did the silly assignments, dosage tests and looked over the powerpoints. If you are reading the chapter you are wasting your time in 9% of situations. Most nursing schools teach the same because the NCLEX is the standard.

It's not that hard but you are forcing yourself to have a perception that it is...

I lived the frat life and still have my RN.....it's completely possible. Hell I would even say nursing was one of the less demanding majors compared to a lot of the other life sucking hard science ones. THOSE will give you no life.

I work 36 hours a week still go out and have fun once a week ATLEAST and pass exams with A's .. I get it .. for some its insane amount of work fr others its just more work and it# easy because of the way we think.. the "nursing brain" as its called is useful I don't read any chapters anymore just my class notes but not everyone is doing the same thing as you.. I did all my pre and co reqs ahead of time so I just have nursing lecture and clinical diffrent strokes

Specializes in Anesthesia, ICU, PCU.
@ TU RN I didn't read through EVERY post so maybe someone threw out an unwarranted comment but the few I read saying "I thought it was easy" stated things like learn how and what to study better and to not work herself up too much. Yes that's not a blueprint to surviving nursing school, but it's ideas to get her brainstorming on how to be better (if that's what she wants). Those sharing that nursing school was easy for them aren't doing it in a demeaning manner from what I read, and by them telling their experience give the OP a chance to ask what made it easier for them, or to realize she could be doing something differently to be more efficient and start thinking about alternative study methods. Just because everyone doesn't baby her telling her comforting words about how rainbows and sunshine are just around the corner doesn't make them wrong, and it doesn't make you right. -- Some people vent just to be heard, it's not that they want the cure to their problems.[/quote']

If you think the post "I thought nursing school was easy" is appropriate in a thread that is based on "I think nursing school is hard," That is the point that I'm trying to make.

Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.

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I am honestly not resentful. I am truly just a little jealous. He works his ass off at 3 jobs so we can pay our bills so he totally deserves to go out and spend some time with friends. After hearing some of the stories about classmates significant others I do consider myself quite lucky to have such a supportive person in my life. I just do get jealous and I was wondering who else has gone through this and what they did to cope.

Also to clarify I do not have NO life at all. I do spend time with friends maybe once every other week, but for the post part I spend all my time working and doing school.

Some find nursing school very difficult.....it is a whole new way of thinking and TONS of information to assimilate. Some people have difficulty in adjusting to this new way of thinking and have more difficulty studying. I fell in the camp that while it was difficult at times....I wasn't overwhelmed. I give kudos to my instructors....and to my youth....for maybe I didn't know enough to be intimidated. Ahhh...the narcissism of youth.

Nursing requires sacrifice from the very beginning. Shift work....weekends...holiday's. There were many times I missed parties, family dinners, holidays....and at times it was frustrating...and lonely. I was jealous of my friends who didn't work holidays and weekends.

How many New Years I rang in coding a trauma who had a little too much fun...until they hit the tree. How many Christmas mornings I slept through because I had just finished nights....Merry Christmas to my mimosa watching It's a Wonderful Life......"Every time a bell rings an angel gets it's wings" thinking.....I should be canonized for all the bells I answered tonight....CHEERS! :cheers: OH and by the way...Happy Birthday to me.....:smiley_aa:

As I grew older...more and more of my friends became shift working medical folks I worked with......I was lucky that my family was full of nurses and adjusted celebrations accordingly...until my sisters got day jobs. ((sniff)) When I had children...much later than my sisters ....I bought an advent calendar to fool my kids about which date it really was and celebrated on my days off...the family joined in on our charade. When they got older and I could hide the calendar no longer....I explained that Santa made special trips for people who helped people because Santa KNEW we were caring for people who were sick and hurt......so I told a few white lies...:lying:...my kids laugh about it now....:roflmao:.

It's OK to be jealous and annoyed...but it is important to appreciate your SO for the sacrifices he makes so that you may reach your goals....keep him there aren't many out there.

:hug: It does get better.... :hug:

All the best.

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