I completely sympathize with the OP and agree with midwifetobe85. I went into my BSN program in my 30s with combined 6 or 7 years of both CNA & EMT work under my belt plus a previous BA & 5 years work in the IT field. Plus both my parents are professors and I grew up in academia.
I STRUGGLED with the BSN program MIGHTILY. After the first 2 semesters I was ready to drop out -but luckily I was chained to a strict scholarship
contract. I went to a private, fancy-pants women's Catholic college with a "prestigious" nursing program. What a joke. I barreled into the program with the 19 & 25 year olds, my critical thinking skills and life experience pretty well developed, and for the entire 4 years I felt like a bull in a china shop.
I would loudly question their pedagogy, argue and criticize nursing theory, and regularly challenged & denounced "nursing diagnosis" as totally useless in any modern framework of patient care. I hated every second of studying their bloated, obsolete curriculum that prepared students to be blowhard philosophers instead of skilled nurses!
Sure, I coulda kept my mouth shut and nose to the grindstone, but I figured as long as I was trapped under a contract I might as well get good grades AND let my voice be heard. I also wrote a lot of letters and spent many hours in the Dean of Student Affairs' office ranting and raving. I graduated magna cum laude but probably because they were afraid of me at that point.
Nursing needs a hard return throw to its roots as a technical trade. I believe theory IS important, but not nearly AS important as BSN program directors think. The NCLEX is in dire need of a makeover, and curriculum needs to be designed around reality. That would be a good start.
I am in an MSN program now for Nursing Education, because I don't get mad.....I get even.