I passed, you didnt.

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    Ok, I started my nursing journey with my sis in law, well we jus got finish our first semester last week and I passed (barley) an she failed. Well we both needed to pass the final to pass..she needed a 88 or something and I needed a 72 well before going into the final we talked, she has a bachelors degree in business, me i have just have my CNA an I work as a tech in a hospital. Well she went on an on about how she doesn't think she wants to be a nurse from the things she seen and how she's over how difficult the program is, and that she would just work as a CNA if she failed, and how she would root me on as I go through the program. She would go on about her not having time to study because she has an infant. Ok she has a infant sure but she rarely had her because the grandmother would always have her, I mean ALL THE TIME. And she doesn't work. Me on the other hand she would say I had it easier because my child is older( 3) but I don't have that help I have my child every time I'm not at work or school...and on top of that I work part time 12 hr shifts. I just found away because I really want this, when the family would have something I wouldn't go, I would study. (Which they have something every weekend) And when I would go it would be for a short while. Which I'm noticing I'm going to have to step up my game even more. Basically now she doesn't txt me, I reached out to her to see if she was going to reapply but she jus short talking me which is not her. I knw she's upset even though she tried to make it seem like she didn't care, but it seems like she's mad at me for passing or something....

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    I think you should be proud of yourself. There's alot of people that are jealous because you're doing better & try to make you feel bad about doing good. I go through this same situation all the time. I graduated last year, and all of the girls I went to high school with, we all started college together. At first, we all used to talk about school then they started not doing so good. As of now, one is still in support classes & failing those, one girl dropped out after she failed all of her classes first semester, and one girl said she is thinking about not going back after this semester. I finished my first year of college w/ a 3.68 GPA and ready for the second year. Every time I tell them how well I am doing they don't seem interested at all or come up with an excuse for why they aren't doing good .. Sometimes they don't even respond to my messages about school (or say "oh"). Now we RARELY ever talk because I think they don't like the fact that I'm succeeding. The only thing you can do is be proud of yourself because you pushed yourself to do well & it's not your fault others aren't in the same boat.

    Congrats on passing & Good luck!
    Last edit by ♫patiently_waiting❤ on May 6, '13
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    I'm not saying you are doing anything wrong at all, but I just think if you are this good you should be helping others that are struggling to pass. I've offered my mediocre nursing school abilities to others, but nobody has taken me up. I would love some help from the students in study groups or the smarties, but have never made it into their cliques.
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    She may be disappointed that she didn't pass, but that's not your fault. Nursing school isn't for anyone, but you passed. You did good, be proud of yourself!
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    She is probably embarrassed, even if she made it out not to care. It does matter! I would be supportive of her and offer help and reach out. Just keep trying every now and then, but don't force it. She probably needs some time to deal with the disappointment!

    You are doing well, but somethings are harder for others for whatever reason - just because she doesn't work doesn't mean she isn't struggling with exhaustion (infant), studying, travel - whatever.
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    Congrats on passing your first semester!!!

    One of the many lessons I learned on this wild rue of life, is that personal goals are a "solo" journey-that's why they are personal, lol.

    Even if you have friends, extended family or close family members with you in the same college or program, it may be exciting and encouraging to be with someone familiar, however, ultimately the work is individual...and if it is challenging, the stress is at an all time high, and when you don't do well, the disappointment or personal failure, if the individual feels that way and internalizes it that way, you may not get the welcomed responses and congrats, or pays on the back, etc.

    So, treat yourself. Have a small celebration, and then prepare for the next semester. Each semester will be more complex. Perpetration is the key to more victories!
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    Quote from truckinusa
    I'm not saying you are doing anything wrong at all, but I just think if you are this good you should be helping others that are struggling to pass. I've offered my mediocre nursing school abilities to others, but nobody has taken me up. I would love some help from the students in study groups or the smarties, but have never made it into their cliques.
    Oh I'm not good at all...I wasn't in study groups (I feel more comfortable studying alone) and I'm def not a smartie at all...I passed by 1 point. It was actually the opposite she would act like she knew everything mainly because of the bachelors degree, and she would try to help me. And the first class she got a B I got a C, I think that since she did well in fundamentals she thought it was going be like that for med surg...before a test I would say "all I did was study all weekend" and she would say "she didn't study at all just glanced the book". So if I could of help I would, but she figured she knew the material and was going pass.
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    Quote from LadyFree28
    Congrats on passing your first semester!!!

    One of the many lessons I learned on this wild rue of life, is that personal goals are a "solo" journey-that's why they are personal, lol.

    Even if you have friends, extended family or close family members with you in the same college or program, it may be exciting and encouraging to be with someone familiar, however, ultimately the work is individual...and if it is challenging, the stress is at an all time high, and when you don't do well, the disappointment or personal failure, if the individual feels that way and internalizes it that way, you may not get the welcomed responses and congrats, or pays on the back, etc.

    So, treat yourself. Have a small celebration, and then prepare for the next semester. Each semester will be more complex. Perpetration is the key to more victories!
    Yes I'm learning this. I'm in the next semester now and it's already a whirl wind.
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    Quote from TWiersch
    She is probably embarrassed, even if she made it out not to care. It does matter! I would be supportive of her and offer help and reach out. Just keep trying every now and then, but don't force it. She probably needs some time to deal with the disappointment!

    You are doing well, but somethings are harder for others for whatever reason - just because she doesn't work doesn't mean she isn't struggling with exhaustion (infant), studying, travel - whatever.
    I tried to reach out twice since the class ended one week ago, I ask her if she would re apply and try to get in for fall...and each time she says "we'll see" never an answer. So I'm not going to talk about the program with her anymore I'll let her come to me. And yes she may be embarrassed.
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    Quote from Hazel Newin
    She may be disappointed that she didn't pass, but that's not your fault. Nursing school isn't for anyone, but you passed. You did good, be proud of yourself!
    Thanks


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