Husband is not ready for me to go to nursing school!!

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Thank you very very much guys for the beautiful encouraging words. From the bottom of my heart i truly appreciate it. I spoke with my husband yesterday and it did not end up well. I kept asking him why he would be mad at me for pursuing my dreams to help our little family out in the future and he kept telling me his mom was right about me that he should've divorced me a long time ago. I asked him numerous times why he would be so upset and finally he admitted to me that since he can't cook he does not know who will cook for the kids and he claim he can't take care of 3 kids he will need some help(smh)but when i told him that my parents are willing to help us out when my nursing school starts and he refused and bluntly told me that this was my job to care for the kids and to hold on to my dreams until the kids graduate high school. No sir!!! I am good!! I already made up my mind and he does not want to go to counseling as well so there goes that. Anyways, I am going to start Nursing School wether he likes it or not!!!Thank you to all you beautiful people who took the time to comment back this is just a little update on my side. God bless

This makes me very angry. I can't believe he threw in the mom comment. Before reading this specific comment I would have suggested counseling but no way Jose!!

Do YOU!!!!!

I don't think I could have made it through school without the support of my husband (mentally) he was amazing.

I wish you the best of luck!!

Listen, tell him you're going to do it and he's going to help you. Tell him you will pay him back tenfold once you finish your goals and start making excellent money. I would never let somebody get in the way of my ambitions, but I'm sure your hubby is just nervous and panicking as nursing school is a big deal, especially with children. Once you finish school and he supports you, YOU can help HIM finish school and everyone wins. That's similar to my situation. I graduate nursing school in July and my child's father wants to start after I'm done. Apparently I make nursing seem like the best profession on the planet! Lol. But really, I feel like you need to sit him down, give it to him straight, tell him you're doing it and he needs to quit complaining (say all these things nicely since you get more bees with honey). My mother always told me "Tell people what they want to hear then do what you want." Good luck, I hope things go well for you. Keep yourself and your babies your #1 priority and don't let a man squash your ambitions.

TM 2020

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My husband was not 100% supportive of me returning to nursing school, but he said if he would have said no, it would have caused a lot of problems between us. He is correct! I love and respect my husband and I stand by my marriage, but God has called me to help others and I know that if I keep my eyes on the prize, God will take care of the rest! He has so far, he is saving my marriage and giving me a purpose in life. Good luck!

hamolady

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Thanks to all of you lovely people who commented on here and expressed your thoughts and for those who gave me advice/words of encouragement I would like to first say thank you from the bottom of my heart, for taking your time out to help me out on here. Just an update on my end, my husband finally told me that he will fully support me and I had told him that even if he didn't want to support me I would've still pursued my Nursing dream. This is my passion, this is where my heart is and I am going after it even if i have to fight the world for it i definitely would LOL! Thank you Thank you and Thank you very much *hugs to everyone*

VioletKaliLPN, LPN

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((HUgs)) Please keep us in mind and share your journey, I am super excited for you

hamolady

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Thank you very much i will update you all..*love and hugs*

Anyways, I am going to start Nursing School wether he likes it or not!!!Thank you to all you beautiful people who took the time to comment back this is just a little update on my side. God bless

Keep your eye on the prize. It's going to be a battleground, but you have what it takes.

Truthfully, he will find the fact that you stood up for yourself an attractive quality. Even if he throws it in your face at some later date (and sounds like he could possibly be the type that is totally capable of doing that...) you are going to do it!

We are all here for you, sister.

hamolady

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@Heylove awwww thank you very much sweetheart!!!! *big hugs to you*

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Yeah, my spouse did this too. Actually he stalled around, and refused to get a job, delaying my entrance to nursing school. Then his family started in, I should have gotten a job, any job, so that he could pursue his art degree prospects. Right. Then more family started in, why didn't I continue my last career of tech during the biggest recession since the 1930s? Surely my job didn't really go to China! (yeah, I assure you, it did.) Applied for jobs for a year unsuccessfully to appease their moaning and whining.

deadpan evil eye look.

We rued that later, a whole year of lost income and experience. When I began school and all he did was complain. Then it went to me not "working hard enough" after I go my RN. blah blah, always something.

Then went to grad school, tired of bedside, tired of the asylums closing and no more job. He still c/o constantly and made me do my schoolwork after he went to bed, so to not interrupt his life. GRRRR.

Rough years, and sure, we needed counseling, still do, but eventually he came to terms with it and can't imagine living without my income now.

You need to do what is right for YOU and your children, the spouse may not always be around for a number of reasons.

When I was between RN And grad school, my spouse finally got off his tush and went back to school online part-time. The tag-youre-it school relay didn't hurt anything. You're ready to enroll. He's not. You go first.

hamolady

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@NPvampire awww thank you very much dear *hugs*. I am glad you got yours *kudos to you hun*!!!So glad everything worked out well for you:).

MikeyT-c-IV

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I stumbled on this video today. Some aspects reminded me of this post.

I think you're husband is being unfair, I can understand if he was paying for it ,but I really think he does not want you to do better than him and is controlling like a few others said and down right selfish. I say go to school follow your dreams and don't put your life on hold for him. Just because he is your husband doesn't mean you have to sacrifice

Your dreams. I would suggest that both of you get some marriage counseling as well.

Just my two cents

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