Help with this delemia please!

  1. I think that I am over reacting but right now I am so upset/stressed that I thought i would get some perspective.
    I am currently doing a group project for my research class with myself and 4 other girls. 2 of the other girls are really participating while the other 2 have done nothing. Today we presented our project and we looked horrible in front of the class b/c the 2 non-participators had no idea what they were talking about. Also we have an obligation to present our project on friday night agian in front of the honor society. Only 2 students need to attend this presentation and 3 of the girls said they had prior obligations. I siad that i would go but said that it would be an inconvience to me b/c i had prior plans that I really did not want to cancel. One of the non-participators just looked at me and said "Well i want to go home on friday so im not coming". This forces me to break my plans and go even tho non-participator has no plans which she clearly stated.
    My question is....I COULD give an anounymous grade sheet to the prof saying that this girl did no work at all for the project and does not deserve the same grade as the others....or I COULD just leave it alone and be the mature one.
    Probelm is...if this girl ended up getting a worse grade than the rest of us she would know that someone reported her lack of effort to the prof!
    I am SOO frustrated and I think it is so unfair! Please help w/ ure opinions on what to do!
    I dont want to ruffle feathers when I'm only in my first semester of my junior year.
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  3. by   Shannon RN 2be
    We are doing a group paper for my English class this semester. After the paper we have to turn in a review of the other members of the group. I think it is a good idea that we can review the other people. If someone is not doing there share I think it is only fair that you should review them honestly. It sucks you have to cancel your plans to go present the paper. Good luck with your presentation.
    Hugs :icon_hug:
    Shannon
  4. by   colleennurse
    Have you tried saying something to the non-participator about her lack of effort to the group and that by her going to the presentation on Friday night could make up for that? I know it is awkward to say things like this sometimes, but if at that point she doesn't change her mind about going on Friday, then I would submit the grade sheet to your instructor. People work to hard to get good grades in college, why should she skate by on someone else's hard work? I would be frustrated too! I have had this happen before, but in an online class, where the teacher was able to see the posts by each person in the group, so there was hard evidence that one person was not putting in their share. If she is like this in college, then maybe she will be like this out in the workforce and if she is going for nursing, then I wouldn't want someone like that as my nurse! Maybe I am being bratty
  5. by   crb613
    I am probally just hateful but I can tell you I would not do all the work & then let them get the credit for it. I agree w/the poster who suggested you just tell them it is now their turn to contribute to the project. If they did not then you are mighty right I would let it be known. I think we should all try to get along but....It's a group project, if you don't contribute you don't deserve any credit. Good luck
  6. by   LoriAlabamaRN
    Definately let the professor know what is going on. This is the same as someone looking at your paper and copying your answers during an exam. It's cheating, pure and simple. It cannot be tolerated. Submit the accurate portrayal of these slackers, and then let the chips fall where they may. It will also show your professor that the reason for the poor in-class presentation was not due to lack of effort on your part! This is nursing school, not grade school. Let the teacher know who did or didn't do his or her part.

    Lori
  7. by   Race Mom
    I would ask the 2 non-participators to give you a list of what they did to help in this project. Then, of course, that would be followed by "and you think the 3 of us should present because...why?"

    I will come down on anyone who thinks my brains will help them achieve their goals in life. I worked hard on this brain to make it what it is. Heck, the muscles in my head have grown so much, they've gotten bigger than my implants!

    I will not let intimidation stand in the way of justice. What would the world be like if no one stood up for themselves?

    Plain and simple, you need to delegate the 2 slackers to doing this. They weren't there to help with anything, and this is just one more thing the three of you had to decide on. Them doing it.

    Woogy
  8. by   nurseman99
    sad to say,it would have been best to nip this in the proverbial bud.when somebody was less than helpful many moons ago when i was in school they got the quick get on board or get on out.unfortunately,you and your other hard working particapator should write this off as a learning situation.just finishit and forget it.this person might be your boss one day!
  9. by   Areinn
    Quote from SNKerri
    or I COULD just leave it alone and be the mature one.
    Probelm is...if this girl ended up getting a worse grade than the rest of us she would know that someone reported her lack of effort to the prof!
    I am SOO frustrated and I think it is so unfair! Please help w/ ure opinions on what to do!
    I dont want to ruffle feathers when I'm only in my first semester of my junior year.
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    Leaving it alone is not being the mature one. It is being the doormat.
    It was supposed to be a group project, not a partial group project. Do you let people cheat off of you when you take tests?
    Seriously, do you?
    I bet not.
    If she did not do any work then she is cheating. Most schools feel very strongly against cheating and reward it with a big fat zero for a grade. There is absolutely no difference in someone standing up pretending that they did work by taking credit for your time, effort, and brainpower and them looking over your shoulder when taking a test and using your answers but expecting points for them. Also, most schools weight these kind of projects just as heavy as tests so why would you allow this to happen and roll over and do nothing? This person is maniplulating you, plain and simple. Letting the instructor know that not all group members participated is not ruffling feathers. It is standing up for yourself and not allowing the schoolyard bully to get their own way. Chances are if the presentation went badly, the instructor already has a clue what happened.
    This same topic has come up before and it amazes me that anyone would brush this off because the are scared of upsetting the guilty parties.This is ok, but of course, cheating on a test is totally, completely, 100% wrong?
    Nobody can use you as a doormat without your permission. :angryfire:

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