Having a boyfriend while in nursing school.... - page 2

Hi folks, I'm in my last semester of core classes (Micro). I expect to enter nursing school in the Fall of 2007. I'm not dating anyone seriously right now but I would really like to have a... Read More

  1. by   cherokeesummer
    I think it just depends on the person and the relationship. I would imagine starting one at the same time as nursing school could be very difficult. I'm married and have been for 9 years, but it does put a strain on you b/c you need time to study or need to get up early for clinicals and don't always have the extra time.

    Just put forth the effort to balance as much as you can!
  2. by   nurse4theplanet
    Quote from sheridan3456
    Hi folks,

    I'm in my last semester of core classes (Micro). I expect to enter nursing school in the Fall of 2007. I'm not dating anyone seriously right now but I would really like to have a boyfriend. On the other hand, I keep hearing that nursing students really don't have time for relationships. Is this true? If so, should I just wait until nursing school is over before persuing a serious relationship? I'm concerned that if I found a man to date that they may not be understanding when it comes to the demands of nursing school, etc.
    It was hard enough to have a husband during nursing school . While I understand that companionship is very important, at least to me anyway, I would recommend not going out looking for love! LOL! I think you will find that you will have an involved 'relationship' with nursing school anyway.

    Now is the time to focus on yourself and your goals...you have the rest of your life to find a boyfriend. If Mr. Right happens to show up on your doorstep and is supportive of your efforts, by all means...keep him around. Just keep your priorities straight.
  3. by   not now
    It depends on who you meet. If you date a complete s**tbag then it'll just make life that much harder. If you meet a good guy, you'll be fine. It's up to you if you want to take that gamble.

    I did and I met my boyfriend a few months before I started my program. I was an LVN working full-time so he was used to my insanity. When I started the bridge program I worked 32 hours a week while in school and, honestly, if I didn't have him I would have crumbled.

    Now we live together and I only work 16 hours a week (Due to my classes. If my lecture wasn't in the middle of the day I'd still do the 3-11 shift four days a week!). We are poor but we are counting down the weeks (11!) until we can actually spend money on the new house.

    He also helps me study and gives me my time when I tell him that I need space to study or write my process paper. Basically, I have the best boyfriend ever.
  4. by   Megsd
    I really think it depends on you, the guy, and both of your expectations for the relationship. My boyfriend and I were together before I started nursing school, which was when he was in paramedic school (he worked 24 hour shifts every third day, went to class for 4-6 hours twice a week and completed 8-12 hours of clinical a week in between work and school). So we probably only saw each other once or twice a week while he was in medic school, and now we live together, but still spend a lot of time "alone" while I study. I do my part by writing down my school and exam schedule for him so he knows when I'm gone or likely to be busy, and mention times or dates where I'm free that are devoted to "us".

    For us, it has worked, because we are both supportive of each other's career goals and do not need to spend 5-7 days a week on dates (because we simply don't have the time or energy for it when we're busy). But if you or your boyfriend have the ideal image of doing movies Monday night and dates Thursday-Sunday, you will both probably be disappointed when you can't hold a date because of an exam, or clinical, or some other obligation.

    Nursing school is a big obligation, and a relationship is a big obligation. The two can coexist, but it takes a lot of cooperation between both parties to make it work. Some couples can survive nursing school, but some cannot. If you aren't willing or able to put a lot of work into your relationship, it's not going to work. It takes both people to succeed.
  5. by   Bonny619
    exactly.

    Quote from future L&Dnurse
    I am managing nursing school, two little kids (ages 4 and 3), and a husband. I wouldn't go actively looking for a relationship, necessarily, but if you meet the right person you CAN make it work. I promise.
  6. by   chzza
    Quote from sheridan3456
    hi folks,

    i'm in my last semester of core classes (micro). i expect to enter nursing school in the fall of 2007. i'm not dating anyone seriously right now but i would really like to have a boyfriend. on the other hand, i keep hearing that nursing students really don't have time for relationships. is this true? if so, should i just wait until nursing school is over before persuing a serious relationship? i'm concerned that if i found a man to date that they may not be understanding when it comes to the demands of nursing school, etc.
    i have a partner and a 7 year old daughter. it is possible to do both. not easy though but its worth it.
  7. by   lisabeth
    For the first time in my life, finding someone is not my priority. Getting into the nursing program and doing my best is top priority for me. After I get out, I fully intend to re-locate anyway, besides, not many men would support or understand what I am doing.
    There will be plenty of time for a relationship after I get through.
  8. by   Josh L.Ac.
    Having a boyfriend would really complicate my accelerated BSN program since I already have a wife and son.
  9. by   txspadequeenRN
    lol

    Quote from josh l.ac.
    having a boyfriend would really complicate my accelerated bsn program since i already have a wife and son.
  10. by   RNinJune2007
    Quote from Josh L.Ac.
    Having a boyfriend would really complicate my accelerated BSN program since I already have a wife and son.
    :chuckle :chuckle :chuckle YOU HAVE OFFICIALLY MADE MY DAY!!!:chuckle :chuckle :chuckle

    Thanksssssss I really needed that while studying for my SECOND unit test in my FINAL semester of N.S.
  11. by   RPSGT2RNIL
    Quote from sheridan3456
    Hi folks,

    I'm in my last semester of core classes (Micro). I expect to enter nursing school in the Fall of 2007. I'm not dating anyone seriously right now but I would really like to have a boyfriend. On the other hand, I keep hearing that nursing students really don't have time for relationships. Is this true? If so, should I just wait until nursing school is over before persuing a serious relationship? I'm concerned that if I found a man to date that they may not be understanding when it comes to the demands of nursing school, etc.
    I am working full time and doing my pre-reqs part time and having an affair with my husband. If you want to have an affair with a new boyfriend then go for it. If you want to have a relationship...wait on it till you finish school.
  12. by   nurse4theplanet
    Quote from Josh L.Ac.
    Having a boyfriend would really complicate my accelerated BSN program since I already have a wife and son.
    LOL! I agree...if I had gotten a boyfriend during nursing school, I think it would have really upset my hubby too!:chuckle
  13. by   CardiacButterfly
    Quote from josh l.ac.
    having a boyfriend would really complicate my accelerated bsn program since i already have a wife and son.



    now that was funny:chuckle

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