Dont you just HATE some of your classmates? - page 3

I know nursing school has cliques and stuff but in my class, I just hate some of these students. I know it is a competitive atmosphere and you dont trust anyone. Some of my classmates are very stuck... Read More

  1. by   Tweety
    Quote from PinkAurora
    Absolutely not and I'm not about to go digging any up to prove a point that most everyone knows it true.

    I just got out of high school...girls are just not nice to each other, like it or not. You can choose to ignore this 'stereotype' but it's plainly obvious if you take a look around.

    Take another picture. I find men and women equally not nice to each other. (ever been in a boy's high school locker room? Ever see gangs of boys walking down the street?) But overwhelmingly people are nice to each other, just a few trolls giving an entire gender a stereotype.

    I find it a stereotype. It saddens me that someone as young as you are buys into it. (Hopefully, you're not mean and use the excuse "it's only because girls are mean, get used to it, that's life") But you're entitled to have you're opinion. It's just not plainly obvious to me that it's a gender issue. Thanks.
    Last edit by Tweety on Nov 15, '05
  2. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Quote from PinkAurora
    Absolutely not and I'm not about to go digging any up to prove a point that most everyone knows it true.

    I just got out of high school...girls are just not nice to each other, like it or not. You can choose to ignore this 'stereotype' but it's plainly obvious if you take a look around.

    So since everyone "knows" it's true, then it MUST be true?

    In your opinion, that is.

    This isn't high school anymore, a big difference.

    Some girls (girls????) tend to not be nice when people make negative stereotypical comments on them as a whole, instead of viewing by the individual, go figure. Some women might feel the same.

    I choose to be the difference, and not stereotype (since it solves nothing), and then go on to pawn it off as an excuse for bad behavior of others.

    As long as people soak up the stereotype, it'll continue to thrive. In other words, what you said about "girls" is only fueling it, there's no solution in it.

    Male or female, doesn't matter.
    Last edit by Marie_LPN, RN on Nov 15, '05
  3. by   vegnurse21
    Hm. No Tweety, just to clarify I am certainly NOT mean and consider myself to be an extremely nice person. I find it ridiculous when women use the excuse of 'well, I'm allowed to be a b*tch' simply because of their gender. I really find that to be ignorant.

    Yes, Marie. *gasp* I used the term girls. I didn't realize it was so offensive. Anyways, I was sort of referring to the age difference here. Women my age tend to be more insecure which fuels the backstabbing/talking about others. That's wonderful that you refuse to be the stereotype, I am the same way. I don't want to be just another girl who acts sweet to a friend's face and then says hurtful things behind her back. However, you have to realize that there are so many who don't bother to change the stereotype and continue to cause unnecessary drama. It's not high school, but sometimes it sure feels like it still is.
  4. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    As i said before, as long as people soak up the stereotype, it'll continue to thrive.
  5. by   Imafloat
    Has something happened to make you upset?

    I love our class, there are groups, but we all get along. I thought it was because we were all going to be nurses and that made us special, because we care about other people. Who knows.

    Good luck to you.
  6. by   Tweety
    Quote from PinkAurora
    It's not high school, but sometimes it sure feels like it still is.

    Yes, sometimes it does doesn't it.
  7. by   Jessy_RN
    The solution is simple. Just create a shield or barrier for negativeness. LEARN to tune out people/situations like these and worry about yourself only. Go to school do your thing, get out and enjoy life.

    Life is too short to worry about silly things like these.
  8. by   truern
    Quote from PinkAurora
    Now I really don't think that was fair. I don't think she is 'instigating' anything. I think the way that the post was worded made her come on a little more strongly than I'm sure she'd have liked, but I don't think she meant any harm.
    Check out his previous posts, and you'll see why I commented as I did.
  9. by   IMustBeCrazy
    The only person you can ever change is yourself, it's always a wise idea to look within first.

    (I was going to post a longer, more introspective version, but I think in this circumstance it's best to be succinct. )

    ~IMBC
  10. by   rn in 3 years
    Quote from PinkAurora
    Absolutely not and I'm not about to go digging any up to prove a point that most everyone knows it true.

    I just got out of high school...girls are just not nice to each other, like it or not. You can choose to ignore this 'stereotype' but it's plainly obvious if you take a look around.
    I know I will get flamed but I kind of agree with this. Just yesterday my daughter (who is in 7th grade) told me for umpteenth time how mean the 8th graders are to the 7th graders in the girls PE locker room. The 8th graders are just plain mean to them telling them to get out of the way and such. They fell they are better than the 7th graders simply because they are now 8th graders. Luckily, I have taught my daughter that that type of behavior is wrong and that we ALL should be treated with respect.

    When I was in High School I hung around with guys (as FRIENDS) because I got tired of all the "Oh you look so cute today" to your face and then "Did you SEE what she was wearing and how FAT it made her look" behind your back. To this day I do not have many female friends because of it.

    I really hope it is not like that when I get a job at a hospital.
  11. by   Tweety
    Quote from rn in 3 years
    I know I will get flamed but I kind of agree with this. Just yesterday my daughter (who is in 7th grade) told me for umpteenth time how mean the 8th graders are to the 7th graders in the girls PE locker room. The 8th graders are just plain mean to them telling them to get out of the way and such. They fell they are better than the 7th graders simply because they are now 8th graders. Luckily, I have taught my daughter that that type of behavior is wrong and that we ALL should be treated with respect.

    When I was in High School I hung around with guys (as FRIENDS) because I got tired of all the "Oh you look so cute today" to your face and then "Did you SEE what she was wearing and how FAT it made her look" behind your back. To this day I do not have many female friends because of it.

    I really hope it is not like that when I get a job at a hospital.
    No flame, because that's your experience of life as you've lived it.

    Guys are mean too. Trust me, the boys locker room isn't a love and peace fest. Maybe they are a bit up front about it, but still mean. "Butthead, you sure look stoooopid". Bullying among boys can be brutal. Guys can outcast another guy just as quick as mean girls can. Guys can also be physical in their bullying. That's why I had girlfriends and gay friends in school. And to this day don't have many male friends that aren't gay.

    It's not exclusive to girls. But I don't generalize and stereotype guys/men because of my past experience.

    In the adult world, it's also not exclusive to women either. So to say things like "nurses are mean/catty/whatever because it's a female dominated profession is wrong.

    As always, jmo.
    Last edit by Tweety on Nov 17, '05
  12. by   tencat
    Quote from PinkAurora
    It's not high school, but sometimes it sure feels like it still is.
    No matter how old they get, some people never mentally get past being 16.
  13. by   rn in 3 years
    Quote from Tweety
    No flame, because that's your experience of life as you've lived it.

    Guys are mean too. Trust me, the boys locker room isn't a love and peace fest. Maybe they are a bit up front about it, but still mean. "Butthead, you sure look stoooopid". Bullying among boys can be brutal. Guys can outcast another guy just as quick as mean girls can. Guys can also be physical in their bullying. That's why I had girlfriends and gay friends in school. And to this day don't have many male friends that aren't gay.

    It's not exclusive to girls. But I don't generalize and stereotype guys/men because of my past experience.

    In the adult world, it's also not exclusive to women either. So to say things like "nurses are mean/catty/whatever because it's a female dominated profession is wrong.

    As always, jmo.
    Maybe we should become friends!

    My son is a Sophmore and I have never heard about these types of things happening as far as guys go but maybe that is because guys tend to keep these things to them selves and not confide in Mom like my daughter does.

    I am a very no-nonsense type of person. If it is like this when I work in a hospital then I will not participate that's for sure.

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