Dating while in nursing school? - page 6

There's a girl I like in nursing school whom I met in a math tutoring center at my school we were both going to. Right now she's in nursing school and I'm doing pre-reqs for nursing school. I only... Read More

  1. by   redheadMcCoy
    I am so offended by this. This girl doesn't owe you anything! There is no woman alive who is required to respond to you just because you're interested. You can't call "dibs" on people. Be thankful that she was polite to you as long as she was. You made her feel unsafe. You put up this 'nice guy' ploy, but if you turned into psycho hulk the minute you don't get what you want; then newsflash, you were NEVER a nice guy. You were a creepy man with an agenda who acted like a child that didn't get what he wanted. I feel REALLY sorry and scared for this girl. This is 100% sexual harassment. In fact, this post needs a "trigger warning" on it. I was uncomfortable reading it, I cannot imagine being the girl at the receiving end of your wrath.

    I rarely say anything negative to anyone but I feel compelled to tell you that you may not find success in nursing if this is your MO. Nurses rely on non-verbal cues to perform and often need those non-verbal cues to save lives. You NEED people-reading skills and non-verbal comprehension to keep your patients safe. Nothing in this post is telling of safety. It is the opposite.
  2. by   violet87
    Creepy eye opener as a young first semester nursing student
  3. by   vlewis515
    Wow. What a psycho. Dude, you need help.
  4. by   StellarLeigh
    Quote from carolinapooh
    "I'm sorry, I'm just not interested, but thank you for the compliment."
    Nope, no one(man or woman) needs to tell the pursuer "I'm sorry" or "Thank you", especially when the pursuer is making them uncomfortable, You owe NOTHING to this person, and if they can't get the hint by SILENCE, that is not your fault.

    Yes, sure, it would be nicest to politely decline, but the pursuer should not expect to be OWED the explanation or the "I'm sorry"'s and "thank you"'s





    Liiiiiiike, a woman doesn't have to smile, just because you told her to.
  5. by   BubbyBoogs
    Quote from TheAtomicStig_702
    So she's basically a selfish *****. Seems like she was a worthless **** that wasn't worth ****.
    You have issues I suggest seeing a counselor. Also, on a site that is mostly female avoid from using that type of demeaning language. We do not appreciate it.
  6. by   student53
    Quote from StellarLeigh
    Nope, no one(man or woman) needs to tell the pursuer "I'm sorry" or "Thank you", especially when the pursuer is making them uncomfortable, You owe NOTHING to this person, and if they can't get the hint by SILENCE, that is not your fault.

    Yes, sure, it would be nicest to politely decline, but the pursuer should not expect to be OWED the explanation or the "I'm sorry"'s and "thank you"'s.
    I don't think anyone is suggesting that the "I'm sorry/thank you" bit is OWED to the pursuer. Perhaps the "sorry/thank you" is intended to facilitate the message (i.e. diffuse the intensity of the situation).

    Isn't a polite but CLEAR rejection better for both parties? Doesn't the pursued person OWE it to HERSELF to set a clear, unmistakable boundary?
    When the pursuer cannot or will not take a hint, isn't it best to just nip it all in the bud, and leave no room for doubt?

    "I'm sorry, I'm just not interested, but thank you for the compliment."
    Repeat if necessary, then hang up or walk away. No explanation required.

    Speaking of boundaries, years ago I read a book called "Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin."
    It should probably be required reading for all nursing students
  7. by   TriChick
    The anger towards this female is still being carried over into a new thread. I didn't realize until now that this started over 6 months ago. You REALLY need to let this go, it is very concerning that in that time you have still not come to the realization that your reaction is entirely inappropriate. I would highly suggest finding a professional to talk to about things. Rejection is a part of dating, and if this is how you handle it things need to be adjusted before it goes any farther with someone else.
  8. by   sallyrnrrt
    Stalking creepy
  9. by   woodsevan
    Tom Leykis for you simp
  10. by   shibaowner
    The best advice I ever got about nursing school was from an RN teaching the CNA class I attended. She told us that nursing school was going to be very hard. We would not have time for a personal life. It is best to be single and focus on nothing but school. That said, most nursing students make many friends, male and female, in nursing school.
  11. by   shibaowner
    Atomic Stig: there are certain "rules of dating." Unfortunately, both men and women are usually not up-front about not being interested. If you are interested in a woman, and email or call her, and she doesn't get back to you within 3 days, she probably is not interested. It is okay to follow up a week or two later, in case she was out of town or missed your message, but if she still doesn't get back to you within 3 days, she is not interested. Move on. A friend of mine said the most powerful word in dating is "Next!"

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