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you are going into a service industry where you are going to be dealing with people on an interpersonal basis daily. you are going to meet all kind, believe me. if you let everyone you come into contact with upset you, you will go down in flames before you ever get very far in your life. you don't give much information about yourself in your profile, but i am guessing that you are a relatively young person. one of the concepts you will be learning in nursing school is one of being non-judgmental. others that you may have already picked up in psychology classes involve theories of personal behavior and game playing. i happen to be a great lover of eric berne's theory of game playing which many clinical psychologists are required to study. we had to study a lot of this stuff when i was in my bsn program and i can't tell you how helpful it is in dealing with and understanding other people's behavior.
first of all, people who are loud and have to "announce" their thoughts and feelings to the group like this are ultimately lonely people who don't have many friends and are in search of some. she is attempting to do this in one of the only ways she knows how, and that is to be aggressive. this is not the normal way to gain friends. we each have the choice of what behavior we are going to exhibit. you can make the choice to join her in her aggressive, public displays or ignore her. threatening remarks about no one going to disrespect her is an announcement that she has been hurt before, or has seen others hurt and doesn't intend for it to happen to her. that doesn't mean people should rush to her side and comfort her. i, personally, would see this person as being a potential troublemaker. people who do not know how to control themselves and act reasonably in public situations are trouble waiting to happen. the tragedy is that they do not know this themselves and as they exhibit this behavior they are only alienating themselves more. now, the odd thing is that if there are others like her, like a magnet, they will be attracted to each other.
my advice. . .just ignore her. be polite, but don't participate in her rantings or acknowledge her complaints. just stay away from her. she is a person in misery and trying to pull others into her misery to share it with her. don't fall for that. if she is successful in collecting cohorts, she has won a game of control over those cohorts. you don't want to be in that position of being controlled by her. she is also a very negative thinker. that is the wrong attitude for any student about to undertake a new career. negative thinking will stall you where you stand and you will make no progress. mark my words. this person will have a difficult time making progress as a nurse because of her negativity and will probably have difficulty all throughout her life and career because of this. to learn you have to be open and think positively in order to accept the many new ideas that are going to be presented to you. this lady has already shut herself off from learning before it has ever started. stay away from her.
ditto this advice! i was in a bsn program years ago, and my lack of skill in dealing with negative talk/thinking left me so completely demoralized that i ended up dropping out of nursing school altogether and even forfeiting an honors scholarship that paid my way (foolish girl!) - something that i have regretted now for over 25 years.
you've identified what was by far my greatest problem while in nursing school...absorbing negativity...and as a result i caved in to the stress. there will always be something or someone to complain about while in nursing school along with a whole choir of complainers in nursing school and in the hospitals too - nurses who are disillusioned with their jobs and who'll tell you they think you're crazy for choosing to become a nurse. had i been better prepared to face this emotional/mental battle back then, i would be an rn today looking back on 25 years of experience versus one who is about to *begin again* the wild and hairy adventure of nursing school at the ripe ole age of 47.
whenever a bunch of demoralizing mind pollution starts coming my direction in nursing school this time 'round, here's what my battle plan is: count my blessings; name them one by one. thank the lord for all that he's done - especially in giving me the privilege of attending nursing school a second time. then i plan to look around for another classmate or two to encourage and cheer on along the way. we'll all be in the heat together, and when we've graduated i want to be able to look back with a smile at the faces of others i helped along the way toward their dreams.
o and btw, well-expressed humor helps lighten the atmosphere when you can't get away from this kind of verbal assault, but as much as possible i plan to avoid listening to any of that kind of cr*p in the first place.