I need advice badly. Let me start off by saying, I feel like an awful person. I've been crying for almost an hour because I feel so guilty. I do not know where to turn. I know as a nurse I'll have to get used to working with different people.. I have been working with people for years in customer service (retail), school, many different environments and I usually get along well with everyone, and those I don't get along with I usually just deal with it, no problem.
But this guy I got partnered with.. I was told I was partnered with him because he needs guidance from someone "strong". At first, I was flattered and rose to the challenge. But now after about 2 weeks, I can no longer stand him. His ideas for the project we're working on are insane and off-topic to what we had planned. I already mentioned we wouldn't be able to access a tv/dvd player or anything, yet he keeps mentioning some video he wants to bring in about stress (which is UNRELATED to our topic.. which is safety r/t strangers btw). He has many more strange ideas as well.
For the paper we wrote I did the majority of the work, but then on top of that, I had to re-do his part of it, because he didn't even bother to use complete sentences. This may sound mean, but I am beginning to dread the sound of his voice.. it is constantly ringing through my head and he is haunting my dreams. I've been awake all night and all I can hear is his voice over and over again. (actually, another girl in my class mentioned she also cringes when he speaks up in class..)
I have never been this stressed out yet in nursing school. Not with the papers, projects, clinicals, tests, labs, etc. I LOVE all that. But now, I feel ready to give up.. If I cannot work with this guy, maybe I'm better off not working with people at all.. I should be able to work with anyone, right?
I want so badly to be able to just get along well, I really am trying. But today I had to ignore his phone call for fear I would just explode on him or something. I'm at the point of dropping out and telling my instructor I cannot work with him even if it means having to leave nursing school.
Any help is greatly appreciated! And please do not be afraid to be honest.. Am I just a horrible person for even thinking this way about another person?? How should I cope with this? We have another almost 2 wks to work together..
Feb 16, '07
Ok everyone, thank you so much for the replies! I have taken the advice that everyone has agreed upon and spoken to my instructor. Unfortunately, I can't get out of working with him, but she did give me some advice that I thought I would share in case anyone out there has a similar problem
I am to start delegating tasks with him as clearly as I can. If he is still not understanding things, I will get him to call our instructor. She made it clear that I do not have to do all of the work and I should be telling him straight out when his ideas are not appropriate or are off topic to the plan we had intended.
I am still afraid he will bring my grade down, as he works all weekend and this project is due tuesday. I am putting my foot down and refusing to do all of the work, just so he can get a good grade. I'll tell him what to do, and if he decides not to do his share, that will have to be his problem. I can no longer keep holding his hand and dragging him through nursing school, esp. when he clearly doesn't belong here.
How some of these ppl make it into nursing school is beyond me!
Last edit by wannabesedated on Feb 16, '07
: Reason: spelling r/t lack of sleep