congratulations on getting into nursing school! you have a long, rewarding journey ahead! i apoligize in advance for my lengthy response...
i am just finishing my first semester of school, and i know exactly how you feel. i am also an organized, prepared, put-together student who always has my work done, done well, and done according to instructions. (i had my uniform purchased 4 months early!) i guess if i can give you any advice, it would be to stay true to yourself. in nursing school you are going to meet both like-minded people as well as, for lack of a better word, "leeches". try to find people with the same goals and work ethics, and form a cooperative relationship with them. it's ok to study with and share work with fellow students when you are giving to each other
. it becomes difficult when you have to deal with people that expect
you to help them and do the work for them. i'm sorry, but it's just not going to be that way in real life. as an rn, we will be working as part of a healthcare team, but we will also be working alone
when caring for our patients. if you sacrifice learning something in nursing school, it will only end up hurting you in the end.
to echo the words of nurz2be, you need to make sure that you are where you need to be before you can really begin helping others. that's not to say you should be selfish, but it is important for you to know
what you are doing, and how to do it! after you feel comfortable, then it's time for study groups, quiz sessions, exchanging notes, etc. try to find productive ways of assisting others, rather than just sending them copies of notes. if you can find 1 or 2 like-minded people, form a study group where you each complete a section of a unit, send it to each other, and then get together to study before the test. if that doesn't work for you, try a study group that meets only
after everyone has studied on their own (this works for me). or, if none of that works, study yourself and delegate help to others where and when you feel comfortable. but do not sacrifice your efforts...you've worked to hard, and come too far!!!!
if i may go so far as to give more unsolicited advice, i have another suggestion that might help to keep you sane in school. your test grades are your
test grades!!!! don't fall into the trap of blurting out grades, successes, and failures after every test or assignment!! it is really quite unnecessary to know other people's grades, and it does nothing but demoralize you or
inflate your ego. why put yourself through that??? we have a guy in my class that loves to let everyone know his grade (he usually does very well), and loves to hear that he did better than you. it absolutely irks
him that i won't tell him my grades, other than to say "i passed" on tests. it's nearing the end of the semester, and he is busy stressing about how he needs to get a certain score, while i am busy stressing about learning everything i need to know for my tests and competency exams. to be honest, i've actually done better than him on several tests, and i think it is certainly in part due to my attitude that grades are important, but my need to know the information and perform the skills knowledgeably and competently is more important. it is this attitude that gets me good grades. anyway, obviously this is a sensitive subject for me, because it breaks my heart to see people worrying about the result, and not the process. i just see too many people stressing over a number or a letter grade, and not spending enough time thinking about how they can improve their skills. plus, if you don't tell people your grades, then they don't know whether or not to solicit you help. it gives you the opportunity to be more selective with who you choose to help.
anyway, just my two cents.
best of luck in school, and remember to be true to yourself! you are going to make an excellent, competent student and nurse!