Boyfriend and Girlfriend in Nursing School?

pinkiepie_RN · Jan 10, 2008

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pinkiepie_RN · Jan 10, 2008

Is this a definite thing: have you both been accepted? If you're just both considering it, I'd get through the pre-reqs and then see how it goes from there. Say one of you gets in and the other doesn't, would the one who got in be supportive and help the other?

If you've both been accepted I think it's doable, and I'm sure people in programs date other nursing students. I think you'd just have to try to not compete with each other. I think it would be best for your relationship to use this opportunity to your advantage and help each other out. If you're both competitive people, I'm not sure how great of an idea it would be though. Hope this helps!

madascanbeRNtobe · Jan 10, 2008

You should start Nursing school with the attitude of seeing every other student in your program as part of your team, and not competition, and support them in class and clinicals.

Adding a person you love dearly to the same team should be easy...:)

We have a husband and wife in our nursing school. Our school is big, so we have two sections for most of our classes, they dont have all thier classes together, though. But heres an example it can be done.

shmitty3 · Jan 10, 2008

I liked how you said that you should look at your classmates as part of a team. I am in a very small evening program. What I have seen from my experience is that we are more like a family and there is no competition. We all are more then willing to take time out to help each other so as a whole we are the best.

Mb a consideration if you are concerned about being at each other throats is to have one start a semester or year behind the other. This way you are not in the same group and classes and one will be ahead and able to help the other.

I personally do not think I would be able to be in the same classes as my bf. I would want some down time for myself. Being in the same classes and doing everything together would be too much. But thats me personally.

futurecnm · Jan 10, 2008

Hi all...
I will most likely be starting an ADN program in the fall...I've been talking about being a nurse for a while now and am finally making it happen. My boyfriend of 4 years recently got laid off, he now realizes how shaky his previous path was and sees nursing as a steady, great career which he can be secure while also making a difference. Now he wants to go to nursing school too!
At first I was upset by this, because I saw it as my thing, but he's serious and when we talk about marriage and kids, we both realize what a great career option it is for our future.
However, do you think we will kill each other in school or get competitive? We live together currently and have a solid relationship - we are both very level headed people, but I'm still nervous. Can we go to school together in the same nursing program or is that a recipe for disaster...? I'd appreciate any info!!! I'm 26 and he's 31 fyi

are you both done with pre-reqs? At least around here, you need to be to even get into a program. And I'm assuming since he is just deciding this that he would not be close to having them done and would not get in for fall. I wouldn't want to do it but I think it could work for some.

Wolfe24 · Jan 10, 2008

There was a couple at my school that were dating and then subsequently got married while they were both still in school. There didn't seem to be any problems or issues that I could see. They weren't in the same nursing classes together though, I suppose that may have made a difference.

NoviceRN10 · Jan 11, 2008

I'd worry about it after he actually gets accepted. It's not that easy to get into nursing school, at least not around here!

jackson145 · Jan 11, 2008

My husband and I had several classes together. We got soooo competitive with each other! However, it really caused us to push ourselves a lot harder than we would have on our own. I'm terrible about competing. I'll turn any activity into a huge competition and it drives my family nuts.

itybity · Jan 11, 2008

I dont see it as a bad idea as long as you both dont have competitive tendencies.... if anything it may be a big help because u can study together and u both are sharing in a common interest.. u never know it may end up bringing u closer together!

NurseBlueBear · Jan 11, 2008

I actually have a girlfriend/boyfriend team in my class. He is the competative type. She really isn't. It seems to work out really great for them. Personally, I couldn't do it. My hubby would drive me nuts! :chuckle

love-d-OR · Jan 11, 2008

Why would you both be competitive of each other to the point of reuning your relationship? I think if it does happen it will be a positive competition (to help each other stay on track). Leaving together is tough when one person is going throw nursing school, but if you are both in it then you have a familiar face that understands you.

My class has a couple. They have been together for a long time. They took prereqs together and got in the program together. They support each other a lot. Usually take the same clinical and they are in the same study group.

I think its a great move for you both. Especially as a future family. Good luck with nursing school.