Anyone Else have an INSTRUCTOR

  1. that was a complete bully
    and told me that i was NOT cut out for nursing.
    Anyone else experience this?
    Last edit by TheCommuter on Feb 14, '08 : Reason: removed the concealed profanity
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  3. by   hairtocare
    A classmate of mine was told "You don't deserve to be a nurse..." she had forgotten what a K-Pad was. I was astonished! I really had more respect for that instructor than that. I am still in shock. I don't know.......maybe that's their way of making some people work harder, being tough on them, but I think it is just disrespectful. What a shame. Sorry to hear you had such an experience, just try to let it go and think to yourself " I only have to deal with her/him for a very short time, it will all be over soon." I mean really, it's a matter of just saying "I can do this, and I will be a better nurse because of it" Show her how WRONG she is! Good luck, my sympathies, I feel what you are going through!
  4. by   TheCommuter
    A male clinical instructor snapped at me and grumbled, "Maybe this isn't the right career for you!"

    Three years later, and I'm faring much better in the workforce than many of my classmates!
  5. by   ohmeowzer RN
    what happened w/ your instructor that she or he said that to you? i am so sorry that comment was made to you.. you will be a great nurse.. don't let them get you down..
  6. by   seanpdent
    Heh heh... I believe we have alll had one of those instructors.
    Mine tole me I was rigid and inflexible, and that maybe I should reconsider my decision.
    I used it as motivation to prove him wrong!!!
  7. by   mixyRN
    Quote from hairtocare
    a classmate of mine was told "you don't deserve to be a nurse..." she had forgotten what a k-pad was. i was astonished! i really had more respect for that instructor than that. i am still in shock. i don't know.......maybe that's their way of making some people work harder, being tough on them, but i think it is just disrespectful. what a shame. sorry to hear you had such an experience, just try to let it go and think to yourself " i only have to deal with her/him for a very short time, it will all be over soon." i mean really, it's a matter of just saying "i can do this, and i will be a better nurse because of it" show her how wrong she is! good luck, my sympathies, i feel what you are going through!
    this is terrific advice! i used to count down the number of clinicals left with a certain instructor and tell myself after each day, "another one down and only "x " left until i am free!"
    hang tough, you can do this!
  8. by   llg
    Quote from pat8585
    that was a complete bully
    and told me that i was NOT cut out for nursing.
    Anyone else experience this?
    I was told that I was probably not well-suited for nursing during my 3rd week of clinicals as a junior in college. Unfortunately, we had the same clinical instructor for the the entire year. We had 8 students in the group and we had the same instructor from September until May. By Febrary, my IBS was so bad, I could not eat solid food.

    But I survived -- and am probably a better nurse in many ways because of her. She taught me a lot of good things that I value highly. She had her good points and her bad points.

    That was a little over 30 years ago.
    Last edit by TheCommuter on Feb 14, '08 : Reason: referenced an edited post
  9. by   JTinSC
    No, but I told my crit care instructor she wasn't cut out for teaching after going to her office about some questions. I wouldn't let instructors like that get to me though, just take it as motivation to prove them wrong.

    I don't know what it is with nursing instructors but they are some of the worst teachers I have ever encountered. Probably due to the fact they didn't go through school with the aspiration to share their knowledge and encourage others to learn, but rather to try out something new where they didn't have to tend to 6+ patients a day.
  10. by   APBT mom
    My instructor told me that I wouldn't be a good L&D (mother baby specifically) nurse. I wasn't and am still not upset about it because I don't feel comfortable messing with strangers children especially when they're only days old and I have no plans of working in that area once I get my license. Now if it was only on the delivery side I would do it in a heart beat. I loved rotating their when it was busy I was on the ball and running around doing all kinds of things.
  11. by   squeakykitty
    I had one recommend that I quit. I did because I knew I was struggling in clinicals, not doing real well, and I didn't want to hurt anyone.
  12. by   pat8585
    so squeaky kitty,,did you return to school at a later time and how did you do on clincials then?
  13. by   squeakykitty
    Quote from pat8585
    so squeaky kitty,,did you return to school at a later time and how did you do on clincials then?
    It's been over a year since I quit and I haven't been back. I also had a nice arthritis flareup during clinicals once, and I was hurting enough to question my career choice. If I did pass through and got a license, I might not have lasted too long as a nurse, due to my abilities and arthritis. I changed my major to medical transcriptionist.
  14. by   itsmycalling
    Just posted a problem with my instructor on the general nursing discussion page and was told by about 20 people that my instructor is just trying to help me. Maybe?.... Anyhow, the bottom line is that no ONE PERSON is an authority on how you will turn out as a nurse. The nursing field is very dynamic, and I am sure there is a place for everyone whose heart is in it. I too have used some of their not-so-nice comments as fuel to become the best nurse I can be. DON'T LET IT GET YOU DOWN. USE IT TO BECOME A GREAT NURSE!

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