You are not alone!!!
My husband snores something awful sometimes and has sleep apnea. I've tried to get him to see an ENT but he doesn't want to. He knows he'll have to either get a CPAP machine or have surgery, and neither is desirable to him. Forget about what would be good for ME!
I sleep with foam earplugs and those help a lot. I also work nights and he's a "normal" 9-5 office slave, so we don't always share the bed. Even on my nights off, I'm often up all night long out of habit. But when I do sleep in bed with him - OMG it's crazy.
He has some sort of obstructive apnea. He'll lay there and suddenly stop snoring...then I'll see his chest rise and fall...then this turns into severe retractions...then his entire chest is concave as he tries desperately to get air, then finally he'll gasp or snort and breathe again. If I'm awake, I smack him or roll him into another position and this always gets him breathing again.
My question is - how the heck does he get through the night without me?!?!