Any tips on keeping my marriage healthy??

FutureNurse2005 · Jul 8, 2004

All I can suggest is to make time to be together! Even if it means snuggling in bed while you are studying (not very romantic...but at least you are together!) and try to have a date night every week or two.

Also, try to keep him involved with what you are doing. Talk about your classes/projects, let him meet fellow students, have him quiz you before tests.

Good luck! Just work at it and you will be fine!! :)

Trauma Columnist · Jul 8, 2004

I went back to school when our sons were 5 and 10 years old. We were pretty honest with each other about the time comittment and effort it would take. We had been married at the time for 10 years. Its now 14 years later, we are still married and I'm back in school! It can be done. It really helped that my husband was very supportive. Good luck...

ItsyBitsySpider, BSN, RN · Jul 8, 2004

Definitely go out on dates, make it a point at least one night a week even if it's just to Starbuck's for an hour. Take a weekend away if at all possible, I know during the semester it's really hard but even if it's just for one day it's good. Also, my husband and I take a vacation at the end of the school year ALONE every year which does wonders for both of us. Best of luck to you..

DaughterofRuth · Jul 8, 2004

I really appreciate your advice! We already have our "couple night" which doesn't include going out as finances prohibit it, but with spending so much time in our own areas doing our own thing, on Monday night after the kiddo goes to bed, our butts are side by side on the couch watching our couple night shows. Forces us to look at each other and think "hey I remember you!" :)

MichaelSSSS · Jul 8, 2004

My wife sometimes meets me at the door wearing nothing but her birthday suit with cards or other types of notes taped to - well, strategic areas. Then it's to the love den for some rewarding actitives. Point is, it takes time and effort to keep the passion between you alive when one of you is gone so much.

Also, we bought a book called 100 ways to have great sex. Every week we both tear out a page that is folded in the book so we can't see what it is and we have to do whatever it tells us to do. It's fun and kind of exciting as we never know what we're going to have to do to the other.

Then there's turning off that stupid TV and just sitting in the livingroom talking about our days. Then, we make it a point to hold each other close most of the night. It's working for us!:)

Altra, BSN, RN · Jul 8, 2004

One key is for you both to look at each other and repeat - "This isn't forever ..." For a few years it will be really tough, but years from now will it matter if the house was a wreck, schedules were screwy and the stress level was high? Marriage is about the long view anyway - just remind yourselves and each other regularly that it's not forever. You can do it! :)

jschut, BSN, RN · Jul 9, 2004

:blushkiss Good luck...you'll be fine.

maire, ASN, RN · Jul 9, 2004

Don't be married to a whiney, spoiled brat, lazy, moody mama's boy and you should be fine...
Sorry~ I hope your marriage does well. Mine will too, if he leaves....

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(Now someone tell me why this board won't let you reply with just an emote? 10 characters minimum?? Sheesh!)

danaRN2b · Jul 11, 2004

I think what helps our marriage the most is making time for...S-E-X. We have four kids and untold amounts of stress, but he's much less irritable when he gets regular S-E-X (haha) and therefore is less apt to complain about little things & more apt to help around the house, etc. It's not always easy to do when you're tired, stressed, or have a zillion other things on your mind, but once you get started it's worth it and everyone wins.

fnimat1 · Jul 12, 2004

I have already started telling my dh that this is only "temporary"...so that by Sept. 7th he'll be used to hearing it. I have been studying my A & P 1 and 2 textbook and notes. And he's been moping around a bit...and I tell him "this is only temporary"......and he gives me a half-smile. He'll get used to it... :)

Fatima

confused101 · Jul 30, 2004

My husband was all for me going back for nursing school. I was trying to find my nitch on what I wanted to be when I grew up. We met his senior year and my sophmore year(another major). We got married two months before nursing school started. We have laughed, cried, and held each other in the good times and the bad. Two more years to go before I have my RN, BSN! I would come up to his job for lunch dates when we haven't seen each other in days. I work evenings or nights and he works days. Kind of stressfull! Phone calls during the day is a must. I have learned that as long as the bills are paid and the world isn't going to end then it's all good! :kiss