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  1. Aug 10, '12 by
    Quote from ebailey1218
    I have just two quick comments. First, for profit, private school with sometimes offer "scholarships" to their program to get students to attend. I am not saying anything disparaging about your abilities or that you haven't earned it... this is how they operate, otherwise people could not afford their schools. I do not know anything about your particular program, this is just a statement from my own personal experience.

    Secondly, I believe that when it comes down to you or your husband, only one of you can chase a major dream at time. How you would feel if you put your son in day care, got through your first semester and then had to move???!?? I know life is ALWAYS a risk, but to me... it sounds like your family might need you a little more right now. Once they are in school, and your husband gets his promotion, you can also relieve yourself of some of this guilt that all college student mommies carry.

    Hang in there! You aren't giving up on a dream... you are just postponing it!
    Thank you, I am still going back and forth but I do think my family might still need me more. Also, this is a not for profit, private school. I received that amount of scholarship partially bc of my 4.0 GPA and bc I was in the right place at the right time.
  2. Aug 10, '12 by
    Quote from tigerlogic
    Can you talk to the program and see if they have some online or leave of absence options if you do have to move? Could the credits potentially transfer elsewhere?
    I wish they offered online courses! They are finally starting to offer a few online psych classes but this school is incredibly "traditional." They aren't very flexible for non traditional students.
  3. Aug 11, '12 by
    I'm looking at this as an Army brat. Born and raised with a military dad.

    And my thoughts are...you will NEVER have a guarantee that you will stay put long enough for a particular school. This will forever be a problem so why keep pushing it later, when the next station he is sent to may do the same thing? It sounds like he is carreer military. If so, you are facing a life time of moves. You cannot make whethere he gets new orders determine your dreams. You will never have them then.

    If you want to wait until your child is in school...again, what if you have more babies? Will you forever put your goals off because another child needs day care?

    It may be this particuluar school isn't the best fit for you, but there are options. And there are also scholarships available to military wives, plus the G.I. bill. Figure out first if you really want to be at this school or not. Then let the rest of your decisions be based off of that.

    I can't tell you what to do, but I can say military kids are resillient. We are bred to be that way. Keep me posted on what you decide. I will be thinking of you.
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  4. Aug 11, '12 by
    I don't know if length of time served has ANYTHING to do with the GI bill, but there are several women at my school who are using their husband's GI bill to be able to attend school themselves. I haven't asked about that, as my husband was out of the military and had already used his when I met him. LOL.

    Good luck with your decision. (And as a Navy brat, I can affirm that what LCinTraining said about military kids being resilient is true.) And even if you were a civilian mom, the decision to leave your kids in daycare is just as hard. I had to do that, THEN my husband took a job transfer out of state. (I was lucky and had family I could live with though, otherwise we could NOT have afforded for me to stay in school.)


    Let us know what you decide!
  5. Aug 11, '12 by
    LC, I completely agree with what you are saying about continually pushing it back. Luckily, we are done having kids I did not grow up around the military, at least not directly, so hearing that mil kids are resilient makes me feel a lot better. Reminding myself I cannot shield them from life is in need of constant reminding. LOL

    As for DH's GI bill, they (the military) semi-recently changed how easily transferable it is. He has to have served six years before he can transfer and then commit to X amount of service. The committing isn't a problem because, as you guessed, he is a lifer. I swear, they will have to kick him out when he hits 27 years! So, he will transfer it to me so I can use it to pay for grad school.

    Since this lifestyle is not going away, which I don't really mind as long as I can finish school, I am not going to stop going to school. After speaking with the BSN school, they told me I should be able to get the same amount of scholarship if/when I am able to return. So, I have enrolled into the local community college and I will spend the next semester/year taking remaining prereqs for various BSN programs. Then, once DH is either selected or gets promoted, I will hit NS full time. I feel that this is a good compromise bc I am still going to school, but I am not taking out a million loans Best of all, I feel more at peace. Thank you guys so much for listening and giving your opinion on the matter!

    Now, I am just nervous for all the online classes! I have taken them before, but never this many at once. I am one of those annoying students who go to class everyday, participate in lecture discussions, but never opens the book or reads anything and gets an A. Now, I have to read... a lot! :/
  6. Aug 11, '12 by
    Yes you will read a lot, but I still found online courses easier, if that helps at all.

    I think just talking things through has helped you decide what you want to do. Best of luck in your venture, both to you and your husband.

    And yes, yes we are resilient. I'm all mad about the possibility of having to move from our dream house right now. But I know I'll survive where ever we end up. My little short civilian children however, DEVASTATED and swearing they will never forgive me. Wait...I didn't pull that nonsense until I got to high school! Even still, my dad switched stations five weeks after we moved there LOL.

    My poor husband is ready to cave to a hole in the ground house just to stop the tears and keep them here. I'm all...no. If we move, it will be decent, and in a decent area, and where they will have more opportunities. You will not move them to a bad area just to appease them because they will survive a move, and they will make new friends and even if you stay, next week they may hate it anyway. Give our kids some Army backbone you civilian dad you!
  7. Aug 11, '12 by
    My honest to God no-BS answer? Don't give up on scholarships and free money. You need to be able to take care of yourself especially if your husband is going into SF and actually gets in. If anything your husband should be waiting a year to try to get into SF school, not you. Your career will take care of your family for decades, SF won't.

    Sorry, just a no-nonsense military family opinion.
  8. Aug 11, '12 by
    Quote from LCinTraining

    My poor husband is ready to cave to a hole in the ground house just to stop the tears and keep them here. I'm all...no. If we move, it will be decent, and in a decent area, and where they will have more opportunities. You will not move them to a bad area just to appease them because they will survive a move, and they will make new friends and even if you stay, next week they may hate it anyway. Give our kids some Army backbone you civilian dad you!
    HA! We are still at our first duty station, been here for two years. I am SO ready for the next place! I do not mind it here, but I actually like the idea of moving around... New places and new adventures. I just want to finish school somewhere in that mix. Still, I need to get use to the not knowing what is going on.

    Before deciding on selection, my hubbs was talking about re-enlisting for stabilization. :uhoh21: So I am just hoping he gets selected. It is time to PCS and I think I would like NC
  9. Aug 11, '12 by
    Quote from veggie530
    My honest to God no-BS answer? Don't give up on scholarships and free money. You need to be able to take care of yourself especially if your husband is going into SF and actually gets in. If anything your husband should be waiting a year to try to get into SF school, not you. Your career will take care of your family for decades, SF won't.

    Sorry, just a no-nonsense military family opinion.
    I agree that SF should wait; however, that is not happening.