thank you for feeling comfortable enough with all of us to share some of your personal problems. i know sometimes, it's easier to share with strangers than with those we love and trust that are physically with us (i.e., your wife and family).
i've heard it said over and over again..."nursing school
is hard on marriages." although, i am divorced (that's the only way i could get into nursing school, i had no moral support), i do see what it has done to some of my fellow classmaes marriages. several have already divorced, some say as soon as they get out they will divorce.
but, you need to try to find some time for just you are and your wife. i was given some very good advise by one of the instructors this summer. she said that we make arrangements with s.o., children, family, whomever the following compromise needs to be made with. this will probably work best on the weekends, but what she said is tell your wife if she will give you 3 hours of uninterrupted studying...that means no phone, no kids, no chores, nothing. then you give her 3 hours of uninterrupted quality time. you've already done all the studying that your brain can take in at one time and you shouldn't be worrying about the fact that you need to be studying.
give this a try this weekend, darby...and see if it helps. you can catch a movie, go for a walk, or any other activity that the two of you enjoyed pre-nursing school. you might even just sit down and talk and listen to each other. it's worth a try, isn't it.
well, that's my .02 worth. good luck and remember, we all feel alone with you...therefore, you are not alone!!!