African American male here. I have some questions for my fellow nurses - page 4

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For the past 6 months I have been so stressed out about getting into nursing school. My GPA wasn't the best, but I made a 93% on the HESI Entrance exam. This ranged from crying, yelling, and overreacting to everything. A couple... Read More


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    Did not read all of the posts, but the ones I read had pretty good advice. Remember, you've done the hard part.....getting in! If you got in, you can finish. As someone said, learn, don't just memorize. Be ready to accept failure in some form and take criticism graciously, not personally. The people who don't make it through nursing school rarely fail due to intellect, it is often due to an unwillingness to make changes and acknowledge/improve their deficiencies. We all have them, and a good nursing program will bring them to light before they unleash you unto the world. Criticism hurts, but it is your friend. Bear in mind that some instructors do go too far in this area, but so will some patients.
    I am also an AA male in a predominately white female role in the South. A unique position to say the least especially depending on where you are. Best advice I have here is be respectful and respectable. Some patients and coworkers may be a little apprehensive at first, but will warm up when they get to know that you have character and ability. When patients or family say racist things I do not respond with any type of acknowledgement. It is amazing how powerful silence and a straight face can be. Let the silence linger in the air for a second or two and then move on to a clinically relevant topic without showing emotion. Usually you will get an apology and at the least, the remarks will cease. When people apologize I thank them and say something to the effect that we'll act as if it never happened. Don't get into the habit of racist or sexually suggestive jokes. I cannot emphasize how bad an idea this is. Keep it professional and don't flirt at work. Though the opportunities will be plentiful, smart people don't date/sleep around where they work. You really control more than you think. Don't let race be an issue unless someone else makes it one. As a male, please explain all procedures and ask permission to do them and get an aide or another nurse with you when pulling foley's, doing full body skin assessments or the like. Not one accusation is worth the trouble and they tend to come from the people you least expect. Same with coworkers or fellow students. Like mom used to say, "If there ain't nothing to the situation, make sure the situation looks like there ain't nothing to it."
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    Congratulations! I just graduated and I will be the first to tell you this...take it seriously. I don't mean that in a way to sound sarcastic but I didn't my first time around. I actually thought the hardest part was getting in to a nursing program, but I was so wrong. What you put in to nursing school is what you will get out of it, simple as that. Nursing school the 2nd time around for me was a struggle because my finances were not there, I had a baby, a car that I prayed for all the way to school and back to school. As for studying, I learned to read before lecture. So if the topic was Med. Administration on Wednesday, I spent Monday or Tuesday reading and highlighting the material. Then if the test was 2weeks away, I would listen to the lecture like a week or so before the test. Do not, I repeat, Do not wait until the weekend to sit down and study...you will definitely find yourself digging to come out of a ditch. Invest in a recorder, planner, and notecards. Recorder and planner for the obvious reasons and note cards...true to make notes but to also write words of encouragement. I wrote out my goals and what I wanted my day to be like and taped them to the bathroom mirror. Every morning before school I read them out loud and honestly my day was mapped out and worked in my favor. Finally, we all learn differently and at different speeds but these are just some ways that helped me through nursing school that I didn't implement the first go'round. Although I had financial issues, a car that was psychotic, and an extra mouth to feed, this made my load seem a heck of a lot lighter. Best wishes to you...the medical field really need male nurses.
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    Honestly, the hardest part is landing the first job and getting to the golden 1 yr experience. Nursing school was a breeze compared to the job search for me - just my two cents.
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    Ok first of all I dont see how pointing out that you are African American has anything to do with wanting to know what nursing school is like. I am from the south as well and maybe the reason why there is a stigma is because people make it that way and always think they are "victims". You said " i know this isnt a big deal".. well if its not a big deal then dont make it a big deal. and " i know this shouldnt be a factor in my education" statement shows that apparently you are making it a factor. And then you continued to say "now that the sad stuff is out of the way".. Are you trying to make somebody feel sorry for you??? Because thats not how its going to work in nursing school. Everybody is equal no matter the color of your skin. Some of my teachers dont even want to hear anything come out of our mouth about anything remotely personal whatsoever. You work your butt off, get no sleep, sacrifice family and friends, and study study study! The end.
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    Quote from firewifeRN
    Ok first of all I dont see how pointing out that you are African American has anything to do with wanting to know what nursing school is like. I am from the south as well and maybe the reason why there is a stigma is because people make it that way and always think they are "victims". You said " i know this isnt a big deal".. well if its not a big deal then dont make it a big deal. and " i know this shouldnt be a factor in my education" statement shows that apparently you are making it a factor. And then you continued to say "now that the sad stuff is out of the way".. Are you trying to make somebody feel sorry for you??? Because thats not how its going to work in nursing school. Everybody is equal no matter the color of your skin. Some of my teachers dont even want to hear anything come out of our mouth about anything remotely personal whatsoever. You work your butt off, get no sleep, sacrifice family and friends, and study study study! The end.
    Just because you can't see how him being AA male has anything to do with the situation only means that you can't see it. Does not mean it does not matter. I'm glad that this is not an issue for you, but, speaking from experience, it does matter to some people. And when it matters, it matters BIG time. Please don't insinuate that the OP is creating a problem by being proactive. We can give suggestions and speak from our own place of experience, but cannot tell others from their place of reference. This reminds of a comment made on a sports message board recently....A professional baseball player made reference to a racist remark a fan make to him and a commenter blamed the player for being the kind of person who 'would hear such a remark'. Really?
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    Well said.
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    I would like some advice on a career path and figure here is the best place to start. I am a 42 years old male student in 2nd semester in an ADN program at a Community College in MA. I have done a little research pertaining to careers within the nursing field and kind of like CRNA, but my concern is how long will/does it take to get to that point (RN to CRNA). I am willing to commit the time and effort into it, but at the end of I would like to know that I have enough time to "enjoy" this career move before retirement.
    I would really appreciate some thoughts or posible choices.
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    What many have come to realize is Nursing school takes a lot of your time. Your not only obligated to your schedule, but time at the hospital or clinic to pickup your assignment, care plan writings, lab time to practice your skills.My schedule runs like this. Mon: 3 hr of class, hospital: 2 hr. to pick up my assignment, research:2-3 hr looking up all information for my care plan, study: 3-5 hr for study.Tues: Clinical 530 to 330. Care plan 2-4 hr. study 3-5 hr.It's an investment of time. Don't expect to plan strictly to your class schedule.


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