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No. 30
from dreamon
Old Dec 25, 2008, 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by rph3664 View Post
I forgot to mention that for me, Deal Breaker Numero Uno is that he cannot ever have been divorced, for any reason. Please do not tell me that I'm unreasonable because I've already heard it lots of times.
I won't tell you that, we are all entitled to seek out whatever 'type' of significant other we want. That is our human right. As long as you know that with every year that passes, the amount of men in the 'never been divorced' pool will get smaller and smaller. But they are out there. Good luck!

I wouldn't mind marrying a medical professional. I'm more concerned with their personality than their field. As long as they are gainfully employed in a steady career- they are free to turn in an application!
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No. 31
from rph3664
Old Dec 25, 2008, 04:28 PM

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Originally Posted by dreamon View Post
I won't tell you that, we are all entitled to seek out whatever 'type' of significant other we want. That is our human right. As long as you know that with every year that passes, the amount of men in the 'never been divorced' pool will get smaller and smaller. But they are out there. Good luck!

I wouldn't mind marrying a medical professional. I'm more concerned with their personality than their field. As long as they are gainfully employed in a steady career- they are free to turn in an application!
My reasoning behind that is, "If he had treated his wife better, he would probably still be married to her." And this is something I have heard WAY more from men than I have from women! Keep in mind that I have known quite a few women about whom I have thought, "What if I meet the perfect man, and it turns out he's divorced from a woman like this?"

Some years back, I had a brief relationship with a man who once had a fiancee who dumped him for another woman. Several people said to me, "What if he had married her?" He didn't, okay?

When I was growing up in the 1970s, if someone got divorced, most of the time within a matter of months, the mom and kids were living in a fleabag apartment and she has to work two full-time jobs to pay off all his debts in addition to supporting the kids, while he's acquired a stable of girlfriends and uses the money he should be paying in child support to buy them furs and jewels, and fly them to exotic destinations. And a few years after that, Mr. Wonderful came along and adopted the kids, and they considered him to be their "real" dad. I saw this over and over and over again.

Knowing what I do now, I wonder how many of those Mr. Wonderfuls had previous families they had abandoned and most of us didn't know about.
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No. 32
Old Dec 25, 2008, 04:29 PM

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Originally Posted by rph3664 View Post
I forgot to mention that for me, Deal Breaker Numero Uno is that he cannot ever have been divorced, for any reason. Please do not tell me that I'm unreasonable because I've already heard it lots of times.
That may be a difficult one...the older we get, the more of a chance of divorce, children, etc... My husband had been divorced. He married at an age where he, nor his first wife were mature enough to work in a marriage. I remember him saying he was 22 when wed, divorced when 24. He seemed to have learned so much from it that I wasn't afraid to take the dive with him. We've been married close to 10 years, now, and don't anticipate a seperation (although I might throw him out of the door occasionally when he comes in with muddy shoes like he did 15 minutes ago...).
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No. 33
Old Dec 25, 2008, 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by rph3664 View Post
My reasoning behind that is, "If he had treated his wife better, he would probably still be married to her." And this is something I have heard WAY more from men than I have from women! Keep in mind that I have known quite a few women about whom I have thought, "What if I meet the perfect man, and it turns out he's divorced from a woman like this?"

Some years back, I had a brief relationship with a man who once had a fiancee who dumped him for another woman. Several people said to me, "What if he had married her?" He didn't, okay?

When I was growing up in the 1970s, if someone got divorced, most of the time within a matter of months, the mom and kids were living in a fleabag apartment and she has to work two full-time jobs to pay off all his debts in addition to supporting the kids, while he's acquired a stable of girlfriends and uses the money he should be paying in child support to buy them furs and jewels, and fly them to exotic destinations. And a few years after that, Mr. Wonderful came along and adopted the kids, and they considered him to be their "real" dad. I saw this over and over and over again.

Knowing what I do now, I wonder how many of those Mr. Wonderfuls had previous families they had abandoned and most of us didn't know about.

As mentioned, you do have the absolute right to search for what you want with no exceptions. However, I just wanted to introject and suggest not to group everyone...some people grow out of love, grow apart, are not mature enough, or a host of other reasons to just seperate. And, one thing that you did state that makes sense...do not take what anyone says as face value, investigate for yourself. I guess I am just trying to say that nice, well intentioned people make mistakes as well, and mature into great potential mates.
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No. 34
from rph3664
Old Dec 25, 2008, 04:37 PM

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Originally Posted by pagandeva2000 View Post
That may be a difficult one...the older we get, the more of a chance of divorce, children, etc... My husband had been divorced. He married at an age where he, nor his first wife were mature enough to work in a marriage. I remember him saying he was 22 when wed, divorced when 24. He seemed to have learned so much from it that I wasn't afraid to take the dive with him. We've been married close to 10 years, now, and don't anticipate a seperation (although I might throw him out of the door occasionally when he comes in with muddy shoes like he did 15 minutes ago...).
My sister's 7 years younger than me, also has never been married, and her Deal Breaker Numero Uno is children. That surprised me because she's always wanted to be a mom and cannot have children of her own. I don't think it's so much the children as having to deal with the ex and her (or his, if it's a man marrying a woman with kids) family, which can be problematic and I understand is a common reason why second or later marriages fail - and this includes marriages where the bio parent died.

Thing is, so often when a man marries a woman with kids and the "bonus grandchildren" are embraced by the extended family, the biodad isn't in the picture, nor is his family even if they were married for many years, so that isn't an issue. One often wonders, however, how much of that was the mom's doing, and it wasn't justified, which doesn't make a lot of sense to me when women who have sons do it. How would they like it if he got divorced and the scales were tipped more in her direction, and they lost their grandkids just for being related to him? Happens all the time.
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No. 35
Old Dec 25, 2008, 05:40 PM

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I really am 46. I really have never married. I love life as it is. I cant see having a relationship that might mar perfection. It is as simple as that for me/ Nothing complicated at all.
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No. 36
Old Dec 25, 2008, 08:11 PM

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Yes. As long as I did not have to work directly with them during my shifts.
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No. 37
from dreamon
Old Dec 25, 2008, 09:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Iam46yearsold View Post
I really am 46. I really have never married. I love life as it is. I cant see having a relationship that might mar perfection. It is as simple as that for me/ Nothing complicated at all.
A relationship does 'get in the way' of a smooth life at times, I would agree. But when it is a great relationship with a wonderful significant other- that can't be beat IMO. I find myself imagining being single and free over the next few years and it seems like it will be a fun time, but I am not looking forward to the lonely feelings that sometimes accompany being single. Of course, I know about feeling lonely while in a relationship also.
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No. 38
Old Dec 25, 2008, 09:39 PM

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I don't think I would actively seek-out someone in the medical profession. But if that happened to be what the person did, I wouldnt have a problem with it. Like other people say, sometimes it's nice to just leave work at work.
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No. 39
Old Dec 25, 2008, 10:09 PM

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Originally Posted by rph3664 View Post
I forgot to mention that for me, Deal Breaker Numero Uno is that he cannot ever have been divorced, for any reason. Please do not tell me that I'm unreasonable because I've already heard it lots of times.
So, the poor schlep whose wife cheated on him numerous times is left out in the cold...again.

I like women with rules like this. It makes the weeding-out process lightning fast. NEXT!
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