New interesting abortion poll

Every intellegent argument about why abortion should be legal doesn't come close to the real reason why MOST abortions happen. (And let's be real here ladies since most likely were all women) Picture this, you are a female and not married. You get pregnant, oh crap I don't want a baby now, and with him-no way! Can't believe I'm pregnant, gotta make this go away somehow. And a lot of cases the guy says "heck ya let's do it, I'll give you the money." Females are using it as birth control. How many cases are there really that pertain to incest or saving the life of the mother-in this day of modern medcine. These cases are a small percentage, but for the arguement you would think that every female that walks into Planned Parenthood was either raped by her dad or dying from pregnancy.
Yes I'm sure I'll get slammed for this one, but I've got to be real.

JesusRocks... Well said

I, for one, was SEVERELY castigated for airing my opinion in nursing school. I found the lab to be closed to me and my advisor suddenly unavailable. My most vehement fundamentalist-christian instructor failed me in a performance exam over a technichality after this. All in a state-funded school. I now keep my opinions somewhat more closely guarded. Perhaps others have found this situation, too.

I know Im about to upset some people and Im sorry! If one of my daughters were raped and got pregnant due to the rape--yes I would want her to abort. If one of my daughters were going to die if she had the baby-- again yes I would want her to abort. But if my daughter made the decision to have unprotected sex then she should either raise the baby or give it up for adoption to a loving family who can not have children of there own. Unfortunately too many young women think the abortion clinic is like Dominos Pizza---Buy 10 get your 11th free. Again Im sorry to upset anyone!

No, acrtually, I am the one who got slammed for expecting to get the education I paid for at a state funded school, one that is supposed to be neutral concerning political opinions. Many people share your opinion, and I respect your right to have it. Too bad I don't get this consideration back.

That's the nice thing about this site, we can agree or disagree with respect. I am PRO CHOICE not PRO abortion.

It's really irrelevant why a woman has an abortion. Bottom line is she finds herself pregnant, the baby isn't wanted OR the woman is not in a position to care for the baby. In any case, if the baby were to be born, it would most likely live a miserable life - that's worse than abortion.

Sometimes babies can be adopted if the mother chooses to carry to term, but many babies are those from alcoholic mothers or heroin addicts, crack mom's etc... so those babies aren't "desirable" because they are likely to have health or growth and development problems - so they stay in the hospital until they can be farmed into the foster home system.

What if the mother is just a stupid teenager who thought she could get away with unprotected sex "just this once". So what? Irresponsible yes, stupid yes, but it happens, and not just to teenagers. The outcome is the same, an unwanted baby. There is definitely a stigma to those women who choose to carry to term and then give their baby up for adoption. Most women can't handle the "how could you do that?" questions, "aren't you worried the baby won't find a good home?" or "haven't see you in a while, how is the baby?" BIG social stigma. The mother is now judged to be a unloving, uncaring person, after all "How could any woman just give her child away?"

Its a losing scenario for the pregnant woman who doesn't want the baby. So she chooses abortion.

There probably are those woman who use abortion as a form of birth control, because there are extremes in everything. The majority are just woman who see no other way out than to have a abortion, because if she has the baby and gives it up, family, friend and co-workers now think she is a monster.

Abortion is just sad any way you slice it. I see it as a necessary option - it saves babies from being found in dumpsters, or beaten to "shut them up", or "failure to thrive" because mother can't support it" or whatever.

Don't sit in judgment of others until you've walked a mile in their shoes.

Blessings

Thank you, I agree with you.
However one feels about abortion, I think it is really important that women start listening to each other and actually considering the experience behind the opinions. We need to find better options for preventing both unwanted pregnancy and unwanted abortions. We need better access to RELIABLE birth control.
These are not simple problems and it is a huge error in judgement as well compassion to think that women who have abortions do not think carefully and feel many different emotions before and after having an abortion. To reduce women to cardboard cutout, two-dimentional, mindless, selfish, baby-eaters is an insult to all women and an insult to the belief-trumpeters' ability to think.
It is easy to get behind a two-dimentional image and trumpet far and wide that these (add ethinc, genderal, or other slur) are evil evil. It is easy, but it is not smart, not patriotic, not compassionate.
Please, lets just drop the hate and talk.

I just want to be clear on the fact that I was a teen mom for two of my four children-i had no money-i was with a severely abusive man- i had to quit school-and they were(at the time) unwanted pregnancies---so i do know what it is like to have to make the tough decision to keep a baby---i did choose life for my children and it has been a long and bumpy road---but i now look at my now two teenagers and could not imagine life without them--sometimes responsibility is the best gift ever.

I'm so happy to hear it all worked out for you, and I agree, sometimes responsibility is the best gift, however, not everyone can see the forest through the trees. You made the choice right for you, and I applaud your decision, but not everyone see's that as an option.

I had an abortion when I was a teenager, initially, I wanted the baby, when I told the baby's father, he beat me up. My father was physically abusive, so I was afraid to tell my parents I was pregnant. I had an abortion. For me, that was the best decision. Now, as an adult with life experience behind me, I can certainly see other possible options, but at the time, I couldn't see any other choice. I've always wondered what that child would have been like. I don't, however, beat myself up for my decision.

A nurse friend of mine got pregnant while she and her husband were separated but trying to "work it out". He did not want the baby, ended up skipping town. She didn't want the baby as her youngest was 13 at the time, and she didn't want to have to start "all over" as a single parent. Besides, she was struggling with teenagers to boot. She decided to have the baby and give it up for adoption.

OMG!! You would have though she was a mass murderer or something. The hospital grapevine was "buzzing" with "what kind of nurse gives up her child", her church was less than supportive. She was ostracized - and ended up leaving the area. So, she did what "pro-lifers" want, but still got beat up over it. Was is because she was a professional? a nurse? already the mother of two teenagers? Who knows. Talk about a no win situation.

I keep in touch with her, and I backed her decision 100%. I didn't fault her for it, who am I to judge her?

She is happily divorced, her kids now grown, and she is in a stable relationship. She does not regret her decision, but she has a lot of anger toward those who judged her decision. I don't blame her.

Blessings

thank you for these stories. I am sorry that you had to go through that. I am sorry that your friend had to go through that.

I think a good poll would be "have you had birth control fail?" I don't believe the rates are as effective as they claim, and I don't think that so many abortions are caused by women being flighty and irresponsible. Some, probably, but not most.