I, too, work in the OR. Sometimes special circumstances require a loved one to be in the OR for induction (going under) only, i.e. mental issues, language barrier, age (young, that is), etc. But even in those cases, the person is quickly escorted out before intubation.
I do not know what it is that your husband does for a living, but I can't imagine any spouce even wanting to be present for that. I saw a video of my wife's laparoscopy and I got queezy!! (different when it is your wife!) I would never want to see her under anesthesia, intubated and all.
Also, for every extra person in the OR risks go up. As Lori said, we have a job to do. we cannot have a 'layperson' possibly getting in the way. And if he DOES pass out (or something) then we have two patients to look after. When my patient is in the OR they get my full and undivided attention. They are my one and only concern.
You WILL be safe in the OR!!
When a very sick patient is due for surgery, special time is usually allotted to family to say good bys (at least see you laters). But, in the OR, you have to be REALLY sick (or already dead) to die on the table. It is a different place. Your viatls, if unstable, are treated in the OR.
But - I'm getting far off the subject.
You will be cared for in the OR by the following: At least one scrub (a technician specially trained or a nurse), A circulating nurse (always an RN), an anesthesiologist and/or a nurse anesthetist, the surgeon, and a resident (possibly) if it is a teaching hospital. All these people for just one patient!! It should be so nice on general nursing floors.
Please feel confident that all will be well!!
sorry for any spelling
errors I type fast, and watch the key pad more than the screen!