Younger Nurses: Do you find people dont take you seriously? (semi-rant) - page 4

Ok..so this has been bothering me a lot, but yesterday I had an encounter with a PT and now this is starting to get to me. Just a little rant..and I'd like to know if anyone else feels this way and... Read More

  1. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Quote from TheCommuter
    I just wanted to add one more thing.

    About 2 weeks ago a salesperson was walking door-to-door in the neighborhood and knocked on my door. I answered and he immediately said, "I need to speak to the lady of the house."

    I responded, "You're speaking to her."

    He said, "Oh. I had to make sure, because you looked young."
    Off topic, but I have had that too, and replied, "well sorry you came to the wrong house; no ladies living here" and shut the door. I just hate door to door sales and phone solicitations. I realize people gotta make a buck, but DANG who do they EXPECT is the "lady of the house" ---my mom? (I get that a lot on the phone, "is your mom there"? I must sound young? Anyhow I am known to reply, "nope she is in Chicago about 2000 mi east of me, want her number?" and I hang up.)

    It happens. I just keep my sense of humor about it.
    Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Dec 20, '05
  2. by   gr8rnpjt
    Quote from SmilingBluEyes
    Off topic, but I have had that too, and replied, "well sorry you came to the wrong house; no ladies living here" and shut the door. I just hate door to door sales and phone solicitations. I realize people gotta make a buck, but DANG who do they EXPECT is the "lady of the house" ---my mom? (I get that a lot on the phone, "is your mom there"? I must sound young? Anyhow I am known to reply, "nope she is in Chicago about 2000 mi east of me, want her number?" and I hang up.)

    It happens. I just keep my sense of humor about it.
    SmilingBluEyes, to me you look and talk like Marilyn Monroe, because when I joined allnurses you had the picture of Marilyn in your profile. You always say the right thing and you are a smart and very sensetive woman.
    But when I picture you speaking, I picture Marilyn Monroe
  3. by   Q.
    Quote from asoldierswife05
    I also have been attacked on these boards disagreeing with other nurses on certain issues....their reasoning being that I am young and know nothing about said issues. It is really quite frustrating.

    I may be young, but I am still an intelligent, articulate young woman with thoughts and oppinions about world issues, nursing issues, and life issues.

    Exactly. Most often, especially when I post, the next reply will be "how long have you been a nurse and out of school?" as if that matters what my opinion is.

    I am 32 but still look quite young. I have long straight hair, always have, and alot of times when I was staffing patients would ask if I was their nursing assistant or if I was a student, especially when wearing it back in a ponytail. It was very frustrating.

    In my current role, I think it's even more difficult because I'm in a position where my opinion should be counted and I make recommendations/decisions at a very high organizational level that impacts alot of departments and people. I've found that I often have to "over-dress" just so they will see past my youth and the long hair. And no, I don't want to get it cut.

    People are always shocked when they find out my real age. And even MORE blown away when they find out I'm a mom!
    Last edit by Q. on Dec 20, '05
  4. by   nurse4theplanet
    You know that saying, a few bad apples ruin the whole bunch. Well, that seems to be the case when it comes to age. Since there are so many young people you see in the media that are not driven, just out to party, and don't feel they will suffer any consequences....the sterotype gets placed on us all.
  5. by   Emery
    Quote from following_faith

    But just think-we are going to look so HOT when we are in our 50's!!:chuckle

    Well said, my friend, well said. lol. :chuckle I have the exact same problem. You just have to prove them wrong. It isn't always easy, but it can be done. I am 20 and even at work now (fast food) people think I'm 13 or 14. It isn't because we look young, but because we are short (I am 4 feet 10 inches tall). They are only looking at our height. I used to get really upset, but not any more. Have any of you had to problem of people being rude about it? You can actually have fun with it..... (I am known for being a jokester) :-D

    Emery
  6. by   MIA-RN1
    I am 36 and my son is 17 and you should see the reactions I get when I mention it lol At the job I worked the summer, I had all the young guys hitting on me til I finally made a point of mentioning my son's age and the fact I have been married for quite some time.
    When I am in my student whites, with my hair back in a ponytail and very little makeup, patients have actually asked me if I am fresh out of high school. (Don't I wish lol)
    A woman came to my door once and asked to speak to my mother!
    I got carded for a lottery ticket this past summer, I was with my kids, and the guy apologized and thought that I was my son's girlfriend! IIck lol
    I find that I have to carry myself a certain way to get looked at like I know what I am doing. I tend to smile and make little jokes which is fine but I have to be extra-serious when seriousness is called for because its the only way for people to see that I do know what I am doing, I am not a 17 y/o high school student anymore. Not by a long shot! Its that darned ponytail but if I cut my hair short its even worse lol
  7. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Quote from gr8rnpjt
    SmilingBluEyes, to me you look and talk like Marilyn Monroe, because when I joined allnurses you had the picture of Marilyn in your profile. You always say the right thing and you are a smart and very sensetive woman.
    But when I picture you speaking, I picture Marilyn Monroe
    rofl I wish. Unless Marilyn was ever a woman with long curly waist-length red hair and blue eyes.....and only 5 feet 2.

    I am no Marilyn Monroe. But I sure do love her.

    And thank you for the kind remarks about my posts. That made my day. I am VERY sensitive but smart? The jury still out on that one...but I would take smart over pretty nowadays.
  8. by   loquacity
    If this is the case for you guys, I'll have the same problem. Im currently 17, and will be 17 for part of my first clinicals, which start in 2 weesk or so. My birthday is is (was?) right before the cut off date to be in the grade i was in during school years. I am the youngest in my class (att uni) and was almost always the yougest in my calsses at high svhool. lol

    I just thought after reading all these, what if somethig went wrong and i had to eb held legally liabl;e, could they even hold me laible, b4 im 18. lol.

    I've been told at tiem i looked 15, when i havn't done my hair and didn't ahve my glasses on, but yesterday i was told i looked 21 with my glasses on and hair done. Im not tall (for a guy) i'm only 5'8, but im taller than msot of my class.

    but if i have problems, meh, i dont care all that much.
    maybe im young, but i've woekred my but off my whole life.
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  11. by   christvs
    I'm nearly 29 years old & have been an RN for 6 months now. A lot of the time people ask me "So when are you graduating from school?" or "You look about 20, right?" I don't mind it too much because I think I'm getting to the point where I wish I were a bit younger! But I can see your point that you want to be taken seriously. Fortunately for me, the same people who think I'm much younger than I really am still do listen to me and follow my advice.
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  13. by   vamedic4
    Quote from MeghanRN
    Ok..so this has been bothering me a lot, but yesterday I had an encounter with a PT and now this is starting to get to me. Just a little rant..and I'd like to know if anyone else feels this way and how you deal with it.

    Little backround on me: I'm 22, and def. look younger then I am. I worked for 2 years as a student nurse aide, 3 months in PA as a RN on a peds/med-surg floor, and now im here in Texas doing Peds home health. I have had my fair share of experiences, and although I know im not an expert, I'm most certainly not a novice. Therefore..it bothers me when people never take me seriously that I'm a nurse.

    Yesterday I took my patient to PT, and the PT and I were talking, and she asks about me and my backround. And so I tell her, and shes like " Oh you must be a LPN then.." (NO disrespect meant to LPNS here WHATSOEVER!) No ma'am, I'm an RN, yes I have my bachelors, yes I went to school for 4 years, and yes I have experience ( Now i didnt tell her that, just told her that I was an RN, but thats what I wanted to say).. she just seemed so shocked..and shes not the only one who is shocked that I'm a RN. She was kind of just the last straw since this wasnt the first time..

    I've had lots of people seem to not take me seriously that I'm a nurse, and this frustrates me. I just hate when people find out I'm a nurse and say- not ask- they say "you must be an LPN then". I worked hard for my bachelors..ugh..just ask me what I am and i'll gladly tell u! With each new job..I pretty much get asked how old I am every time...

    So..after this rant, since this has been on my mind all day..I feel better.
    Does anyone else experience this? I want to be taken seriously..not looked at like I must not know much about nursing since I look younger and therefore have no experience. I'm really just curious as to opinions and what you all think..

    I dont want to stir anything up,but I'm just frustrated and needed to vent. thanks for responses in advance!

    I totally feel your pain. Years ago (18 to be exact), I was a 17 year old freshman nursing student and boyyyy did I look young. People often mistook me for a "candy striper" or any other form of hospital volunteer. I can't tell you how many patients told me "oh, honey you don't look any older than 13!!" (That's great genes for ya... ) So anyway....
    With each encounter I realized that as long as I addressed the patient with respect and explained who I was and why I was there, they were more accepting of my youthful appearance.

    Just keep doing what you're doing. Professionalism speaks volumes to patients and their families.

    And have a great day!!

    vamedic4

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