You won't believe.....

nurseprnRN, BSN, RN · Oct 10, 2013

This student's response was probably born the bastard child of poor impulse control and immaturity, midwifed by a nurse cousin or auntie who told her not to go to nursing school using that hoary old line, now lamentably implanted in her loosely-functioning frontal lobe.

I'll bet dollars to doughnuts she went into the bathroom and berated herself for saying something so stupid.

Maybe next time you see her you can invite her to laugh a little bit about it..and remind her about having two ears and one mouth so you can listen twice as much as you speak.

LadyFree28, BSN, LPN, RN · Oct 10, 2013

After the comment from the student about nurses eating their young my response would have been "now that you have my full attention let's go find your instructor and explain to her your rudeness and how interrupting me isn't a good way to introduce yourself to someone"

THIS. :yes:

I think it is time for popcorn.

...and this...waiting for the microwave to ding!

cardiacfreak, ADN · Oct 10, 2013

Maybe it's because I'm older, maybe it's the area in which I live, but I have to say that the students that come to our hospital are getting ruder and ruder. I have not forgotten what it was like to be a student and I love to teach, I don't believe in being hard on newcomers I believe that it is part of my job to teach them. A couple of weeks ago we had a new group of students who arrived to the floor with their instructor and took over the nurses station. It was around 0630 and my nurses were doing their final chart checks prior to day shift arriving, the students along with the instructor grabbed charts and sat at all but 2 computers one of which was our unit secretary's. Never would I have been allowed to take charts without asking and use a computer without consent when I was a student. I asked the instructor if she could use just 2 of the computers so my nurses could finish with their charting using the other 2 computers. You would have thought I asked them to leave. They got up, however, I was told that I was getting very hateful looks behind my back.

When I was in nursing school I would have never taken charts and seats without asking partly because my instructors would have gone ape*@!#.

NanikRN · Oct 11, 2013

. Goodness this thread has exploded. I don't feel I was rude. Perhaps mumbling was an exaggeration -- I was certainly loud enough to be heard .

I used a pleasant but distracted tone. But I was clearly occupied with something when she entered the break room

I cannot fathom accusing someone I've met all of 2 minutes of eating the young nurses

Flatlander · Oct 11, 2013

During my orientation, a nurse on my unit commented openly to no one in particular about what a pain her new nurse orientee had been the night before. I couldn't help shooting her a look. In my book, it is not okay to put another colleague down in conversation with others, or anywhere for that matter. But this reaction on my part probably helped seal my fate as a has-been in that facility.

Why do people have to be so mean? I sense a twisted satisfaction and glee in those who enjoy making others feel small. Draw your own conclusions on the psychology. It's just plain unprofessional and should not be tolerated, especially not in a place dedicated to healing. End of rant.

lmccrn62, MSN, RN · Oct 11, 2013

. Goodness this thread has exploded. I don't feel I was rude. Perhaps mumbling was an exaggeration -- I was certainly loud enough to be heard . I used a pleasant but distracted tone. But I was clearly occupied with something when she entered the break room I cannot fathom accusing someone I've met all of 2 minutes of eating the young nurses

It's all perception and the student you were rude towards her. Perhaps we need to be more mindful how we respond.

HHN2472 · Oct 11, 2013

After the comment from the student about nurses eating their young my response would have been "now that you have my full attention let's go find your instructor and explain to her your rudeness and how interrupting me isn't a good way to introduce yourself to someone"

I would have taken the response from the student as a joke, and it was probably intended to be one from the less than warm response of a "mumbled hi".... It probably went downhill from there. As a RN and as the preceptor you are in a position to engage your students and acknowledge their presence... Can't think of any document so important that when a student or anyone for that matter said hello and I didn't take a hot second and smile and say hi. Honey and vinegar I guess. We all have a choice and one gets you further so I have seen. I actually don't blame the student on this but I was raised with manners so....

nursegali · Oct 11, 2013

She was brave! I agree with some others though, you could have been friendlier to her! Had she not been a student would you have greeted her in the same manor? She is right though, some nurses are so nasty to students! Some really get on my nerves (students) but I try to stay polite and remember we where all students at one time!

NanikRN · Oct 11, 2013

I actually don't blame the student on this but I was raised with manners so...

Really? Hmmm not using them now based on above response

Let me be clear--she was not in clinical that day- I was not her preceptor that day---she was gathering information for the next day. I did respond to her Perhaps not the way she wanted but I did respond...and yes the document was important enough to command my full attention

itrust · Oct 11, 2013

Oh boy. And I congratulate you on your ability to restrain yourself for pounding that clueless twit into next week.
Did I say that out loud??

Why did the student deserve a "pounding"? Indeed the student's comment was premature, but everyone knows what it feels like to walk into a store/unfamiliar territory and feel less than welcomed. I agree with the underlying insinuation that perception is not everything, but I think people gravely underestimate the impact their interactions have on people.

Palliative Care, DNP · Oct 11, 2013

I think this whole scenario is being blown out of proportion. I wouldn't have given a second thought to her remark if what you were working on was so involved. Truth be told she will meet the new grad experience soon enough & inevitably meet someone who does "eat their young". Chances are it will be an eye opener!

Bortaz, MSN, RN · Oct 11, 2013

Can't think of any document so important that when a student or anyone for that matter said hello and I didn't take a hot second and smile and say hi.

I dunno, apparently those 50 Shades of Grey are hard to put down for some chicks.