Are you looking at me?

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A friend of mine sent me this and I wanted to share as a gentle reminder for all of us who work in the health care field:

When an old man died in the geriatric ward of a nursing home in North Platte, Nebraska, it was believed that he had nothing left of any value.

Later, when the nurses were going through his meager possessions, they found this poem. Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the ...hospital. One nur...se took her copy to Missouri.

The old man's... sole bequest to posterity has since appeared in the Christmas edition of the News Magazine of the St. Louis Assoc. for Mental Health. A slide presentation has also been made based on his simple, but eloquent, poem.

And this little old man, with nothing left to give to the world, is now the author of this 'anonymous' poem winging across the Internet.

Crabby Old Man

What do you see nurses? .. . . . . What do you see?

What are you thinking . . . . . when you're looking at me?

A crabby old man . . . . . not very wise,

Uncertain of habit . . . . . with faraway eyes?

Who dribbles his food . . . . . and makes no reply.

When you say in a loud voice .. . . . . 'I do wish you'd try!'

Who seems not to notice . . . . . the things that you do.

And forever is losing . . . . . A sock or shoe?

Who, resisting or not . . . . . lets you do as you will,

With bathing and feeding . . . . . The long day to fill?

Is that what you're thinking? . . . . . Is that what you see?

Then open your eyes, nurse . . .. . . you're not looking at me.

I'll tell you who I am. . . . . . As I sit here so still,

As I do at your bidding, . . . . . as I eat at your will.

I'm a small child of Ten . . . . .. with a father and mother,

Brothers and sisters .. . . . . who love one another.

A young boy of Sixteen . . . . with wings on his feet.

Dreaming that soon now . .. . . . a lover he'll meet.

A groom soon at Twenty . . .. . . my heart gives a leap.

Remembering, the vows . . . . . that I promised to keep.

At Twenty-Five, now . . . . . I have young of my own.

Who need me to guide . . . . . And a secure happy home.

A man of Thirty . . .. . .. My young now grown fast,

Bound to each other . . . . . With ties that should last.

At Forty, my young sons . . . . . have grown and are gone,

But my woman's beside me . . . . .. to see I don't mourn.

At Fifty, once more, babies play 'round my knee,

Again, we know children .. . . . . My loved one and me.

Dark days are upon me . . . . . my wife is now dead.

I look at the future . . . . . shudder with dread.

For my young are all rearing . . . . . young of their own.

And I think of the years . . . . . and the love that I've known.

I'm now an old man . . . . . and nature is cruel.

'Tis jest to make old age . . . . . look like a fool.

The body, it crumbles . . . . . grace and vigor, depart.

There is now a stone . . . . where I once had a heart.

But inside this old carcass . . . . . a young guy still dwells,

And now and again . . . . . my battered heart swells.

I remember the joys . . . . . I remember the pain.

And I'm loving and living . . .. . . life over again.

I think of the years, all too few . . . . . gone too fast.

And accept the stark fact . . . . that nothing can last.

So open your eyes, people . . . . .. open and see.

Not a crabby old man . . . Look closer . . . see ME!!

Remember this poem when you next meet

an older person who you might brush aside

without looking at the young soul within.

http://www.truthorfiction.com/rumors/c/crabby-old-man.htm

not a bad poem, but the back story is pure fiction. here's a link to the poem on the author's website:

1) this poem came out in the 70s-- i saw it for the first time in, i think, ajn, when i was in college, and i had a copy over my desk for years.

2) it is often titled "(a) crabbit old woman." it has circulated around the internet for years, decades.

3) it was not found in the belongings of an old lady who died in a nursing home in england/scotland/anywhere else. (and this is the first time i have ever seen it altered and attributed to an old man in nebraska.) it was not given to every nurse in the facility or every nurse graduating from a particular school. it was not brought from scotland/england/wherever to this country/canada/wherever, and as far as i can determine it has not been reproduced as described. the "winging over the internet" i'll give you:).

4) it does not earn money for the resident's activity fund or the british vna or anybody else every time it is sent out.

yet powerful words, worthy of remembering.

i believe that to be the larger message here.

leslie

Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.

You are right Leslie......it's worth remembering. When I read posts sometimes I think that newer nurses need to be reminded that beneath all those chronic diagnosis's is a very real human being and we sometimes need to be reminded. There was a recent threat about those chronic patients

https://allnurses.com/general-nursing-discussion/chronic-illness-640875.html

I too have seen the original but this one was sent to me by a young nurse that I have mentored and at one time needed to remind her that beneath what is percieved as that frequent flyers that are non-compliant PIA's is a young person trapped beneath a list of meds.....Thanks everyone for your responses! :)

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