You know you've been a nurse for too long when..........

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My first thought last night when I got my patient's blood all over my scrubs was, bugger, I am going to have to do my laundry tonight now, instead of tomorrow. No consideration of how awful it looked, or that I should really change, just having to do my laundry at midnight.

We had an inservice about patients who are ejected from motor vehicles and the educator showed a particularly horrific ejection video. I was saying to the person sitting next to me, "is that limp bizkit?", the music in the video was familiar. The educator says to me later, "I show something like that and your mind is immediately at what music is playing"?. Um, yeah.

My neighbours' daughter came over unannounced with her boyfriend the other (friday) night, she is 19, tearful and anxious and telling me about her belly pain and some urinary/lady partsl symptoms. I ask her, in front of her boyfriend (with her permission) whether she showers or goes to the toilet straight after sex, about her menstrual cycles, what pill she is on, when was her last smear, any smelly discharge and so on. I tell her on numerous occasions that I am NOT a doctor, which doesn't seem to sink in. Ultimately, 2 hours later after mum has arrived and basic vital signs have been taken, belly palpated, over the counter painkillers and urinary alkalisers administered, she decides to go to the doctor tomorrow and not go to the ED. Incidentally, suspected UTI confirmed the next day by GP. I remember saying to her, you have to ask yourself, is this an emergency?. The whole time she was here I was thinking, I just want to finish painting my bloody loungeroom and clean up! Is that wrong?

I often think about how my thought patterns and attitudes about things have changed over the years, my responses to situations. The funny thing is, I am particularly sensitive and emotional, I'm a crier. Maybe now I just know that I have seen enough to know that I will never see it all. What are your stories?.

@billyboblewis well aren't you the judgemental one, i see you have no problem because your very cold hearted. first of all the question was have you been a nurse to long, not do you mix your personal life with your professional life. obviously i don't if you read my post correctly, i simply stated that i don't let my emotions out as easily as i use to. people handle their grief differently, not crying is not a reason to seek counseling, i grieved for my mom i just thought it was unusual to not cry for her.

well aren't you the judgemental one, I see you have no problem because your very cold hearted. People handle their grief differently, not crying is not a reason to seek counseling, I grieved for my mom I just thought it was unusual to not cry for her.

I am sure that you spent time with your Mom as she was going through her sickness, and I am sure that being your biggest fan, you were able to spend a lot of quality time with her. Sometimes, that puts people at some point of peace when the end comes (and the cancer your Mom had is such a nasty disease).

You still think of her fondly, and that is lovely, and keeps her memory alive inside of you. And you continue to do work that she was so proud of, and is in itself, so very difficult. You have been through one of the most heartwrenching things, losing a parent, so you certainly are in such an amazing postion to help the loved ones. And somehow, I think that she is still watching over you, proud of the nurse you have become!! So yes, everyone does grieve differently, but I think our personal lives help us to be able to cope with how we provide care to patients. It may be unusual not to cry tears, however, it makes you no less of a son.

Excuse me for not being clear but I was referring to the letter which was at the beginning of this thread.. I have concern for all people but do not see the need to discuss my opinion of their health with them as soon as I see them. People I know dont strip in gas stations and ask for my opinion. I really didnt see anything in the opening letter referring to grief. I have an excuse though I am recovering from brain surgery so I dont have all the sense I use to or memory.

Specializes in Peds Medical Floor.
My mom died in 0ctober 2011, i loved her very much , she was my #1 fan. Of all the women I have known in my life (I am male), she was the sweetest, kindest and most caring and not just to me but to everyone. She did not have a mean bone in her body, anyone who met her loved her. People often thought she was too good to be true. She suffered pancreatic cancer and luckily for her it did not torture her for very long. I still have'nt cried one tear for her. I attribute this to being a nurse and knowing that death is a part of life. I miss her very much and often wish I could cry for her, I guess I just feel I was lucky enough to have for 53 years. I have been an RN for two years with pediatric ICU, Hospice, Psychiatric hospital care and nursing home care experience. I guess it only took two years to make me emotionally as tough as nails. I don't think I have been a nurse to long because I care very much for my patients but I wonder if I would have cried for my mom had I not been a nurse, hows that for a story.

For my grandparents, I found that when I heard the diagnosis I would cry because I knew what was coming. IDK if I made peace with my sadness that way or what because I usually didn't cry much when they actually passed. It was a bit of a blessing to me because none of them suffered as much as I've seen some people suffer.

When your fourth grade child takes in an Anatomy book because "we're doing the human body in science class". Then you get a call from the teacher thanking you but explaining the cadaver pictures were "a bit much".

Telling your kids "if it's not bleeding, don't bother me"

Arguing with the dog's doctor over her condition because you've seen it in your patients and know the outcome isn't good. And unfortunately being proved right six weeks later (happened to a co-worker)

Specializes in Emergency, Haematology/Oncology.
My mom died in 0ctober 2011, i loved her very much , she was my #1 fan. Of all the women I have known in my life (I am male), she was the sweetest, kindest and most caring and not just to me but to everyone. She did not have a mean bone in her body, anyone who met her loved her. People often thought she was too good to be true. She suffered pancreatic cancer and luckily for her it did not torture her for very long. I still have'nt cried one tear for her. I attribute this to being a nurse and knowing that death is a part of life. I miss her very much and often wish I could cry for her, I guess I just feel I was lucky enough to have for 53 years. I have been an RN for two years with pediatric ICU, Hospice, Psychiatric hospital care and nursing home care experience. I guess it only took two years to make me emotionally as tough as nails. I don't think I have been a nurse to long because I care very much for my patients but I wonder if I would have cried for my mom had I not been a nurse, hows that for a story.

I understand what you're getting at and it's part of the reason I started the thread. I too often wonder about my emotional reactions to certain situations. Warm hugs for the loss of your number one fan, I daren't presume to know how awful it is. I am fortunate to still have both my number one fans. My neighbour passed away this past year, he was 93. I couldn't go to his funeral, or go and see him when he was sick, I just didn't want to, so, I shed a tear and said goodbye in my own way. I think that maybe if I wasn't a nurse I might have been able to, I just didn't want to see him dying. One of my best friends died suddenly and I spent years blaming myself before actually grieving for him. I think a lot of our emotional responses have to do with self protection. We share our compassion and love day in, day out and I agree, we get tough but I think that's because we have to :)

I did my income tax refund check that way once.

Signed the closing on our house, "MegEDRN, RN." Dated it, "mm/dd/yy 0930."

@billyboblewis well aren't you the judgemental one, i see you have no problem because your very cold hearted. first of all the question was have you been a nurse to long, not do you mix your personal life with your professional life. obviously i don't if you read my post correctly, i simply stated that i don't let my emotions out as easily as i use to. people handle their grief differently, not crying is not a reason to seek counseling, i grieved for my mom i just thought it was unusual to not cry for her.

i don't let my emotions out as easily ( never did it easily) as before either. i talked to some nurses i know about this before and most agreed. is it kind of like being jaded, nothing fades you any more. ?

Specializes in Neuro-Surgery, Med-Surg, Home Health.

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"I was saying to the person sitting next to me, "is that limp bizkit?", the music in the video was familiar."

You've been a nurse too long (aka Old-er Nurse) when:

1. This is the first time you've heard of "Limp Bizkit."

2. You have more aches and pain than your patients.

3. You are older than the hospital administrator.

4. Your patient complained of constipation and you tell your patient, "I know how you feel."

5. During your annual avaluation your nurse manager asked you about your professional plan for the next 5 years and you answered, "What plan?"

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Specializes in I/DD.
When I take my children to the doctor and I start off with SBAR and the doctor tells me "so you want this for this patient? Ok, do you have that writen for me to sign?":coollook:

I call the vet with SBAR format. They have to appreciate it though, right? I think everyone should use SBAR when they are trying to address a problem...

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~Watch a C-section (live) and talk about having just had tomato soup for lunch, without feeling the least bit queasy.

~Strain slimy green stool for gall stones and chew skittles

~Ask the Dr. "what do you want me to do with all the maggots?" (referring to a wound care patient whose lower legs are infested).....by the way his response was "leave um in there they might do some good"

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