Would you take a job with lower pay and lesser benefits if you thought it would help? - page 8

So, right now, I'm frustrated. I recently took a full time job at the SNF I have been working at for 18 months. This means I left my other job as a tech, at an employer where I received excellent... Read More

  1. by   Ben_Dover
    Quote from purplegal
    Definitely not a troll. Although I only "officially" have major depression and anxiety, I do wonder myself if there's something else. Sometimes I'm very logical and like most people. But other times, I'm very irrational, either with grandiose thoughts and expectations or doom and gloom. It's amazing how fast my mind switches modes and not in a good way.
    I wasn't surprised when the world "TROLL" got your attention and now you're even able to claim that you have some dramarama in your life, whilst all this time, some concerned members have been wondering if you're simply high, is seeking professional counseling or something. LOL

    Socially, I imagine you as some who is very submissive, introvert kind of type, and someone who's always helpful by trying to please others. Co-workers would describe you as ok and always smiling. More importantly, I still think that you are not a fully pledged Registered Nurse.

    But from this point on whether you're an actual registered/licensed nurse or a frustrated aspiring RN or an ECG tech is now irrelevant. because I still sense you're simply toying and trolling with our emotions cause you get a kick out of it!

    The beauty of it all, you're adding color and controversy to allnurses.com and the moderators are loving it.... it's income generating for the site.

    For now, I rest my case: The defendant is found to be "Tripolar!"

    P.s.
    still haven't answered the question from a long time ago.... Is it Purp Legal or just plain old purple gal!? Big difference, I may say! If it ain't the latter, that means you're not having enough.
  2. by   macawake
    Quote from Ben_Dover
    P.s.
    still haven't answered the question from a long time ago.... Is it Purp Legal or just plain old purple gal!? Big difference, I may say! If it ain't the latter, that means you're not having enough.
    Trust a guy named Ben Dover to psychoanalyze and look for hidden meanings in usernames.....

    Quote from Ben_Dover
    I wasn't surprised when the world "TROLL" got your attention and now you're even able to claim that you have some dramarama in your life, whilst all this time, some concerned members have been wondering if you're simply high, is seeking professional counseling or something. LOL

    Socially, I imagine you as some who is very submissive, introvert kind of type, and someone who's always helpful by trying to please others. Co-workers would describe you as ok and always smiling. More importantly, I still think that you are not a fully pledged Registered Nurse.

    But from this point on whether you're an actual registered/licensed nurse or a frustrated aspiring RN or an ECG tech is now irrelevant. because I still sense you're simply toying and trolling with our emotions cause you get a kick out of it!

    For now, I rest my case: The defendant is found to be "Tripolar!"
    Seriously though, if you're right you've already made your point in previous post. If you're wrong, you are in my opinion being unnecessarily hurtful. Is it worth it?

    I assume that all of us responding in this thread are adults. We all know it's the internet and if our emotions were so easily toyed with, we probably shouldn't be participating in threads. Just my 0.02...

    /off soap box
  3. by   purplegal
    Quote from Ben_Dover
    I wasn't surprised when the world "TROLL" got your attention and now you're even able to claim that you have some dramarama in your life, whilst all this time, some concerned members have been wondering if you're simply high, is seeking professional counseling or something. LOL

    Socially, I imagine you as some who is very submissive, introvert kind of type, and someone who's always helpful by trying to please others. Co-workers would describe you as ok and always smiling. More importantly, I still think that you are not a fully pledged Registered Nurse.

    But from this point on whether you're an actual registered/licensed nurse or a frustrated aspiring RN or an ECG tech is now irrelevant. because I still sense you're simply toying and trolling with our emotions cause you get a kick out of it!

    The beauty of it all, you're adding color and controversy to allnurses.com and the moderators are loving it.... it's income generating for the site.

    For now, I rest my case: The defendant is found to be "Tripolar!"

    P.s.
    still haven't answered the question from a long time ago.... Is it Purp Legal or just plain old purple gal!? Big difference, I may say! If it ain't the latter, that means you're not having enough.
    Lol, your description of me is pretty accurate with the exception that I am a "fully pledged registered nurse." I got my RN license three years ago.

    Also it's purple gal. My favorite color is purple.
  4. by   Ben_Dover
    Quote from macawake
    Trust a guy named Ben Dover to psychoanalyze and look for hidden meanings in usernames.....



    Seriously though, if you're right you've already made your point in previous post. If you're wrong, you are in my opinion being unnecessarily hurtful. Is it worth it?

    I assume that all of us responding in this thread are adults. We all know it's the internet and if our emotions were so easily toyed with, we probably shouldn't be participating in threads. Just my 0.02...

    /off soap box
    My most recent post wasn't an attack or to insult the OP, it was more of a comical reply than anything else. I think the OP will find it more amusing.

    And Yass!!!! I love my Handle!!! Ben Dover FOR The World! And yes I'm an adult who tries to have fun and am someone who's not trying to take things too seriously!


    P.s. Macawake --- FYI, I never judged or haven't judged Purplegal from this topic alone, I never once said that she has mental issues; and not even once I told the OP that she needs some treatment or have given her an advice that I would actually think as insulting and intrussive.

    The only two words that I said - was that she was toying and trolling, which for some reason she responded or as I mentioned got her attention.

    Again, I never said anywhere that she requires some sort of psych counseling nor she has a problem. So tell me, if I was really being hurtful, if anything I was protecting myself and the OP's feelings. Hence, making something light out of this topic, while most members have already crucified her as having a mental problem.

    Again, the only time she "claims" that she has depression and anxiety was when a few of us noted the word troll.

    She's been already judged by most members here and that includes you by giving her an advice that she's not even asking for and has nothing to do with her original topic or intention.

    I don't see purplegal as being stupid. She will seek help for mental health problems if she wants to and clearly, that's not what she's here for!!! Again, if anything, maybe she's here to simply punk'd AN members!

    I think and analyze before I speak.
    Last edit by Ben_Dover on Nov 14 : Reason: Hope the op is given a chance to speak before this gets shutdown
  5. by   Agatha12
    I may be wrong of course but all the time I feel like purplegal is not a troll but a woman with some mental issues.
  6. by   purplegal
    And as bad as it sounds, I hope this experience is worth it in that it will lead to a job which will help me afford things I want. Housing is getting extremely expensive, it seems there's an extreme increase in the number of houses that are $500,000 or more. While I don't expect a house like that, it would be nice to one day buy a house that wasn't built in the 1970s or 1980s. Not sure how they're doing it, but some classmates of mine are buying houses well over $300,000. One bought a new house and an expensive camper in one year. No way I can do that, not with this job.
  7. by   purplegal
    Quote from macawake
    Trust a guy named Ben Dover to psychoanalyze and look for hidden meanings in usernames.....



    Seriously though, if you're right you've already made your point in previous post. If you're wrong, you are in my opinion being unnecessarily hurtful. Is it worth it?

    I assume that all of us responding in this thread are adults. We all know it's the internet and if our emotions were so easily toyed with, we probably shouldn't be participating in threads. Just my 0.02...

    /off soap box
    He's not right about some things but I also wasn't too offended by his post. It's all good.
  8. by   Daisy Joyce
    Right now in my life I need the money, first and foremost. But in about five to ten years, that will change and then I'll be picky-choosy
  9. by   purplegal
    2017 is a year I would like to delete from my life. Things didn't go the way they should have.
  10. by   Ben_Dover
    Quote from purplegal
    "Lol", your description of me is pretty accurate with the exception that I am a "fully pledged registered nurse." I got my RN license three years ago.

    Also it's purple gal. My favorite color is purple.
    Thanks for re-affirming. The "LOL" says it all....My point exactly!
  11. by   pixierose
    Quote from purplegal
    And as bad as it sounds, I hope this experience is worth it in that it will lead to a job which will help me afford things I want. Housing is getting extremely expensive, it seems there's an extreme increase in the number of houses that are $500,000 or more. While I don't expect a house like that, it would be nice to one day buy a house that wasn't built in the 1970s or 1980s. Not sure how they're doing it, but some classmates of mine are buying houses well over $300,000. One bought a new house and an expensive camper in one year. No way I can do that, not with this job.
    I get it. If you had the ICU job you'd be in the field of your dreams while making a ton of money. You'd be able to afford that $450,000 house in the suburbs with a white picket fence, and soon after your boyfriend will propose. You'll start an amazing life together, all thanks to your job as an ICU nurse.

    Stop!

    Stop comparing yourself to other people. Maybe they can't afford that house? People purchase things all the time that they can't afford.

    And even if they could afford the house, you don't know their financial picture.

    (Not even going into the 1970s/80s home)

    Your idealized lifestyle ... the job, now a house ... comparing yourself to classmates ... you need to process 2017 in a healthy way. You can't do it alone and a forum is no place to truly seek assistance (ESP since you don't take anyone's advice anyway).
  12. by   quiltynurse56
    Quote from purplegal
    Definitely not a troll. Although I only "officially" have major depression and anxiety, I do wonder myself if there's something else. Sometimes I'm very logical and like most people. But other times, I'm very irrational, either with grandiose thoughts and expectations or doom and gloom. It's amazing how fast my mind switches modes and not in a good way.
    This leads me to wonder if you might be BiPolar. You may want to be re-evaluated on your depression and anxiety and explore that option.

    I also understanding wanting to "delete" a period of time. Since you want to, leave it in your past and forget about it, though learn from the mistakes.

    I worked for 2 years mainly LTC. Now I work a combination of LTC and Skilled. When I go to work, I have 2 halls, one LTC and one Skilled. While the LTC hall has many more patients, it is my Skilled hall the keeps me busiest. I also deal with lab work much more on those halls. I am having to relearn to focus on those as well as the overall picture for each patient.

    I am one who thought I would hate doing what I am doing and even started out not being sure of it, but you know, I have grown to love it. With my Skilled patients, being able to see them improve and discharge to home. With my LTC ones, just knowing that they are getting good care leaves one with a feeling of accomplishment.

    But as I said in the first of my post, get your mental health issues re-evaluated and treated so your moods don't swing as much.
  13. by   CardiacDork
    I saw one of your posts you mentioned how much you love sleep and how you can't wait to retire to sleep and sleep.
    Are you sure you aren't depressed? It's okay if you are and there's nothing wrong with that, but maybe consider talking with someone.

    edit: Just noticed you’re aware of your depression. Hope you get the help you need.

    Depression is very debilitating and can make you self doubt. I wouldn’t pay too much mind to people on here that don’t know you personally but I would seek help from someone professional. To help YOU figure out what’s going on.

    I can tell you that depression can take a toll on you but with the right therapy you can escape it’s grip. Even if you have to keep searching for the right therapy.

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