Would you recommend nursing to your daughter? - page 6

My daughter is 17 and graduating this spring and plans on going to college this fall. She has expressed a desire to go into nursing but I really have a problem encouraging her to do this. I don't... Read More

  1. by   marybethm
    In my 24 years as a nurse I have worked overseas, I've worked in the hospital setting (ER, med surg and CCU) it was great when my kids were little and I could work nights or pm's, as a school nurse, been a camp nurse (where I got to take my kids for free) and agency nurse. I don't know any other career that offers this kind of diversity. I have learned so much from nursing. I would absolutely recommend nursing to my daughter....there's NOTHING like a good nurse.
  2. by   TXNurseBSN
    NO, as a caring parent....I want something better for my daughters!
  3. by   glenwood
    Your daughter has just paid you a serious compliment. You have been a real role model to her. Recognise it. Don't discourage her but tell her to keep her options open. If she studies hard and takes the classes in college to get into nursing she will have a lot of choices to purse other fields.

    Children often change as they grow up and in ten years it is very likely nursing will have evolved into a better job. There are so many different areas of nursing that even a shy person can find a nitch. Plus nursing education may help her become less shy and right now she may be aspiring to get over her shyness.I recenly precepted a painfully shy nursing student and we hard on getting him comfortable interacting with our pathient population. He decided he wanted to go into OR or recovery room which doesn't require as much pathient interaction but he started to enjoy being more sociable and outgoing.
  4. by   jollyjenny
    OMG! I'm in tears right now! I have worked my but off to finish my prerequisites and I'm SUPPOSED to start nursing school in the fall! I am extremely upset and scared after reading this thread!! Yes, I've heard all of the "burn out" stories and the famous "nurses eat their young" stories, but this thread is just downright awful! I actually changed my major from radiologic technology with my main goal to become a sonographer-to nursing! I thought that since nursing offers way more hands-on patient care than sonography does, it would be more appealing to me. But now? Most of you say there is no way you would encourage your children to go into nursing. GREAT! I honestly feel like I could be making a huge mistake now by pursuing nursing. Should I change my major back to radiology?
  5. by   lllliv
    Quote from jollyjenny
    OMG! I'm in tears right now! I have worked my but off to finish my prerequisites and I'm SUPPOSED to start nursing school in the fall! I am extremely upset and scared after reading this thread!! Yes, I've heard all of the "burn out" stories and the famous "nurses eat their young" stories, but this thread is just downright awful! I actually changed my major from radiologic technology with my main goal to become a sonographer-to nursing! I thought that since nursing offers way more hands-on patient care than sonography does, it would be more appealing to me. But now? Most of you say there is no way you would encourage your children to go into nursing. GREAT! I honestly feel like I could be making a huge mistake now by pursuing nursing. Should I change my major back to radiology?
    sorry to say...but i would if i were you. i'm an lpn that recently quit nursing but i have worked with many rns as well and all that work the floor feel the same way. too much crap is dumped on nursing.
  6. by   musicalnursynurse
    Ideally I would encourage her to do what she likes. She obveously will see the toll nursing has had on your life ie shift work, OT, and she would have more support going into it as you know what nursing is like. Nursing isn't the only pression where one can be eaten alive you can find it anywhere, but if she is secure in who she is and where she wants to go she'll be fine, and if she has support from you no matter which way she goes the path will be a whole lot easier.
  7. by   withasmilelpn
    Quote from jollyjenny
    OMG! I'm in tears right now! I have worked my but off to finish my prerequisites and I'm SUPPOSED to start nursing school in the fall! I am extremely upset and scared after reading this thread!! Yes, I've heard all of the "burn out" stories and the famous "nurses eat their young" stories, but this thread is just downright awful! I actually changed my major from radiologic technology with my main goal to become a sonographer-to nursing! I thought that since nursing offers way more hands-on patient care than sonography does, it would be more appealing to me. But now? Most of you say there is no way you would encourage your children to go into nursing. GREAT! I honestly feel like I could be making a huge mistake now by pursuing nursing. Should I change my major back to radiology?
    No. There are alot of rewards in the profession, and many areas to choose from. Earlier, I wrote saying no, but I added not now because I am not happy where I am at. A few years ago I said I loved being a nurse. The place I worked at was very 'nurse-friendly' and had support staff and a pharmacy and other things in place that really saved you time. Slowly over time and under a new management, they have done away with those things and people to save money. (Also benefits). My schedule works well for me and my family and there are not alot of similar positions available out there right now- I've looked. So I'm stuck- for now. I am going to change units in April when a position becomes available, because I think it may help. And keep looking. I have been and know I could be happy again, though, because I love taking care of my patients and know I give them the best I can. If you are someone like me who really enjoys helping other people and trying to make a mark on your little corner of the world, nursing can be very satisfying.
  8. by   glenwood
    yes being a nurse is sometimes hard but it has great rewards. Very flexable. Lots of jobs and scedules to chose from. You always know you are doing usefull work. You will never get rich but you will always have a job.

    New graduates are very different from the generation that is now getting close to retirement. The new nurses have higher expectations, more alternatives, better education and are generally more independent. This is a great time to go into nursing.
  9. by   pedirn06
    I have 2 daughters. The oldest is almost 16; the youngest 12. My oldest is interrested in Nursing and I encourage her. She has done very well in Biology this year. She is quite a tough cookie. I don't feel she will be eaten alive. Her problem will be :angryfire !!! LOL

    My 12 y/o would be one to be eathen alive. She is the caring individual that would make a great nurse. However, her very soft heart makes her a target to get dumped on. She has a very hard time saying no. Nursing not for her unless she changes in the next few years. She is squeemish at the site of blood:spin:

    Personally, if I had it to do over, I would do it all again. I find my job very rewarding. Not to say I have not had my burnout times. I have been in nursing for over 15 years. I now work a job that is low stress, good pay and good hours with weekends and holidays off. (pediatric homehealth-private duty). Eventually, I may go back to something more challenging, but for now this works for me. For once, I am able to do one-on-one pt care and it is very rewarding.
  10. by   whipping girl in 07
    Quote from burn out
    Maybe a summer job. I really don't want her to stop and take any time off from school, I am afraid she will like the independence and a pay check (no matter how small) and not go back to school. I would rather that she stuck with school while she is motivated.
    You know, the best motivator I ever had was the year I took off from college because I was burned out. After 6 months of working in the admissions office full-time, I was ready to go back to school and get a degree so I could make a decent amount of money. Made better grades too.

    Just my 0.02.

    And if I thought my kid was suited for it, I'd encourage him or her to be a nurse. But right now they're too young to make that call (although Gracie seems to be well-suited to be a dictator...)


    K
  11. by   nurseinlimbo
    I don't have a daughter, but if I did, I don't think I would want her to be a nurse. I went back as an adult student after 10 yrs as a NA, thinking that RN would give me more autonomy, flexibility, and the ability to use my brain. I have been very disappointed, mostly because of the culture of nursing and the way that new grads are treated by the seasoned nurses. Have had both good and bad experiences but the bad have been really bad. There are too many martyrs, cliques and corrupt managers in nursing. I feel like a warm body to fill a shift, no one cares about my mental or physical health, and I'm not supposed to have a family life or outside interests. I am dissappointed in the lack of respect from managers, nurses, lpns and aides, families etc. I haven't had a lot of issues with doctors, but I work in settings where we don't have frequent direct contact.

    If I had it to do over again, I think I would go into computers, accounting, or some other medical specialty such as MRI tech or physio. Better hours, same pay, more life. My son, whose 10, wants to be a vet, and that would have been a choice if I had gone to school straight out of high school, I hope he does it.

    Right now, my light at the end of the tunnel is taking over a family business with my husband, and then I can nurse prn only in one place and enjoy life again.
  12. by   GAPEACH07
    Yes, I would and have. I too have a daughter, 17YO, graduating in May this year. She has struggled with the decision for her future. I have been a CMA for 10 years and have been "burned out". Although I have had negative feelings, I have also had many positive experiences that have come out of the profession. It takes a special person to fill the shoes of a nurse. If she understands the pros and cons, she will be able to make an informed decision. Just be honest about your feelings and let her decide. Maybe she could job shadow for a day or so and see if she wants to consider a career in nursing. However, keep in mind that a nurse has many opportunities, not just limited to "nursing". My daughter has decided to pursue a degree as a PA. Hope this helps.
  13. by   jenkie01
    I have a daughter who is a few months shy of 16 and I am making her get her prereqs for nursing school this summer and next, so after high school she will only have the down and dirty nursing courses. I am going for RN from LPN myself . The work is terrible but as a good sized man I have always been treated great where ever I went---I work FT+ and also work agency. Her mom (my ex) is an RN and hates it. I am telling her she can go to school for 2 years and work just weekends --2 16 hour shifts and make more than most people working a week and she can still have 5 days off to pursue her life's interests.....and she will have a job where she goes with decent pay. I see all these kids where I work going to school for 4 years and getting a degree and they cannot find a decent paying job. Am I selfish for just wanting to make sure she can make a decent living.

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