I don't want to give details about my case, because I'm not sure if that would be wise given that it is a current lawsuit. Suffice to say that I was in the hospital, at the doctors office, and in touch with my doctors' office multiple times throughout a week leading up to the 6month loss of twins. Whenever I was in the hospital I was rehydrated and sent home, told I had food poisoning, etc... Well, it turns out I had a very easiliy diagnosed, commonly known cause of premature labor. Right under their noses. On more than one occasion.
I am not a vengeful person, and I understand that people make mistakes. I'm about to graduate from nursing school
and I'm terrified of making a mistake and hurting someone. However, I do feel that my case was VERY negligently handled (I was 18 y.o. on government medical insurance, if that might be a reason). So, I sought out a lawyer just to ask him about it.
A lawsuit seemed like my way to participate in the justice system. To make sure that something like that didn't happen again. I could think of NO other way to make a difference. In fact, if I was shown that I was mistaken and that, I had in fact, received good medical care then I would happily accept it and move on. I would like closure and what is right and good to be done through this.
Looks like they're going to settle the case (3 1/2 years after I met with the lawyer). I have VERY mixed feelings. Even though these suits are part of the justice system, it seems like its a broken system. Am I only contributing the problems plagueing the system? If I let them settle without bringing it to court will the REAL CASE pass unnoticed by the medical community within that system?
What would you do? I loved my kids. I'm not interesting in making a buck off of their deaths, thankyouvery much. What is right? What makes a real difference?
Jan 13, '05
Thank you both for your affirming words. I am sorry for the loss of your son, Jess. It's a very difficult thing to experience.
What if a settlement was enough money for us to by a modest house? Would that be wrong? Would I be haunted by living in a home that cost my childrens' lives? What would I tell friends and family who notice that we bought a home when we previously have said we could not afford to do so for 5+ years? Should I give it all away to a good cause? This is very personally and morally confusing to me. What is the right outlook for this kind of financial gain? I'm having trouble seeing it in a good light.
Last edit by MarySunshine on Jan 13, '05