I've been a nurse for almost 8 years. I have always volunteered to work EVERY holiday (newyears, 4th of July, Thanksgiving etc...) just to have Christmas off to be with my family. I am 6 months into a new ER job and they have scheduled me for Christmas Eve AND Christmas day
My poor kid's are really upset. My husband is also a nurse and is scheduled to work Christmas day this year too.
I had to tell my parent's that we were both working and ask if they would take the kids. My mom was pretty nasty and less then understanding. She said she didn't think it was "fair" to ask that I work Christmas when I have kids. I told her that people still get sick on Christmas and I wasn't the only employee with children.
Here is what I need from you all...
Please help me explain to my (never had a job outside of the home) mother why I have to work Christmas. and second...Help me understand why I have to work Christmas
We did a thread similar to this just this month and at times it got REALLY ugly. Even so, If you do a search for it you might find some excellent posts in that frenzy that will help you talk with your kids.
IMO, kids prefer honesty. If you tell them ahead of time you and you hubby will be working, they will be able to understand and be prepared. If you ar honest with them, in years to come your kids will be PROUD that mum and dad sacrifice to take care those in need.
I have an idea. Why not make plans with them to celebrate Christmas on the 26th? In the UK and other countries, that day is called Boxing Day. In the past it was the day folks would "box" up gifts and give them to the poor. In the country I grew up in, December 26th is a national holiday. We have a colourful "Junkanoo" parade (like Carnival in Brazil) and celebrate with friends, family and strangers!
Why not celebrate your Christmas with you kids on that day by giving your gifts to them AND by giving a few things to some less fortunate kids.
A new tradition perhaps?
Last edit by sunnyjohn on Nov 16, '05
Nov 16, '05
I presume your parents are adults. So, they ought to understand this dilemma you have, as adults. Not everyone has a 9-5 job. Remind them how lucky they are you are not out of country---such as military people, or contractors overseas, at their holiday time. Imagine how tough it is for people whose loved ones are in the Middle East or someplace else far away this time of year!
Suggest alternate ways to enjoy your time together---maybe having "Christmas" on an alternate day or something. There are other ways to celebrate a meaningful season like Christmas than the traditional ways ---you may have to be creative. It's not about dinner, gifts, trees, etc anyhow. Any adult knows that.
Now, If their problem is your asking them to keep your kids for you, you may want to ask someone else, I don't know. They should feel LUCKY to have their grandkids around this time of year. Again, many other grandparents are not that lucky.
I think some people just need a reality check as to how fortunate we are......
At least you are explaining this to grown people---it's harder usually, for children to understand why Mommy or Daddy are not around (being military, it's been our way of life for so long, but it's never easy). If my kids can understand this concept, surely, your parents should be able to! Good luck.
Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Nov 16, '05