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- Apr 29, '12 by anotheroneNot sure what prompted this post. But I think a lot of it comes from parents and up bringing. Even if you had terrible parents but went to a good school, had some normal adults around you that counts for a lot. Many people like to discredit this, nothing can account for their success but their own hard work, but I don't believe it is all about yourself. Very, very, very few small children are that driven or that intelligent. Not every child reacts the same when most adults in thier life and those around them are on drugs, welfare, or in and out of jail. Your environment plays a big role in how you turn out whether people want to admit it or not. For some reason this all reminded me of the movie- Matilda. lol Also luck counts for a lot, connections, dedication, great looks, all sorts of things can give you a boost in life. Making all the right choices, even if you do not know if they are right or wrong.
- Apr 29, '12 by vintagePNI know people who's parents paid for their entire wedding. Paid for their schooling. They got an amazing job and now they can afford a house and a nice car and have children. My husband and I both had supportive families, but they could not afford to pay for anything. We paid for our own wedding, and took our loans for school (now in debt). We currently cannot afford a car or a house...we will have to budget and save and do a lot of penny pinching once I'm finished school to get ahead.
So...money. But having a house/car/money does not necessarily equal success in my mind. A happy marriage (in my case - im married), loving family and doing what you love means success to me. But it seems some people are dealt a better hand.Last edit by vintagePN on Apr 29, '12 : Reason: not everyone is married, or wants to be!
- Apr 29, '12 by VivaLasViejasI think it's mostly a matter of being in the right place at the right time---born to the right parents, attendance at the right schools, finding the right job or coming up with the right idea at the right time in history, and doing all the right things to keep moving in the right direction. Oh, and a generous dollop of dumb luck doesn't hurt.
- Apr 29, '12 by bagladyrnI think that much depends on what you see as success. For some it may be being rich. I'll never be considered successful if that is your criteria. However, I feel successful as I have raised a son who is serving his country, raising a family and proving to be a good man. I don't have much in my retirement savings, but there are 4 other young men who had a roof over their head and support through high school years because I chose to spend my earnings to bring them into my home. Seeing them graduate high school made me feel successful.
I'll never be rich in money, but I'm rich in the experiences I've had traveling the country the last 15 years. I'm rich and very lucky in the good friends and loving family I have spread all over the country. To me that is worth it all.
- Apr 30, '12 by dudette10Considering the upbringing of our last two democrat presidents and a buttload of very rich and successful people who came from modest backgrounds, I agree with the poster who said it comes from within. I am friends with quite a few entrepreneurs--some of whom are successful and some of whom are not. The main difference I see is the work ethic and the amount of risk one is willing to take. Those who work 16 hours a day and take risks are always more successful than the ones who whine about how difficult it is and are afraid to leave their comfort zones. On a personal note, my father was a blue collar worker who scrimped and saved, but took risks on investments. He was literally "the millionaire next door.". Anyone could do it, but are you willing to risk?
- Apr 30, '12 by GitanoRNQuote from lifein08on this note, i would give you a simple answer... for the same reason we are not all perfectly sculpture muscle bodies and have naturally pearl white teeth, or 6' tall with an iq of a genius just saying...have you ever wondered how are these people so rich and successful, while other people are falling. what is different about these people who are at the top of their field. what makes them different from rest of the people. why can't everyone be happy, successful and rich. and why are some people barley surviving in this cold and harsh world. thank you
- Apr 30, '12 by bratmobileResiliance, Flexibility and a Positive Attitude are what makes the difference between success and failure..if you don't have resiliance you can never bounce back from being criticized or a failure.. if you aren't flexible and can't bend in the wind you're going to snap,,if you have a bad attitude (usually resulting from previous experiences involving a lack of resiliance and flexibility) you are not going to get promoted and be successful..
- Apr 30, '12 by DespareuxIt's attitude and perception. One can have the most horrific upbringing, be a high school drop-out, have a history of drug abuse and severe depression, but overcome all of those obstacles and end up highly successful. One's person success doesn't define the next person's success.
- Apr 30, '12 by neverbethesameAhhhh, the age old question. I think that it is different for everyone. Even what constitutes success is different for everyone. There is no one size fits all to it. That's what is so interesting about it. Even from a cultural standpoint- I know that you are referring to the American/Western idea of rich and successful but in other non-Western cultures, it is measured very differently.
Here is some food for thought on not necessarily "why are some people barley surviving in this cold and harsh world" but what are we, in a Judeo/Christian ethos, to do about it:
"The poor you will always have with you." Matthew 26:11
"He who mocks the poor shows contempt for their Maker; whoever gloats over disaster will not go unpunished." Proverbs 17:5
"He who oppresses the poor shows contempt for their Maker, but whoever is kind to the needy honors God." Proverbs 14:31
"I tell you the truth, whatever you did for for the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me." Matthew 25:40