This is my personal philosophy, and maybe some of you will agree. Others may throw tomatoes at me.
I am a 21 yr old male CNA, I work in a hospital. I am single, no kids, no ex wife, no current wife. No baggage.
I always ask my patients, "Are you married?", they often say yes, then I ask how long?
They say, 30 years, 40 years, 50 years! . I usually ask, "What's your secret?", and the advice I get is as different as every patient I ask.
My personal philosophy as to why divorce rates are so high, is because marriage today is extremely different than It was 30+ years ago.
I'm sure every nurse reading this has had the male patient that won't do a dang thing for himself, and makes his wife do it. And believe it or not, she does!. This all goes back to the ''marriage today is completely different than 30+ years ago"
I think that ''back then'', women put up with a lot more s*** from their husbands, because "That's how it was"
Today, women are much more empowered, and aren't servants to their husbands.
Especially in this profession, chances are you get home and need a husband to relax you and be there for you after your long day at work. I don't think the other way around would fly, and i'm sure you ladies would agree.
However looking back, women would almost always be there when hubby got home, had dinner ready, took his coat off and shoes off, and nodded and empathized with his hard day at work.
Not no 'mo!
I think that it has to be the right person, right dose, right time, right background and right understanding of your profession..Sorry, still got the five rights stuck in my head!