it's still there, just buried under all that stuff. find a few ways to take your mind off all of it when you're not there. do something fun and makes you smile. bundle up and take a walk. do some holiday baking or some craft thing. take something yummy in to work. have a "what did you look like when you were a baby contest"--every one brings in a baby picture, people guess who's who. watch a really funny movie.