I'm not posting this asking for advice (although any you give me would be most welcome) I'm posting this to VENT my anger!
The other day I was called into a meeting with my supervisor and Chief of Security (COS) present. There was some concern that there had been four claims against me of sexual harassment within the past 4 months. I should add that since I am one of the few male nurses, I get referred the majority of genital and anal complaints from the female nurses. I ALWAYS have a witness with me when I'm doing this type of exam and carefully document everything. All the allegations have all been proven to be FALSE but the COS was concerned that "something was up," since there were so many in such a short time. His tone was very harsh and nasty and he treated me as if I was an inmate instead of a staff member. He made several comments such as "I would say what I'm thinking, but it wouldn't be appropriate in this meeting." and "If it were up to me I would let you go."
As if that wasn't bad enough, he then asked me "Do you know what a sexual deviant is?" I came completely unglued and had I not been gripping the arms of my chair for dear life I would have jumped across the table and strangled him. He then went on to say that I am showing signs of deviance by telling the inmates, "If you're uncomfortable with this type of assessment, we don't have to do it." Ummm...and all this time I thought I was offering Informed Consent. His qualifications for assessing and diagnosing sexual deviance? He attended a workshop.
My supervisor, who is a coward, did and said absolutely nothing during the meeting. In fact, she has been cold and distant instead of supportive or even concerned. Yes, I want to leave, and will, but if I quit now, it would make me look guilty of something. As I said, I just need to vent, but any ideas, suggestions or even a bit of support would be greatly appreciated.
I'm not sure what to tell you, except I'm sorry that this is happening to you.
Don't flame me for this, but I've heard and experienced that kind of treatment from "higher-ups" in nursing. That is, being treated like a criminal based on a suspicion from someone else, or being blamed for something that isn't your fault. It's a shame because it runs the good nurses away. You get chewed up and spit out, then you're expected to act like it's no big deal.
Last edit by Cute_CNA on Feb 8, '06
Maybe the prisoners are playing a game. I heard that prisoners often accuse staff of abuse just to cause trouble. Maybe a few got together to gang up on you. And since you get the majority of genital and anal complaints, maybe they are trying to get rid of the only male nurse.
As to what to do, I would start recording (in writing) any meting you have, starting with the last one. Use a note pad, and time and date everything. This is then a chronological record. These have a lot of power. After a few of these, you might pre sue a case of harassment. Keep getting your witnesses, and document everything well.
Good luck, I hope all works out well.
Last edit by nialloh on Feb 8, '06