What would you tell to your younger self?

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workingharder

308 Posts

What would I tell my younger self? Hmm. Let's see.

1986, buy Microsoft stock. 1995, buy Apple.

June 1984, Italian restaurant. Do NOT order the chicken. That was a bad weekend.

1983, I would tell myself not to sell the '67 GTO. In fifteen years it will be worth $35,000.

When my wife asks if that dress makes her look fat, do not tell the truth!

Finally, I would remind myself of the advice I had received years before from that old rancher; "Life is a lot easier when you're not sweatin' the dollar signs, and the only true secret of wealth is to spend less than you make."

MomRN0913

1,131 Posts

Specializes in ICU.

Really, though, don't be in such a hurry to get married. I married my first real boyfriend at 24 while in nursing school. We got together when I was 19, he cheated, I forgave, we eventually got married, had a baby and then he left me for his affair partner when our DD was 6 months old.Get to know yourself fully before you give your heart to anyone. Take time to find and develop the right career.And savings. Wile you should do some fun stuff and travel at your age, start saving.

chevyv, BSN, RN

1,679 Posts

Specializes in Acute Mental Health.

I'd be telling my 19yr old self to quit going out after work, buckle down, and forget about nursing, study hard and either become a psychologist or a psychiatrist.

Had I known then the amount of work and the so little respect given to nurses, I would have run. Whenever they need to cut or pile on more work and less time with pts, it's nursing that gets the shaft, always. I would have reconsidered my desire to be a nurse and looked beyond the pt care to seeing pts one on one and getting much better pay!

Also, I would have spent much more time with my parents. My father passed when I was 24 and I miss him so much. I would have hung out more with moms and pops for sure!

Nick7225

3 Posts

Stay in school! Finish your degree before you have kids. You have no idea how much easier it will be.

RNperdiem, RN

4,592 Posts

Make a big effort to keep in touch with your old friends. Real friends are harder to make and keep once your student days are over.

ThePrincessBride, MSN, RN, NP

1 Article; 2,594 Posts

Specializes in Med-Surg, NICU.
Forget him...he's not worth your tears and the breakup will derail your life's plan of going to nursing school by 20 years! ;) You will survive, you WILL meet someone so much better and deserving of all the love you have to give, and he will have Karma pay him a visit or how horribly he treated you and others. You just need to sit back and wait for it to happen. (and it will and DOES happen!)

Education is key! Stay in school. Socializing should take 2nd priority not 1st! Don't let the normal life issues stop you from obtaining your education. School first, marriage and babies after. (and preferably in that order :)

And finally, even though 'you' (aka my younger self) won't listen to this advice, the decisions you make will lead a delay in obtaining your dream of becoming a nurse, but it will also lead you to the love of your life and future husband and 2 healthy happy children.

Wishing the OP the best.

Great advice. I had a horrible breakup that made me attempt suicide (yikes). I wish I had someone like you to tell me this word of advice.

Btw, may I ask how old were you when you met your husband? I'm going to be twenty-two next year and I feel my ovaries wrinkling up. :)

nurseprnRN, BSN, RN

1 Article; 5,115 Posts

I would have listened to my parents and married rich.

If you marry for money you'll certainly earn it.

corollary:

Two can live as cheaply as one...but only half as well.

Stay far, far away from narcissists.

When you make love with someone you love and find yourself losing the barrier between your partner and yourself as you two become one...it's not romantic, it's a good way to lose yourself, and can foretell problems down the road. But when you find yourself making love with someone that loves you and feeling more like yourself than ever before, THAT's the one you marry.

jtoms

21 Posts

I'd like to thank k everybody for sharing their experiences and thoughts towards this topic, it means a lot to me and to other pre nursing students. My current plans right now is to take finish my adn program in a community college, and after I hopefully pass the NCLEX, go to my dream school UCLA for BSN degree. Lots of things can change from there, but there's lots of work to be done, and I'm up for it :)

jtoms

21 Posts

From what I've noticed and heard, one of the predominant advices is in regards of finance. I firmly believe that too, as of right now I'm not really spending anything so I'm okay. But since the rising amounts of tuition fee of the nursing program (books and expenses) I think I should start looking for scholarships and organizations that might help

rnlately

439 Posts

Specializes in LTC, Acute Care.
Focus on school! Get the best grades possible and don't get all wrapped up in boys and your social life. Later on, when you have your degree you can have time for all that.

Good luck!

Yeah that part!!!

Specializes in LTC.

Stay in that little apartment for longer. You can't beat $125/mo rent. While you are getting that dirt cheap rent, pay off your car and save, save, save. Avoid credit cards. Don't rent the house next to your husbands best friend. It will need a ton of repairs

Go ahead and marry your boyfriend earlier...you can get a break on financial aid and at 27 you will still be going strong. Go ahead and get your RN as soon as possible. At 21 you will find yourself pregnant. Then you can think about getting that house you wanted. Because it really sucks not having a washer and dryer with a baby.

Work as much as possible before kids. After kids spend as much time as possible with her, and working the minimum. The years fly by.

jadelpn, LPN, EMT-B

9 Articles; 4,800 Posts

Slow down, you move too fast. Think about what you are doing. Pay attention. Everything comes in time. Savor every little moment, as those are the happy and joyful memories that will make you chuckle when you are older.

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