Maybe Y'all can help me with this one...I work with a lot of trauma patients; lots of MVAs which means many 20 and 30-something men. I'm 27 but look a lot younger and have experienced lots of perverted/inappropriate comments from some of these men.
A while ago I had to put a foley in a young guy with both arms in casts who couldn't void, the first time I went in the room he had an erection :imbar so I said 'I'll just come back in a few minutes to put the catheter in.' When I went back he was still pitching a tent and just had this sly grin on his face like he was enjoying himself immensly. Finally I asked a male nurse to go put the darn thing in!
What would be a good response when a patient is being inappropriate? I try to use humor, but sometimes still get flustered!
Feb 25, '04
<Big Sigh> Society and the media still present nurses as sexual objects, so we always seem to run into this preconception.Even at my age I STILL field comments from family to male patients "Gee look Daddy you've got a good looking nurse tonite...be good". I groan inside and try to be lighthearted in my responses, and try to remember these guys are feeling out of control and are trying to cope with these feelings. Since being married and understanding the male personae better, I understand pitching a tent sometimes IS accidental...and male patients can be more embarassed than I am when it happens. Try to judge by intent, I guess is the best way to deal with this stuff.
If the guy is obviously being sexually suggestive I deflate them fast by comments like "It isn't anything I haven't seen a thousand or so times, you're definitely nothing special so get over yourself.' We can accomplish a lot with some humor but I agree....some guys will get the impresion we're coy if we use humor (usually young guys...I find the older guys respond better to this)
Hang in there young things...this issue DOES get easier to handle with experience.
Last edit by mattsmom81 on Feb 25, '04