What is my PROBLEM???

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    What is my PROBLEM?

    As a new grad I went to critical care for 2 years; from there, I went to public health for 4 years. I was somewhat bored with public health and always thought about the bedside, but loved the normal hours and low stress of public health. I never did get that sense of satisfaction like I did with critical care.

    The truth is, when I worked critical care (nights) I was always anxious, worried Iíd make a mistake. I would triple check everythingÖ.I was always running around like a crazy person often not eating/drinking/peeing so I could care for my patients.

    I am currently a stay at home mom (SAHM) of two children (6 years and 16 months). I have been a SAHM for 6 years. Originally I wanted to stay at home until my youngest started school, but for some reason I keep thinking about nursing.

    Again I ask what is my problem? Why would I want to return to that? I donít really want to leave my baby, but just feel that the longer I am away the more skills and experience I am losing. I regret not keeping my foot in the door even while I worked in public health. Why would I want that stress back in my life?

    Does anybody out there get this? I guess I am struggling and need some support. HELP!!! What would you all do? It isnít really about the money right now. Honestly, after reading the posts on this website, it looks like I couldn't get a hospital job even if I tried...

    Any comments would be appreciated. Thanks.
    CNA1991 and footqueen like this.

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    Simple. You became a nurse because you couldn't NOT be a nurse. Now you are missing it. It's a dilemma many of us have; we don't miss the stress but we miss so many other things about nursing.

    Just keep your eyes open to do anything nurse-wise. Even seasonal flu shot clinics. Just to keep your hand in and make it easier to go back when you're ready.
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    The problem is that you still possess the qualities that made you become a nurse in the first place- desire to help others, love of healthcare, the technical skills, etc. Becoming a mom doesn't change who you are.

    As the above poster said, there are ways to balance family life an nursing. Summer camp/day camp nursing when you can bring your kids to camp with you. School nursing where you have the same hours as your kids. Case management where the hours are more predicable/normal. You could do part time work, become a lactation consultant or nurse educator, work in home health and only take a few cases, etc.

    Only you know which decision is right for you and your family. Best of luck to you!
    Altra and Mrs. SnowStormRN like this.
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    I second what the above posters said. And just because a job is harder than average to get doesn't mean you can't get one - unless you don't apply.
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    I hear you. Today, there are so many kinds of nursing - hospice, home care, clinics, outpatient surgery clinics, and even child care facilities are hiring nurses. Also, hospital are looking to keep nurses with shorter shifts and either more weekends or less weekends depending on our request. Keep looking til you find the right fit.
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    You don't have a problem, you're missing what you used to do and that is totally normal! I always say that even if I won the lottery, I'd still do what I'm doing now because I love it and I'd miss seeing people everyday! I know being a stay at home mom is work, but it's a different kind of work that you may not get a lot of recognition for. Maybe you're missing the recognition you used to get from nursing? I can't tell you why you're missing being a nurse - could be a lot of things (extra income, sense of satisfaction, recognition of your work, having co-workers, having work goals, etc) - but I can tell you it's absolutely normal because I would feel the same way.
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    I took a break from nursing (2.5 yrs) and was a SAHM. I'm back to work and relearning skills. I do have a new baby (again) and it is hard (to leave baby). I do not think you have a problem. Sounds perfectly normal to me.
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    SAHM- I know exactly what you are feeling. I went to nursing school after my kids were all in school (i was 36). I did acute care for 4 yrs and, although I learned a ton and felt a lot of pride in what I did, I was always stressed.

    I then took a job in public health, which I LOVE. The only downside is the 2 hr RT commute and the hours aren't many. Some days, I commute 2 hrs and work for 3 hrs ((

    I just got offered a UR job locally, and I can name the hours. I am excited b/c it will be a huge learning curve (one of the things I love about nursing). BUT, I will not have pt contact. I could keep the public health job on the side (and the long commute)... I need to decide.

    Anyway, nursing is wonderful for it's variety, and I agree that nursing in some people is "built in". You just have it in you to want to help people)

    Good Luck!!! Enjoy the kids while they're little.
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    Quote from SAHMnurse

    The truth is, when I worked critical care (nights) I was always anxious, worried Iíd make a mistake. I would triple check everythingÖ.I was always running around like a crazy person often not eating/drinking/peeing so I could care for my patients.

    LOL, you just perfectly described my nursing career (though I only worked nights for 6 months).

    In my experience, they love hiring people who are willing to work part time because they don't have to pay benefits. And it's good for me because I have a nice balance between my responsibilities as a Mom, and my needs to feel professionally fulfilled.
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    I was a SAHM for 17 years, recently took a 10 week refresher and now work hospice. I'm at a point now where I don't know if it was the right thing to stay out so long. There are days I've (mentally) really kicked myself for not keeping a hand in it because coming back has been so hard. Not because bedside nursing has changed, the fundamentals are the same. But the amount of computer documentation is huge now, it was nearly nonexistent when I left....and the new meds and other technology have taken a lot of work and study to learn. I don't know. I can't regret the wonderful time I spent home with my children, and it's impossible to know how our lives would be now if I had kept working. It is what it is at this point! Anyway, I wish you all the best as you discern what is right for you and yours.

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