I appreciate all the feedback on my previous thread. It was eye-opening.
Ever since my previous career and my strong work ethic, it would usually take a lot for me to call out sick. I worked at times I should have been home many times, I think to justify when I did call out, it was really serious/legit.
I also have worked in places that feel they have a right to probe and maybe bc I had/have weak boundaries when it comes to that sort of thing I would answer in detail when they'd ask "how sick?...what are the symptoms?" etc...Maybe they have no right to ask that and they "test" in that way.
I've never felt comfortable calling out and saying "I won't be in I'm not feeling well" or even "sick" esp if you don't sound that sick! That's why when I do, I do usually sound horrible.
Even personal days, I feel like I needed to say why I needed a personal day but that defies the definition doesn't it?! But when the supposed caring i.e. nosy coworkers ask if everything is okay when I come back, then I feel (and have actually been told by one) that I'm snubbing them if I say "everything's fine" even if I add "thanks for asking"
You can probably tell I'm that way from my length of posts and need to be clear
So teach me Oh wise ones
What do you all say? I have great boundaries in my personal life, I have no idea why I won't enforce them in this situation.
Feb 5, '12
It is easy to see, once you approach this situation with the truth, and a straight forward response there's no need to lie. However, don't over do it... one must keep in mind, how difficult it is when someone else has called out, specially during the weekend. In addition, don't schedule a leave day ,then call out the following day you're suppose to be at work,
that will raise a red flag . Hopefully we have entertained your concerns regarding this issue.
Last edit by Joe V on Apr 2, '18