What do you think? - page 2

I have been a nurse forever...I also suffer from depression which has been MUCH worse since our unit got a new manager (a little over a year ago). I was suspended last year for a day without pay... Read More

  1. by   Diploma'82
    Well I am appealing the unemployment denial with a lawyer, have filed a discrimination lawsuit with the state, and have 2 more lawyers standing by for worker's compensation and one for the facilities refusal to let me sign FLMA papers. Plus I had to sic the government on them to get COBRA (finally got the info 60 days! after my employment/coverage ended). In some ways I am doing better emotionally--being away from the manager, and life and death decisions...but it isn't easy having no income except for an occasional temporary job, and no insurance...or money to pay for insurance. I may have to go back into nursing but not acute care!
  2. by   Liddle Noodnik
    Quote from Diploma'82
    Thanks to all that responded...I have decided (at least for now) to quit nursing...I don't know how to do anything else and have no other source of income...but I have to have Faith and it will all be ok...right?
    Diploma, don't make any major decisions right now - you are depressed emotionally and CHEMICALLY - I have been out of work since Oct 03 and have not "decided" to leave nursing - have crawled back to functioning ok SLOW-w-w-ly... still not sure if I want to go back to nursing but at least keep your RN license on inactive status.

    You may be able to get ST, LT, or SS disability, keep records of time lost and doctors' appts, and tell them you need documentation of your ability/lack of ability to work...

    diploma '81

    ps - don't take on HER guilt and overwhelm. She will have to find her OWN solution - and it isn't your problem right this minute. K? NO GUILT!
  3. by   Liddle Noodnik
    re Diploma'82;1889202

    Sorry, duplicate post, but I wanted to clarify --

    It is not your guilt in the first place! (altho I think one of the first symptoms of depression is unnecessary guilt!!).
  4. by   Liddle Noodnik
    Quote from Diploma'82
    Well I am appealing the unemployment denial with a lawyer, have filed a discrimination lawsuit with the state, and have 2 more lawyers standing by for worker's compensation and one for the facilities refusal to let me sign FLMA papers. Plus I had to sic the government on them to get COBRA (finally got the info 60 days! after my employment/coverage ended). In some ways I am doing better emotionally--being away from the manager, and life and death decisions...but it isn't easy having no income except for an occasional temporary job, and no insurance...or money to pay for insurance. I may have to go back into nursing but not acute care!
    AND I can see I am a day late and a dollar short, sorry for the belated advice, looks like you are on top of it!
  5. by   canoehead
    It's a bad situation, but you DID resign, unfortunately. You said you had decided to "quit nursing." At that point you resigned. then as far as the transfer, I can understand why they would not hire someone who has had a lot of sick time in the past year. Once you resign they will use that advantage as much as they can.
  6. by   nurse4theplanet
    I'm giving you my honest advice (I also have suffered from depression although, affecting many jobs I have held in the past...although not nursing as I am newly graduated). Take it for what it's worth.

    It seems that this facility was treating you inappropriately, and you were offering too much of yourself..which probably played a large part into contributing to your depression. The situation and lack of support became so overwhelming for you that you and your physician decided that a leave of absence was in order. Then after you took action to help yourself, this facility again took advantage of that situation and had their best interest, not yours, in mind. Why would you want to return to that facility? It is obvious that the problem is not simply with your NM, but with the chain of command as well. Although, I feel you were definitely treated unfairly from beginning to end of this situation and yes there are legal actions you can take.....does the end justify the means? (or however that saying goes) Is it worth it? Is it contributing to your well being?

    I feel your time and efforts and energy, which is very slim in supply for someone who is in a depressive state, worth spending on a facility that has proven that they will not take care of you or what's best for you. Move on. I suggest, before throwing nursing away, finding another avenue of nursing all together. Maybe what you need is a very long break until the bitter taste this facility has left with you is a distant memory. But I would definitely not go back to this facility, nor continue to focus my energy on recourse. It is important to take care of you, do what's good for you, move on to things that give you a sense of success and accomplishment, not defeat, anger, resentment, or guilt. That will only feed your depression. The financial and emotional toll of taking legal action against this facility, although they may deserve it, may be too harmful to you at this moment than just moving on to greener pastures.

    That's my advice for all it's worth. I know its easier said than done. I wish you the very best and will pray for your peace and mental/emotional well being.

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