It is a very fine line that we walk isn't it?
I always get so close to my hospice patients. The longer you have them the harder it is. I work with a team of very skillful and gifted staff members.
If a pt wants to do something nice for me I always encourage the term 'team' and leave it up to them.
We as an organization will always do what we can for our patients.
1. We had a male patient who's mother had dementia then out of the blue she asked for him.
She lived three states away.
We got together and raised money for someone to drive him down there. Stopping half way for him to rest and head off the next day.
We had enough for his stay, his gas and money to feed them.
He died not long after he got back but both he and his mum had smiles which they both took with them.
2. We had a fairly young man who was dying but never had a chance to take his young daughter to the beach.
So one of the great nurses I work with set up a beach at their home. She made palm trees, had birds in the trees, we got sand, pool etc He was able then to take his daughter to the beach. He died not too long after this.
I cannot think of anymore right now but I think as long as it is not going over boundaries. You do not want to give them home numbers, addresses etc.
You really do need to keep a certain line between them and us.
I had a patient send me a $100 check. We were able to put that to good use for some equipment for all to use. He was very happy about that too.
I received a beautiful watch that we auctioned to make money for more equipment. The giver was very happy about that and so was I.
Most nurses are natural givers and nurturers!