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i have no idea where the er is getting these people from but i wish theyd send them back...lol they are sick..yes...but for goodness sakes! i cant raise the head of my bed (i can however use... Read More

  1. by   mattsmom81
    I can see I've bothered some people by what I said, but I notice that one line was ignored. I believe I said I WILL HELP THESE PEOPLE WITHIN MY LIMITS AND ABILITIES. That DOES NOT include hurting myself on them. That DOES NOT include joining the codependant ranks of family members that have enabled her/him to GET to 500#.

    Also, I'm not talking about assisting some one with 50 extra lbs of edema postpartum...that will always be a given. I am quite kind to ALL my patients. However, I DO set healthy limits for myself and my staff, something that has been lacking in nursing education for some time.

    Why do you think, everyone, that so many nurses are injured on the job??? Because they fail to set healthy physical limits/boundaries.

    Nurses who fail to set healthy emotional boundaries with patients....doing and doing for them because "they need me' will also pay a price....eventually this codependence catches up with them. It is not healthy.

    Take care of yourself nurse. You're all you got.
  2. by   Brownms46
    Again I will say it with no excuses this time! People see and read what they want to!
  3. by   mattsmom81
    You are so right, Brownie. Thanks for noticing!:kiss
  4. by   Brownms46
    You're very welcome..
  5. by   LasVegasRN
    Originally posted by Brownms46
    Again I will say it with no excuses this time! People see and read what they want to!
  6. by   nursejws
    Okay I'm totally lost in the last few posts. I, too, am obese and going through the pre-reqs to get into nursing school. I am also in the process of having wls. With that said, I have always been overweight, but I will be dam*ed if I'm going to let my weight keep me from basic hygiene or much of anything else for that matter.

    I know sometimes it's difficult having paps, especially when your dr looks like Barbie. It's not so much difficult as it is embarressing. Stop being a part of the PROBLEM and be a part of the SOLUTION! (my latest motto) By the time I graduate, I hope to be post-op. I won't forget where I have been, and what I have done to get to that point. I hope not to encounter a patient who is fully capable to wash themself, or wipe themself. I don't think I would be cruel to that person, but I would tell them the best thing they could do for themselves is to MOVE. I'm too independent and have too much pride to ask for help. Granted, if someone truly needed it, that's different than some of the stories I've read here.

    This is something that actually made me decide to go into nursing. I wanted to help bariatric patients, because it was something I could relate to. I'm not sure a bariatric nurse even exists! Obesity is a major problem, and it's not getting any better. HELP ME HELP YOU.
  7. by   RNIAM
    I believe I have made my point and feel no need to beat the poor horse to death. I certainly have learned alot .
  8. by   kids
    kick to the horse as it dies...

    It is not my job to wipe your a$$, fat or thin if you are able...It is my job to assist you to function at the best of your abilities...I will help you get started, I will help you finish but I not facilitate dependancy.

    Ditto for bathing.

    <I spend approx 25% of my life functionally parapallegic.>

    If you can walk or roll your wheelchair outside to smoke or down to the pantry to get a snack you can walk/roll yourself into the bathroom to use or be assisted onto the toilet or shower bench, from there you will do what you are able and be assisted with what you cant.
  9. by   Brownms46
    HELP ME HELP YOU !!!


    What a concept from one who has not YET become a nurse!! But who already thinks like a NURSE I would want to take care of me!! One who will push me to do the best in becoming a full, healthly, productive, responsible, human being!

    Not a dependent, no longer capable, pitiful shade of my former self! Well said!!!
    Last edit by Brownms46 on Jun 15, '02
  10. by   Brownms46
    Originally posted by kids-r-fun
    kick to the horse as it dies...

    It is not my job to wipe your a$$, fat or thin if you are able...It is my job to assist you to function at the best of your abilities...I will help you get started, I will help you finish but I not facilitate dependancy.

    Ditto for bathing.

    <I spend approx 25% of my life functionally parapallegic.>

    If you can walk or roll your wheelchair outside to smoke or down to the pantry to get a snack you can walk/roll yourself into the bathroom to use or be assisted onto the toilet or shower bench, from there you will do what you are able and be assisted with what you cant.
    BRAVO BRAVO BRAVO!!!

    kid-r-fun..... YOU have summed it up ...better than I could have ever hoped to have!!!
  11. by   RNforLongTime
    Last night, I got floated out
    Last edit by RNforLongTime on Jun 28, '02
  12. by   thisnurse
    WHAT KAK? YOU DIDN'T GIVE HER A BATH STAT?
    LOL
    kak...you handled it beautifully
    i would have said something to the son...you want us to care for your mom and then you interfere.
  13. by   nrw350
    Some people do not understand the ramifications of heart attacks, and all the little warning signs. But in many situations, it would be better if the family did not know these signs as they may very well panic and be even more in the way. I would have probaly taken the son outside the room and explained to him the situation his mom was in, and that at any moment she may have a heart attack.

    Nick

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