VIDEO: A Message to Nurses Everywhere - page 3

Hello everyone, I have had a very challenging start to nursing. Since starting in Nursing in April 2015, I have been through a lot. I have seen great acts of kindness in nursing wherein nursing... Read More

  1. by   LetLoveNReasonUnite
    I see all of your guys points. I am not surprised by them. I am not stopping at the videos... I have reached out to the media. I am not fighting against you. I am fighting for other actual victims of the NETY epidemic. It's a social justice issue for me.
  2. by   LetLoveNReasonUnite
    If you were as disappointed by both the legal and caring professions as I am, and experienced what I experienced, you would feel differently. And I do have faith in nursing... that's in my video on Love.
  3. by   Cowboyardee
    Quote from LetLoveNReasonUnite
    You want to know what else I find when I google my name? Now the words professional misconduct and incompetence are attached to me name since the Association published their decision. My name might as well be Denise Elaine Crawley Professional Misconduct Incompetence.
    I'm going to be very blunt here.

    I'm already quite convinced that bad things can happen to nurses, and at times an RN can be unfairly blamed, disciplined, or set up as a fall guy for issues that are in fact systemic. So if I see a citation for misconduct against a nurse without much explanation, I know that it doesn't necessarily tell me all that much about her. Wouldn't make me more likely to hire her if I were an HR person, but I'm also aware that it doesn't really prove there's anything wrong with her either.

    Now, if a google search reveals a disciplinary record along with those videos you uploaded... it actually makes me more likely to think there's some substance to the citation. Your videos reveal a profound lack of self-awareness and perspective. Perhaps also something of a victim complex. You do not come off well in them. The problem is not merely that you made videos and attached your name to them. It's that your videos make you look worse. Neither your arguments nor the format in which you chose to present them are persuasive. They are damaging.

    Now, I know that just because your videos make you look worse doesn't necessarily mean you were deserving of the citation you got. It certainly doesn't mean it was necessarily handled in the best way. I don't have access to the ultimate truth here. At the very least, I am quite convinced that your pain is very real, and for that I am sorry and wish you the best. But those videos make you look worse, and that advice you've been given to remove them from the internet was well-meant. Follow it. Your videos will not change nursing or the world at large. Not because the world is a hard, cold place, but because they weren't persuasive. At all.
  4. by   OrganizedChaos
    Quote from LetLoveNReasonUnite
    If you were as disappointed by both the legal and caring professions as I am, and experienced what I experienced, you would feel differently. And I do have faith in nursing... that's in my video on Love.
    Honestly, I feel like you are digging yourself a hole you won't be able to get out of. Now your comments are beginning to get insulting. You have not been in the profession that long. One bad experience is not enough to prompt me to make videos, post them online *and* contact the media. If you think you will change the nursing profession by going to the media with your videos you are going to be disappointed. Also don't be surprised if after you go to the media & they take you up your offer, it becomes hard for you to get and/or keep a job. I can smell your indignation from here.
  5. by   sevensonnets
    I don't think your cause has anything to do with 'social justice.' You are seriously jeopardizing your chances of finding future employment as a nurse. That's nobody's fault but your own.
  6. by   Julius Seizure
    Quote from LetLoveNReasonUnite
    I am going to work to prove that bullying is a repressed group behaviour, and not reflective behaviours of the sex (that being female) that predominates in the profession. There are some pretty awful, sexist assumptions about women and the ones I have considered are all repressed group behaviours.

    If I am understanding correctly, you are saying that you believe that the bullying behavior has nothing to do with the fact that nursing is a female-dominated profession. Is that right? I found it to be an interesting statement, about bullying being a "repressed group behavior". It sounds like you've been reading up, like you said. Did you read anything about 'bullying' in the medical profession? Are they also considered a repressed group then, or is there a different explanation at work? Recently I have seen more info online about how hard it is to be a medical resident, and I was wondering what you might have read about it.


    (As a side note, a friend of mine says that he didn't know what 'whimsy' was until he met me, so I was tickled to read on your FB page that you, too, are the definition of whimsical. )
  7. by   SnowShoeRN
    Quote from LetLoveNReasonUnite
    If you were as disappointed by both the legal and caring professions as I am, and experienced what I experienced, you would feel differently. And I do have faith in nursing... that's in my video on Love.
    You really need to stop assuming that "if only we this, then we would feel differently." For all you know, one of us could have been raped by a doctor or nurse and then had the legal system not take us seriously. Or that we've had similar or identical problems with our licenses, bullying, libel, defamation, sexual harrassment or any number of thngs. Who are you assume that any of us aren't as dissappointed as you in the legal and "caring" professions? Just because we don't knee-jerk react by posting videos on a public forum when we've encountered hardship doesn't make your reaction mature or wise.

    Again, I am sorry that you experienced this. If you want to make the world more aware of injustices you perceived during your 8 months at your hospital, then good for you. And if you want to bring to light potential corruptness in your province, then go for it. But this is a really poor way of doing it.
  8. by   ItsThatJenGirl
    This whole thing is incredibly off putting.

    If you're really in this to make a positive change, start with using neutral language instead of putting people on the offensive with phrases like "NETY". Consider the points that others are making and start asking YOURSELF questions about your behavior and perceptions. If there are 15 people telling me I'm wrong, it's probably not an issue of them not understanding me, but an issue with my understanding of the situation. Any sort of successful social justice crusader has to be open to considering all other views on any subject matter and learning from them.

    Unfortunately I feel like any ground you might have gained addressing "bullying" (perhaps the most overused word in the past 5 years or so) is negated by the way you've chosen to handle the situation.

    Best of luck to you.
  9. by   Ruby Vee
    Quote from LetLoveNReasonUnite
    Did you watch all of the videos Blondy? The first one was darkest because it was a ****** situation, with NO justice. If you have not watched until the very end of the last video then you really cannot say that I have not healed. All I want to do is share some insight I have gained from my intense heartache. The world is hurting right now... and I want to help heal the hurt.
    One can tell you haven't healed just by reading your reactions to the very good advice you have received here. If you had healed, you might be able to see the wisdom in NOT putting it all up on the internet. You cannot possibly "heal the world," even if it were as awful as you appear to think it is. Your "insight" seems flawed.

    Please get some help with your hurting -- counseling is a very good suggestion.
  10. by   Ruby Vee
    Quote from LetLoveNReasonUnite
    Not the same kind of hurt... but there is a whole lot of hatred in the world. I think poverty and disease are pretty hurtful things.

    I am not in denial. I agree you have to be in a good position to help someone (although you do not need to be 'perfect'... even the broken can help the broken). I have reached out extensively to heal myself. I am lucky to be surrounded by a lot of really great people.

    I have not just had 8 months of experience. I have had almost two years of nursing experience. And an arts degree before my nursing one. Get off your "I have xxx number of years of nursing experience"-so-I-can-say-what-it's-really-like-high-horse. While that experience is valuable, I have had a lot of life experience too, and have seen a great deal of suffering. I have already had someone reach out to me saying she went through a similar thing and almost really hurt herself... That alone is justification for fighting this.
    OK -- you seem to be oblivious. You're getting great advice and you just don't get it. You received great advice about NOT posting your videos before you actually posted them, but didn't get it. You just don't get it.

    Insulting other posters is not the way to prove that you're right and everyone else is wrong. You are just wrong.
  11. by   OrganizedChaos
    Quote from Ruby Vee
    OK -- you seem to be oblivious. You're getting great advice and you just don't get it. You received great advice about NOT posting your videos before you actually posted them, but didn't get it. You just don't get it.

    Insulting other posters is not the way to prove that you're right and everyone else is wrong. You are just wrong.
    Ironic that the OP is insulting members when she is on her soap box about bullying/'NETY'.

    Isn't it ironic, don't 'cha think? A little too ironic, yeah I really do think.


    I just want to add that I'm so over hearing about 'NETY'. Workplace bullying does not only happen in nursing. I feel it is more scrutinized in nursing because the public thinks we are saints or angels & shouldn't behave in any other way other than perfect. But the truth is wherever there are people, there will be that one bully. It's a fact of life.
    Last edit by OrganizedChaos on Jan 8
  12. by   Username invalid
    Your whole attitude in response to feedback screams of incompetence and professional misconduct, OP. Yeah, those words.
    Last edit by Username invalid on Jan 8
  13. by   heron
    The AA folks in my life refer to it as "terminal uniqueness". That's the conviction that my trauma/issues/problems are unprecedented, so no one is competent to even have an opinion, let alone give advice.

    Full disclosure: I haven't viewed the full video nor have I read every post in the thread. That said, what's coming across just skimming is that the OP was treated very badly, was severely hurt and has come to an understanding of how such bad treatment is institutionslized in nursing. What I've gathered of the analysis is old news, however ... some of us have been saying it for years.

    I agree that the OP is better advised to use her video musings as personal catharsis rather than a public proclamation.
    Last edit by heron on Jan 8

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