VIDEO: A Message to Nurses Everywhere - page 2

Hello everyone, I have had a very challenging start to nursing. Since starting in Nursing in April 2015, I have been through a lot. I have seen great acts of kindness in nursing wherein nursing... Read More

  1. by   LetLoveNReasonUnite
    I am sorry but I have really made up my mind... you will understand if you watch until the end of the last video. It has a very positive message but change does needs to happen and it needs to happen in the hearts of people everywhere. Tired about hearing about NETY? A quick google search will show you the cannibalistic trend in nursing. And no, chances are that most of you are not the perpetrators of workplace bullying.. You are here to engage and be educated. The bullies probably are not sitting on nursing forums looking to educate and share.. And I am sure some of you have suffered at the hands of new grads who have wrongly accused you of being a bully. I recently lost a friend because she rushed to judgment about me, and I liken her attitude to those of young nurses who might be oversensitive and then accuse older nurses of bullying. Even though this friend and I have been friends for 4+ years and we have a mutual understanding that we are both good people, she has accused me hastily of being uncaring and being racist.
  2. by   blondy2061h
    You may think you have healed, but it is pretty clear you have not. I really hope you are continuing to get help, so you can lead a happy, successful, and fulfilling life.
  3. by   LetLoveNReasonUnite
    Quote from blondy2061h
    You may think you have healed, but it is pretty clear you have not. I really hope you are continuing to get help, so you can lead a happy, successful, and fulfilling life.
    Did you watch all of the videos Blondy? The first one was darkest because it was a ****** situation, with NO justice. If you have not watched until the very end of the last video then you really cannot say that I have not healed. All I want to do is share some insight I have gained from my intense heartache. The world is hurting right now... and I want to help heal the hurt.
  4. by   roser13
    Quote from LetLoveNReasonUnite
    Did you watch all of the videos Blondy? The first one was darkest because it was a ****** situation, with NO justice. If you have not watched until the very end of the last video then you really cannot say that I have not healed. All I want to do is share some insight I have gained from my intense heartache. The world is hurting right now... and I want to help heal the hurt.
    Sigh.
  5. by   blondy2061h
    Quote from LetLoveNReasonUnite
    Did you watch all of the videos Blondy? The first one was darkest because it was a ****** situation, with NO justice. If you have not watched until the very end of the last video then you really cannot say that I have not healed. All I want to do is share some insight I have gained from my intense heartache. The world is hurting right now... and I want to help heal the hurt.
    I didn't realize all of the videos have been posted already. I thought you were posting them in a series.
  6. by   AliNajaCat
    The world is hurting right now... and I want to help heal the hurt.
    1) The "world" is not hurting right now-- most of us have not experienced what you feel, because ..... well, you've made up your mind, so it doesn't matter. Trust me, though, you're wrong on this one.

    2) Before you can be therapeutic for anyone, you have a long, long way to go before you're "healed" yourself, and all that denial is going to impede your progress.

    3) YOU want to help heal the world? You with 8 months of experience and a mountain of denial to finish eating? You're not that important. As Dr. Phil would say, "Most people are shocked to discover how little other people think about them." Get over yourself and then then you'll be able to find a way to make yourself truly useful.

    I'm not going to tell you again to take down the videos, because you present as so out of touch that you won't realize their effect is not what you fantasize. It's you that will be hurt, no one else.

    Good luck to you. Done here.
  7. by   LetLoveNReasonUnite
    They are already posted on my YouTube channel. I'd have to get approval for each successive video to post them on here. Sorry if I misspoke/mistyped. They get progressively more optimistic from one through seven. And the others range between 6-9 minutes. It's lengthy..
  8. by   LetLoveNReasonUnite
    Quote from AliNajaCat
    "1) The "world" is not hurting right now-- most of us have not experienced what you feel, because ..... well, you've made up your mind, so it doesn't matter. Trust me, though, you're wrong on this one."

    "2) Before you can be therapeutic for anyone, you have a long, long way to go before you're "healed" yourself, and all that denial is going to impede your progress."

    "3) YOU want to help heal the world? You with 8 months of experience and a mountain of denial to finish eating? You're not that important. As Dr. Phil would say, "Most people are shocked to discover how little other people think about them." Get over yourself and then then you'll be able to find a way to make yourself truly useful."

    I'm not going to tell you again to take down the videos, because you present as so out of touch that you won't realize their effect is not what you fantasize. It's you that will be hurt, no one else.

    Good luck to you. Done here.
    Not the same kind of hurt... but there is a whole lot of hatred in the world. I think poverty and disease are pretty hurtful things.

    I am not in denial. I agree you have to be in a good position to help someone (although you do not need to be 'perfect'... even the broken can help the broken). I have reached out extensively to heal myself. I am lucky to be surrounded by a lot of really great people.

    I have not just had 8 months of experience. I have had almost two years of nursing experience. And an arts degree before my nursing one. Get off your "I have xxx number of years of nursing experience"-so-I-can-say-what-it's-really-like-high-horse. While that experience is valuable, I have had a lot of life experience too, and have seen a great deal of suffering. I have already had someone reach out to me saying she went through a similar thing and almost really hurt herself... That alone is justification for fighting this.
  9. by   DivaliciousMe85
    I'm sure you don't mind, as you've already explained you will absolutely allow this situation to be public, but based on this post and a quick Google search, I have found out quite a bit of information about you. I found your FB page, where you work(ed), and even your family members' names. I personally would not want all of that information out there for the public to see when there is something career-threatening on the line. Please heed everyone's advice and consider removing this video/post.
  10. by   sevensonnets
    Yes indeed, the gloves have come off.
  11. by   roser13
    Quote from LetLoveNReasonUnite
    Not the same kind of hurt... but there is a whole lot of hatred in the world. I think poverty and disease are pretty hurtful things.

    I am not in denial. I agree you have to be in a good position to help someone (although you do not need to be 'perfect'... even the broken can help the broken). I have reached out extensively to heal myself. I am lucky to be surrounded by a lot of really great people.

    I have not just had 8 months of experience. I have had almost two years of nursing experience. And an arts degree before my nursing one. Get off your "I have xxx number of years of nursing experience"-so-I-can-say-what-it's-really-like-high-horse. While that experience is valuable, I have had a lot of life experience too, and have seen a great deal of suffering. I have already had someone reach out to me saying she went through a similar thing and almost really hurt herself... That alone is justification for fighting this.
    OP is determined to heal the world of nursing. I for one am ready to let her be her own worst enemy. Goodness knows, plenty of us have tried to save her from herself.

    I'm sorry to see that our prophesies have already come true. OP's name & details are out there, as she wished. It's really too late to remedy.
  12. by   SnowShoeRN
    Quote from LetLoveNReasonUnite
    I am sorry but I have really made up my mind... you will understand if you watch until the end of the last video. It has a very positive message but change does needs to happen and it needs to happen in the hearts of people everywhere..
    Not sure who you're talking to here, but for our audience at home the OP has her videos up on youtube.

    And I actually did watch all of the videos, but don't really feel like I'm any closer to understanding your intention. And while I think you bring up some interesting points regarding religion and nursing, it's difficult to grasp everything you're trying to say. Women are persecuted so therefore nurses are persecuted? Or persecute one another? Happiness is the only goal, but it doesn't matter unless you have passion? It honestly seems like they were put together by someone who is very upset and wants the world to know that nursing sucks, there is hatred everywhere which is ironic because religion and nursing being associated with caring, and women are persecuted.

    And it appears you made all of the videos on the same day - or perhaps you just wore the same sweater each time you recorded - so I find it hard to believe that you're completely healed from this experience because you made 7 videos within the span of 1-3 days and started talking to a counselor.

    I would venture that many of us have felt great injustices perpetrated toward us whether personal or professional. And sometimes the pain is seemingly unbearable and lasts a long time. BUT

    1. As others have said, you are not going to change the world in 7 emotional videos. Hatred and meanness lasted long before you and will continue to last for probably centuries if not millennia. And,

    2. It is both disrepectful and ignorant to the entire nursing profession to state that maltreatment, bullying, poor work culture, etc is the norm and that good treatment among colleagues is the exception when you've worked at ONE hospital and have 2 years of experience as a nurse. (But you've worked for 8 months of those 2 years...?)

    You're going against over half a century of collective nursing experience here on this thread alone. No one is telling you your experiences in the real world don't count, but - let's be honest - a dozen nurses with MUCH more experience than you probably are more qualified to make generalized sweeping statements about the state of nursing as a whole. Doesn't mean your experience doesn't suck. But we've just seen more.

    Also, I'm confused. Do you work as a nurse at your other job? It seems like you want to have nothing to do with nursing anymore, so I'm just wondering what your other job entails.

    Before I likely bow out from the rest of this conversation. I will leave you with my favorite Albert Einstein quote.

    "The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe."

    It's a pity you've completely discounted nursing based on 1 cruddy experience. It's a long, noble, humbling, beautiful, and unique profession and good can be found everywhere. I think with some time, experience, and finding your niche, you could have done very well.

    I wish you the best.
  13. by   RescueNinja123
    WOW, Wow Denise slow down you are moving those notes from the screen too fast.

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