Unwanted 'diagnosis'! - page 2

I would like to hear from others about an experience I had a few months ago and something that has really annoyed me. First of all, I am an EN (LPN in the US) and am halfway through my RN training,... Read More

  1. by   Jules A
    I'm not sure I'd be offended even if I thought he was a dope. It didn't sound like he was trying to sell you anything and maybe he was sincere and thought it was helpful. I'd probably write it off as he is just an odd bird. Its not as if he said you looked like you had a STD, now that would offend me, and if it is still bothering you maybe get your thyroid tested?
  2. by   imintrouble
    My OB instructor told us a story in class, about seeing a very yellow colored new born in the grocery, and approaching the new mother with her concerns.
    She didn't know what happened to that baby. She saw something that alarmed her, and she had a legitimate concern.
    It's very possible that mother was insulted by the nosy woman at the grocery. It's possible the jaundice resolved on it's own.
    It's a matter of what we observe as human beings, and feel comfortable about keeping our mouths shut. Or not.
    I wouldn't have been bothered by the comment.
  3. by   WinterLilac
    Thank you everyone for taking the time to give your thoughtful responses. I appreciate everyone's views.
    Yes, working in mental health, I have been called everything under the sun (and worse!) and I do have thick skin. Somehow and for some reason, his comment bothered me. In hindsight, there was many things I could have said back to him however I do believe he did not comment out of spite, having an agenda or trying to be rude. I think he had just learnt about certain disorders and was probably keen to 'spot a sign'. He was quite embarrassed when I, nor anyone else in the room, wished to continue his conversation killer.
    Thank you again for your kind words and to those no nonsense 'get over it' responses. I know for a fact it's better to sometimes put our fears, worries or offenses 'out there' to be reassured and reminded to move on!
    You're all a bunch of awesome people.
  4. by   Ruby Vee
    Rude and presumptuous.

    I was once riding on an elevator on may way home from work when a guy in a business suit got on the elevator and, without even so much as saying "hello", told me "You'd be a pretty girl if you didn't have all that acne. Come by my office and I'll look at it." Also presumptuous and rude.

    Your situation -- like mine -- will be a funny story one day. And that's all you need to think about it!
  5. by   Pangea Reunited
    An endocrinologist who used to come to the hospital I worked at once told me, "I can tell you're hypothyroid just by looking at you." It was an unprompted commet he just happened to make while I was in the nurse's station. I never spoke to the guy, didn't have any of his patients, etc. I'd suspected the same and already been tested, but was slightly on the right side of "normal". A while after, I was re-tested and put on synthroid. So I guess some people really can tell.
    ***I'm not overweight, by the way.
  6. by   dream'n
    Quote from klone
    Um, excuse me. Please do not paint all herbalists with the same broad brush. Most of herbalism is evidence-based.

    I no longer practice herbalism, but I was a "trained" herbalist. I trained with Rosemary Gladstar and Matthew Wood.

    And yes, you often *can* tell thyroid disorders based on physical traits. I can also recognize PCOS based on physical traits.

    Now, that's not to say the guy in the OP is not incredibly rude and presumptuous.
    You reminded of a sad/funny story. I had an office mate several years ago that was a fantastic friend. One day she looked at me while we were discussing some women's health issues and said, "Have you been tested for PCOS, you look like the poster child." Shocked me and her too! Sometimes people just put their foot in their mouth and just feel awful about it. Kinda hurt my feelings, but really motivated me on my diet I never held it against her, I've had foot in mouth disease before too.
  7. by   42pines
    You could have looked him up and down, scratched your chin a bit and said:

    “Hmmm, by the look of you, I’d say you have low testosterone, have you had issues lately?




    That might just make him think twice before opening his mouth.
  8. by   WinterLilac
    Love it!
  9. by   blondy2061h
    Quote from Pangea Reunited
    An endocrinologist who used to come to the hospital I worked at once told me, "I can tell you're hypothyroid just by looking at you." It was an unprompted commet he just happened to make while I was in the nurse's station. I never spoke to the guy, didn't have any of his patients, etc. I'd suspected the same and already been tested, but was slightly on the right side of "normal". A while after, I was re-tested and put on synthroid. So I guess some people really can tell.
    ***I'm not overweight, by the way.
    Yeah, I would take more value in such comments from an endocrinologist than a herbalist.

    If you're curious, it is a simple, straight forward blood test.
  10. by   LibraSunCNM
    I had a pregnant patient who told me some woman in an elevator, out of nowhere, said to her "Is your pregnancy high risk? Because you're carrying kind of high, and I did the same thing and my pregnancy was high risk." People are unbelievable idiots. And I think they often want to project their own issues onto you, under the guise of being "helpful."
  11. by   seanynjboy
    JUST BECAUSE every time I hear the term "Herbalist" I think of this comedy bit...pretty funny.
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tMMCKRso3RU

    But yeah, I am in no way a fan of Herbalists and just trying to diagnose someone by looking at them for hypothyroid...BOGUS...
  12. by   WinterLilac
    For the record, I'm perfectly healthy and have no curiosity about having hypothyroidism nor do I wish to have any blood tests. The point of my post was the blatant disregard for any social decorum which, as most of you have pointed out, lacked on behalf of this 'gentleman'. Have really enjoyed reading your anecdotes, thanks heaps for sharing
  13. by   psu_213
    Quote from BrandonLPN
    But it doesn't sound like he was trying to shove some herbalist agenda in your face or anything.
    However, depending on the OP's reaction to his statement, that might have been where the herbalist would go with it. In my limited experience, herbalists will "diagnose" a wide range of problems and, surprise, they have a supplement for that.

    To the OP, I wouldn't give this guy the time of day. If he tries to provide medical advice again, simply tell him "I will bring concerns about my health to my medical doctor who knows me and knows the appropriate tests to run."

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