This is a vent so hold on to your keyboards!

KidsLuvMe · Jun 19, 2003

I agree with all of you... I don't know why people put others down... especially counsleors and advisors (maybe they have seen so many people go on to do great things that they can't take it any more and just want to discourage others from becomming happy). But then again maybe they are just a bump in the road that makes you take a good look at yourself and dig deep down for the thing that keeps you going. Maybe they are supposed to refresh your sense of purpose, even though they don't know it. It would be great if they told you all good and supportive things but then you would just overlook that thing deep down that IS driving you and maybe get lazy or un-interested. Maybe God makes them negative so that you can find your own path and not the one that they want you to go down. I'm thinkin that they are put at the door to ask you if you really want to go in. If you say yes then you go if not then go to another door. Maybe nursing really is the most challenging thing a person could do and there is no escaping difficulty when you have chosen to face it straight on and these counselors are just another piece of the whole puzzle.

Just don't let them get to you. let their words motivate you, even caution you, but don't at all let them get to you in anything you do.

Just for the record it really irritates me when people DO say negative stuff when you are feeling so positive and excited and ambitious. mostly I just ignore them or laugh at them and keep going.

CVnurse08 · Jun 19, 2003

OMG, I have been waiting for a thread like this because I am not even a nursing student yet and people are already trying to convince me away from nursing. Even other NURSES !!! They are constantly telling me that I should definitely go for something different because nursing is just not a good field !!! Even though I am a very strong-willed and determined person, these negative comments can really wear on you. I can only imagine what it would do to an easily-persuaded person. But hopefully I am going to show all those "dream-squashers" and get into nursing school and finish it sucessfully and be happy with the decision I made !!!

eb_rn · Jun 19, 2003

i completely agree, "dream squashers" can cause lots of choas in a person's field of dreams.....i can relate, in nursing school, one of my instructors said i should "rethink" my career decision, i completely lost it.....i cried and screamed and finally, after some deep breathing and counting to 10...a lot, i told her that i had wanted to be a nurse for as long as i could remember, and that i would be a nurse even if it ment transfering to another school (they tried to fail me--lost several of my tests and i had to retake them--lots of stress!!!) after 1 nightmare of a semester, i finally passed and went on to the next semester and a new team of instructors, what a difference, day and night, i couldnt have gotten thru if it hadnt been for a real angel of an instructor who told me i could make up anything, clinical/test/paperwork and she would "keep" me in her group. ms.koch was truely an inspiration. it was very difficult, but my family and friends stood by me and with Loads of prayer, i made it!! no semester was ever so hard...did i mention that was my FIRST semester in nursing!!!!! thanks for the message/chance to vent, it does still bother me, now after a few years working at the Best peds hospital in my area. thanks again

eb_rn · Jun 19, 2003

just a thought to add, this maybe why i want to be an instructor, to prevent this from happening to more students who would be excellent nurses and stop the "dream squashers!!!"

CVnurse08 · Jun 19, 2003

eb_rn, I hope all my instructors in nursing school are like you and I think you will be a darn good instructor if you keep the great anti-dream-squasher attitude up !! :)

Love-A-Nurse · Jun 19, 2003

originally posted by jen2
i honestly think others are sometimes jealouse of those who do accomplich their goals. there are those people out there who refuse to finish anything in their life and loathe those who do. misery loves company and the biggest revenge is success.

jen, i agree with your post.

happystudent, RN · Jun 19, 2003

I am glad that I m not the only one that feels this way. There is this nurse that works in the ED who HATES Techs (thats me)

She is out to sabbotage (sp?) any tech that crosses her path and shes not afraid to tell you to your face that we (the techs) are useless...

Man, I could go on and on telling you all the responsibilities we have during traumas but I wont, It s just the fact that some people are put on this earth to test each one of us. I worked with this "joy of a human being today", ya know what? Im not mad......upset......discouraged.......nope. Just the sight of her wrinkly, pale, frowning face gives me the motivation to finish nursing school.

I dunno... maybe shes stressed out.....burnt out......family liife sucks....who knows........still doesnt give her the right to "try to put out someones fire"

Ahhhhhhhh....nice venting

:D

happystudent, RN · Jun 19, 2003

Originally posted by wanabebabynurse
eb_rn, I hope all my instructors in nursing school are like you and I think you will be a darn good instructor if you keep the great anti-dream-squasher attitude up !! :)

Hear ! Hear!

Allison S. · Jun 19, 2003

I was told that perhaps I should reconsider becoming a nurse. I was upset about it for a while, but then I heard that one of my friends had been told the same thing by the same person. And then that several of my friends had gotten the same message from the same instructor.

That instructor told me later that she was glad there were people like me in the world to take care of her child after she is gone.

Last week three of my patients told me I was their favorite nurse.

Bottom line: I was only in nursing school for fifteen months, and have only been out a year. I don't think that I have changed that much, actually. I just think that there are people who like to throw their emotional lives around, and that this is how insturctors can do it. It must feel very powerful to be a Dream Squasher.

I think a good instructor will help you become a good nurse, rather than just be the judge of who will or who won't.

VBMEDIC · Jun 20, 2003

I have had my decision to go into nursing questioned many times. One of the most comical was from my college counselor who suggested that I was doing it in an attempt to meet women. Never mind the fact that I am happily married with three children. My reasons stem from being a paramedic for 13 years, and finally wanting to be a part of that "definative health care" that we struggle so hard to get our patients to. The only advice I have is to ignore the comments from those who forget to check in with their brains before they speak. You know why you are making the choice to become a nurse, and you are the only one who needs to know for now. The only others that need to knoe are the patients, and I have a feeling that they will be able to tell pretty quickly. Just keep the faith and don't let anyone else derail your ideas or plans. You'll do fine.

Gregory