Thanks for your response. Ian had developmental tests when he was two and again when he started kindergarten, and he is on track or ahead developmentally, other than his articulation of speech. He is understanding and expressing well, sometimes he's just hard to understand when he speaks. I will be honest though; I had noticed he had not been hearing very well, but I had chalked it up to "selective" hearing. (You know, he doesn't "hear" when I tell him to clean his room.) He does have something of a quick temper (which my husband and I totally DO NOT get, because we are both slow burns) and he tends to get frustrated easily at times. He seems to have finally transitioned to the routine of school (not getting to do whatever he wants whenever he wants). Whoa, that sounded like I don't discipline him. What I meant was, in day care, they'd pick what they wanted to do (blocks, dolls, color) except for their little bit of instruction time. Now, he has to do this worksheet for so long, and if he's not done, he doesn't get extra time. They move on to whatever's next. In the afternoon, they go to different stations around the room, and the teacher chooses where they go, not them. So he may really want to play blocks, but instead he gets to go to the science station.
You're probably right about half the kids being tutored for something. I just remembered back when I was in elementary school (over 20 years ago when I started kindergarten) there were a couple of kids who had to leave class every day (or maybe every other day) during science/social studies/story time and the other kids made fun of them. I didn't because I was so quiet I didn't make fun of anyone.
When I said Ian was weird, I meant he just comes up with some really amazing things that I would not expect a five-year-old to figure out. I wish I could think of an example right now, but I'm just blank.
He does like to play by himself though, and it never bothers him if other kids are outside playing down the street. He doesn't come beg to join them. He waits till they come to him and if they don't it doesn't matter. He just does his own thing. It took me twenty-five years to get that much self-confidence. So maybe if he was teased a little, it really wouldn't bother him. But it would bother me if I knew he was teased.
Mama bear, I guess.