Some nurses seriously need their head examined

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Have you ever been in a situation where you simply want to tell another nurse to kindly remove themselves from your presence before I start raising my voice?

A few days ago I was involved in a case where my patient had their member and a testicle removed. Not very pleasant at all, this patient is terminal and the procedure was to give him extra time.

You would think this patient should be treated with dignity and respect wouldn't you?

The clinical nurse in charge of this clinic announced to the entire operating room that 'he deserves it for not washing himself properly'...............................:eek:

Ummm where do I start? At the time I was just speechless. I should have told them to refrain from making disrespectful comments. Instead I stewed about it which isn't healthy but at the time I was incapable of speaking to them without using curse words.

This was wrong on so many levels. I have a sister who is undergoing chemo, for someone to say anyone deserves cancer is personal to me. We had a nursing student in the room, now they go back and tell their preceptor and students how heartless we all are. It's hard enough to gain respect from surgeons, no wonder they think we're stupid when someone makes a comment like that it reflects on ALL of us. And of course how you can stand their and look at such a horrendous wound and make a comment really is just mind boggling.

I haven't had a chance to speak with this person but I'm going to. I'm going to let them know that their comment was disturbing, inappropriate and has really offended me. And I will tell them that in future maybe they should show some leadership and maturity by treating their patients with respect.

I just cannot understand all of this. I've cried all weekend over this incident.

See, and I think that nurses are held to higher standards than ANY other professionals. While I agree that the nurse's comments in the OP were WAY out of line, I don't think we need to be building gallows, publicly flogging her, or even writing pink slips at this time. I've heard far worse from Neurosurgeons, Cardiovascular surgeons, lawyers, the list goes on. You hear worse daily from so-called news professionals, it's just phrased better. We have gotten far less civil over the years, and far more "politically correct." We are far more concerned with policing other people's behavior and making sure that someone else gets punished for something they did than making sure we do the things we ought to do.

I think that what other people have said in earlier posts is the best response - and it's one I've often used myself to good effect. Something along the lines of "Really." Or "That's pretty inappropriate, don't you think?" Or even "I beg your pardon?" in the right tone of voice, does wonders for one of these morons. There is no need to make a huge issue over it - you won't change someone's mind, but you can at least take a stand against the behavior and I bet the person thinks about it.

Just my :twocents:.

This is a good post and I agree with you. I think it's a bit much to FIRE this nurse just because she made a lousy comment. Maybe she was having a bad day? Maybe someone she knew just got dx with cancer and she's angry about it? Or maybe she's just an idiot? Who knows. It doesn't matter though - she said something cruel and unprofessional and should be reprimanded for it. If she makes this kind of language a habit, then definitely fire her - but not after ONE comment.

Aside from this situation, maybe she's a really good nurse. I thought a lot of people on this forum supported nurses who were competent over compassionate, anyway? (I've seen plenty of threads on here that have gone along the lines of "if they're a really good nurse and can provide good care, it doesn't matter if they lack compassion", but this is getting too off topic now.)

May the good lord grant your sis. healing in jesus name . Amen. However ur response to this suituation is polite. I :yeah:your calm gesture, you have a heart, that charge needs to be spoken to...Just the way u planned. excellent!

Good luck!

Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.
That situation just makes me sick! As a nurse in Canada, I was considering a geographical change and move to the U.S., but now I'm seriously reconsidering.

That kind of attitude may occur here, but the level of our accountability and the penalties for professional misconduct gives rise to a system in which that kind of behaviour if seen and reported is usually dealt with strictly (in my experience).

1. This happened a looong time ago. It's often helpful to read through a thread before jumping in with guns blazing--- to get context on people's posts. You would then have known the subtext of this story, which was student nurses observing horribly awful behavior.

2. We're a pretty collegial bunch around here. Nurses from quite a few countries participate, and we learn from each other. For example, Vito, person above that you suggested shoud go into correctional nursing or retire, in a later post said, "I am re-thinking my attitude toward this." That's the point. See above re: reading through the thread

You seem very judgemental but I won't elaborate on exactly what I think right now because. . .siiggghh, I don't want to get in trouble. :D

I totally understand the emotional response as it hits on the personal and the professional. It's also understandable to view the different perspectives, seeing the responses swing from professional offense to personal humor. It's amazing how jaded/burned out some of our peers become, and let loose a comment such as your clinical manager did. Perhaps a response of: "I've given your comment more thought than you did apparently". It pushed my buttons. If you ever find yourself in leadership position, this will only reinforce your commitment to lead with thought and sensitivity.

:yeah:Rebecca Ihler, RN

1. This happened a looong time ago. It's often helpful to read through a thread before jumping in with guns blazing--- to get context on people's posts. You would then have known the subtext of this story, which was student nurses observing horribly awful behavior.

2. We're a pretty collegial bunch around here. Nurses from quite a few countries participate, and we learn from each other. For example, Vito, person above that you suggested shoud go into correctional nursing or retire, in a later post said, "I am re-thinking my attitude toward this." That's the point. See above re: reading through the thread

You seem very judgemental but I won't elaborate on exactly what I think right now because. . .siiggghh, I don't want to get in trouble. :D

Thanks for that! You seem very insightful. This is the first time I'm following a thread.... It's getting pretty wild. ...But even if she was having a bad day she should still be held accountable and learn from her mistake. As nurses all we can do is our personal best I suppose...

Stay well!

I cannot imagine a more devastating surgery for a man. It is the ultimate indignity accompanied by a terrible diagnosis. How cruel, how very cruel for a nurse to say. I have heard some doozies- comments about odors, laziness, drug-seeking, overweight, but to say he deserved this for not washing himself properly? I would have had to say "What the **** is wrong with you that you would say such a thing???".

I have come to see that there are some people who cannot accept that we do not have control of our fate. They believe there are no accidents. We bring every illness, every injury on ourselves. Therefore they MUST have done something to be punished in this way. I suspect this nurse is one of those people, and deep inside she probably is spiritually empty. Not that this excuses anything, but I think that people who are deeply spiritual can accept that things happen for no reason sometimes. At least no Earthly reason.

I pity anyone who feels that we are that powerful that we can bring cancer on simply by not washing properly. If it were true imagine all the little boys who would have cancer behind their ears....

"shoulda replied and said "had no idea not washing can cause malignancy..."

or "I hope your privy parts is next"! "

lol!! Agreed this person should not be a nurse.

Specializes in Medical and general practice now LTC.

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