So upset right now I could spit nails...

[NurseCard, ADN]

How do I begin this? If anyone has followed my posts on here, you know that I have

pretty much run my nursing career into the ground. I mean, I started out nine years

ago in a great hospital, with a promising med/surge career; I could only go up. Nine

years later... I'm LUCKY to get hired by a lousy LTC.

Things were truly looking up recently, about three weeks ago,

when I got a phone call completely out of

the blue, from a HH company that I had actually interviewed with MONTHS ago, but

got passed over for the job; it was a job that I would have REALLY liked to

have had. They called me out of the blue wanted to talk to me again, about

another position. I was so excited; I interviewed again for the position. THought

I had it in the bag, but had to do a second interview. Second interview, didn't

go so well, but honestly I didn't think it went THAT bad, not enough for

me to lose the position?? I didn't go as well as I would have liked, but...

I happened to mention to a former friend of mine, someone that I still "network"

with, but this person is "former" for a reason.... that I was trying to get a

psych HH position. Fast forward to now... it's been almost two weeks since

the second interview. I still haven't gotten a job offer; I really thought I would

have by now.

I contacted above mentioned "friend" this morning because I needed some

info concerning former supervisors, from a place where we have both worked.

For reference reasons. Come to found out, this "friend" now has a psych HH

job, with the company that I just happened to be trying to get hired with!

Arrrrrgh!!!! I know this sounds jealous and psycho, but I swear I wouldn't

put it past this person that they went after the EXACT same position that

I was trying to get!!! What really makes me mad is that this person is a

selfish, self serving, non caring... arrrrgh, words I can't use on here!! This

person is also a MALE, very good looking I will admit, and could charm the

pants off of a goat. He does so in order to get everything and anything that

he ever wants!!!! OH, it makes me mad. He's a horrible nurse; he doesn't

really care about his patients, he only cares about having the easiest job

possible. Give him even a little bit of WORK, and he doesn't want to do it.

Which is probably why he won't last in that job anyway, but I digress..

Okay, so *sigh* the above was a rant about how this person gets everythig

he ever wants by being charming and cute, while I have to feed my family (he's single

with one grown child and one almost out of HS), and can't find a job.

What I really would like to know, if you have read this far (and bless your heart

if you have).... SHOULD I call the HH place on Monday and make them tell

me once and for all, if I'm still up for a job there or not? I would still very

much like to work for them, and I'm tired of waiting for a yay or nay answer

from them.

My brother was right... I need to just quit whining and being so whishy washy

and just GO FOR IT, both with this job, and just with life in general.

[julianp]

You can either sit there and let the giant wave of life wash over you or you can get on your surf board and ride it.

[NurseCard, ADN]

*sigh* You are right, dude... So you think I should call them then?

[ixchel]

Ditch the friend. Clearly networking with this person is a mistake.

Beyond that, just cut your losses. Get your eggs out of this basket and move on. Putting them on the spot to make them tell you something will only make you look bad. At the very most, send them a thank you card for their time so they remember you were interested and might still be. Not every place does the courtesy of calling to say you're not hired.

[NurseCard, ADN]

Thank you ixchel... I agree. This person has caused me very little more than grief and

heartache over the years... used to be a very close friend. I've known him for quite

some time, but these days speak very little to him.

And you're right, maybe I'll just send a thank you card. I did drop the director a voicemail

a couple of days after the interview, but haven't communicated with her since. A card

can't hurt.

I'm just.... SO, SO incredibly frustrated at this point. I feel like all there is left for me

now are jobs that will bring in money, but very little reward or satisfaction. As a

Christian... and I know, that first post had very little Christianity to it ... I'm trying

to live a life in which MY personal satisfaction means so little, in the grand scheme of

things... but it's... HARD, sometimes.

[NurseCard, ADN]

I feel better now... I've calmed down now.

I mean, I was STEAMING when I read my "friend's" email.

"Calm down.... Have some dip!" --George Carlin

[netglow, ASN, RN]

Oooh see. Don't tell anyone even family where you are interviewing specifically. Family sometimes just even mentions to a neighbor or something and before you know it... just try not to give details.

Here is a story: Right after I had received my license, I had sent a resume to a NM, and, had one interview. I told a classmate from my college casually during a "catching up" phone chat, that yes, I just interviewed for a position on this unit. Well, I never got another interview. Much later I met someone currently working on that floor. I told this person of my interview to no avail and he said, "Let me bring in your resume, maybe I can see what happened." Well, the NM told him, "Yes I remember her - really liked her. but "Suzy" her classmate (working as a tech then, had not taken her RN boards yet) said that netglow was more interested in working another specialty and that she was pretty sure netglow was about to accept a different job." Apparently Suzy was asked about me as we were classmates and she was an employee albeit not a nurse yet and thought she would keep me from a job she thought should be hers even though she had not even scheduled her NCLEX yet.

You just never know who will screw it all up.

[Morainey, BSN, RN]

You just never know who will screw it all up.

Cripes. With friends like that, who needs enemies?? :icon_roll

[sauconyrunner]

Card is always appropriate. though after 2 weeks, it is a little bit late.

I'd call and ask, and you can always put it this way, "I've had a few offers, but this is the job that I am most interested in, so I'd like to hold off, until you can give me a response."

GOod Luck. and yeah, ditch the friend...

[netglow, ASN, RN]

Cripes. With friends like that, who needs enemies?? :icon_roll

Never considered nursing school people friends per say. Just aquaintances, (second career/degree for me) however we did talk a little after graduation about the job hunt. At that time nobody had known that basically there were almost no jobs to be had. About family and neighbors, well, they all think there is a nursing shortage, and don't ever keep mouths shut, so a harmless minor mention about a job prospect, can easily be passed on thinking it's nothing - then that other person tells another friend whose kid is a unemployed nurse that there might be an opening...

[caliotter3]

I learned a long time ago not to talk about potential employers with "friends" unless I was ready to compete with said "friend" for the work. People use others to get ahead you know. Change your behavior in this respect. Take care of Numero Uno first. I would certainly call these people. What are they going to tell you, that they hired your "friend" instead of you?

[Meriwhen, ASN, BSN, MSN, RN]

I'd call and ask, and you can always put it this way, "I've had a few offers, but this is the job that I am most interested in, so I'd like to hold off, until you can give me a response."

GOod Luck. and yeah, ditch the friend...

Excellent advice on both counts.

And in the future play your job hunt cards close to your chest, even with family or best friends. Don't tell them anything they don't need to know, even when networking. If you really have to confide in someone all the gory details about how the job hunt is going, tell your cat. A cat won't talk because they won't do anything you try to force them to.