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- Mar 30, '11 by mama_ddf77...
I can see where it would be confusing to someone not already "in the trenches"...and I think that your comparison to parenthood is actually probably a good one.
I love my kids to death. Never knew until I had them just how quickly and deeply you could fall for someone.
There are moments when they are so good and so sweet that it makes me want to cry b/c my heart just can't hold in the love.
And there are moments when they better be happy that I love them so mcuh, b/c it's the only thing keeping me from seriously injuring one of them.
The constant stress about finances, worry about how they're turning out, am I totally screwing up as a parent, are they safe when they're out playing, are they being little hoodlums when they're out playing, etc ad nauseum...it never stops.
But even though life would be easier and less stressful without the little buggers, I still wouldn't ever want to be without them.
I could find other jobs, with less stress, higher pay, etc...but then I wouldn't be doing what I love. The politics and policies can be awful...so I try to be involved in groups that work on changing those that hinder us. The pts can be awful, but they can be great too. And there's no other job that I'd rather do that has the same potential for imapct on someone's life. When we make a good save, or deal with a crisis situation, or fix something that would lead to death pretty soon if untreated, it's awesome.
So yeah, it sucks, but I'll keep on going back for more. I'd never discourage someone from being a nurse (in fact, I keep pointing out to my kids that it's a great career path with all different kinds of opportunities), but I would encourage people to go into it with their eyes open.
- Mar 30, '11 by GM2RNQuote from Living4PeaceFirst off, for all of you jumping down the OP's throat, she was in no way intending to censor the people that come on here and use this site as a vehicle to vent their frustrations. If anything, the OP is trying to gain information as to why the number of negative posts seem to overwhelmingly exceed the positive. All of the snide, rude and contemptuous comments can be put on hold. There is no wonder why nurses get stigmatized as b****es.
OP, I truly honor you enthusiasm. It is refreshing to hear someone that has such a passion for nursing and possess a great amount of goals. I hope you can hold tight to the vigor that you are in possession of, it will take you a long way. I will say that there will be discouraging moments as this field is far less than always pretty.
I have two words for you -- READING - COMPREHENSION!
- Mar 30, '11 by GM2RNQuote from Ivy BlackNo, I am absolutely sure no one is intentionally discouraging anyone. What I am saying however, is that the collective image of many of these post is "discouraging". I had a friend come on this site and leave horrified. In fact, she is the one who told me about this site. She actually dropped out of her program behind the "cold feet" she got after reading some of this stuff (though I still feel that my friend was being extreme to say the least). Of course to you, a professional, it's just " nurses venting" but to us students it sounds like a "red flag". I must say, I was very "concerned" after reading many of these posts. I have taken out loans and expended much energy in my classes. I have absolutely no job security now. I have not had a "good position" since 2008. And, in that corporate office position I experienced extreme racism, bullying, back biting, name calling, racial slurs, mental abuse; it was unreal. It was hell actually. Pure hell. I am looking to nursing to get me out of the not-so-great position I am already in. The last thing I want to hear is that all these classes I'm getting A's in and all these loans I have taken out are just so I can feel like killing myself every day after my RN shift (should I choose to bedside nurse). Clearly, I went through that in my previous corporate office experience (stress related pneumonia, skin infections, hair loss, constant cold, insomnia, crying --- you name it.) I am putting alot of me into this and I am working very hard. This is very serious to me and it is quite alarming to hear so much "I wish I wasn't doing this". It makes you asks a lot of questions of yourself, God and everyone else. Sometimes when nurses "vent", they don't consider what this may sound like to students.
Also, I didn't judge anyone in my initial post.
Ivy Bee :heartbeat
Several people have already responded to this post and did a fantastic job. There's no need for me to say anything more.
- Apr 3, '11 by heelhook80Ivy, I'm a nursing student and almost done with school and I've been a CNA for 2 years at a large inner city hospital so I feel like I know very well what I'm getting into.
You seem intelligent and like you've researched this and I hope you go forward knowing all it involves. I think some of the bad nurses out there became that way because they didn't know what they were getting into and became bitter when things got tough.
You may have to remove a fecal impaction, you may have to wipe and change gowns 4-5 times a day in a mentally challenged screaming patient given laxatives, you may work a 12 hour shift with a 15 minute lunch break, you may have to enter a room and start an IV on a patient deathly scared of needles while their family watches your every move, you will be very busy most days you work on a hospital floor, you will certainly have to study a lot, be on your feet alot and need good shoes, you will certainly stay home a lot of weekends to study, and you will have nursing instructors that work to humble you. Don't let anything stop you.
- Apr 3, '11 by Ivy BlackHeelHook80 ---
Thank you so much for the encouraging words! I wish you the same! Go get 'em!
Ivy Bee :heartbeat
- Apr 3, '11 by Katie5Nothing is ever as bad as it seems.
- Apr 3, '11 by yuzzamatuzzI am a student as well and am about to graduate in a month. You seem like you have the right mindset to come into nursing. I have met a few nurses who are burnt out, but I have met so many more who truly love what they do. I competed my senior practicum on a pediatric floor where the nurses were all friends, never fought, and rarely complained. They all helped each other and their attitudes really made a difference in patient care. I understand your concern about some of the things you have seen on this website. Know that it is often used as a healthy resource to vent and doesn't necessarily reflect how nurses feel about their job all the time. Nursing is a very rewarding career and you seem like you are the perfect person to come into it. If you continue to remember why you went into nursing then I'm sure you will continue to love it.
- Apr 3, '11 by juzmeQuote from mama_dYOU ARE AWESOME MAMA D!!!!Well saidOuch...I just read the rest of the thread...
Honey, this is a site for nurses and students to come to for all things nursing related. I rarely post about the awfulness that occurs at my job, but offending someone's sensibilities is the least of my concerms when I do. I'm searching for empathy, constructive criticism, and advice from others who have been through the same.
And if you're seeing "red flags" here, well, yep...you can't miss them. Better to go into it with you eyes open while you still have a chance to change your mind. Not everyone has that option, which is why so many people who have come to hate bedside nursing, legitimally IMO, are stuck. When you have a family to provide for, personal satisfaction in career choice often takes the back burner.
It would be awesome if nursing was all sunshine and roses, but it's not. At all. It sucks hard core on a regular basis....and this is from someone who can honestly say that I love my job and career and would never consider doing anything else. It's not "whining" to come here and vent and look for support...it's the only safe place that many have where there are oodles of people who know exactly what they're talking about. Just like you can choose to change the channel on the TV, you can choose which threads to focus on here...but don't expect those of us who have been there, done that, to moderate our "behavior" b/c being honest about our experiences might frighten people out of pursuing nursing as a career. No offense intended towards your friend or others who might have changed their mind after coming here, but if they can't even handle READING about what we go through, it's probably better that they got out before investing their blood sweat and tears in a nursing degree.
- Apr 3, '11 by rnccf2007Quote from Ivy BlackThe most important thing that you will need to do when you become a nurse is to keep your passion for nursing. Yes, nursing is defintely different than what you are taught in nursing school and it is not an easy profession. Many nurses feel the way they do because they joined a profession to provide quality patient care and advocate for their patients. Yet, they deal with extreme short staffing, lack of respect, no breaks or lunches, etc., which does not result in quality patient care. Research why nurses (good) leave the profession. Hopefully, you will never have the opportunity to cry on your way home from work, because you felt that you didn't take the best care of your patients for reasons that are not under your control (e.g. short staffing due to poor administration or greed). That being said, I am proud to be a nurse and I worked hard for it! And...at 45, I am still continuing my nursing education. My point, you should be aware of the negatives as well as the positives and not judge nurses until you become one. And...if you work for a facility that endangers your patients, you, or your nursing liscense you can always look for a new job. Always keep in mind why you became a nurse and KEEP the PASSION!One thing I have seen a lot of on these boards is discouragement directed to the students and/or new nurses who are "niave" enough to have some enthusiasm towards the profession. That's pretty eff'ed up. If you have been doing it for years and have become jaded, (and I don't know if you have or not) that's fine. It is hard not to be "somewhat judgemental" when most of the post you read on these boards sound bitter, cynical and angry. It makes you ask yourself if nursing is this bad, why are these people still doing it? The craziest part is, most of these "I hate my job" nurses say that they have been nursing 5 years or better. I don't think it is "naive or judgemental" to begin to question what must be (forgive me) wrong with people who would go on 5-35 years doing something they claim to despise enough to "warn" anyone even remotely interested in it, not to do it. I don't know about you, but if I hate even as much as a 30 minute TV program, I change the channel. With that being said, I really have to wonder if nursing is really that bad or if some of the nurses here are just without goals that would take them beyond the apparently "hellish awfulness" of bedside nursing. I think after reading approx. 300 "I hate this. I hate this. I hate this" posts over the past 3 hours, me asking if these people are crazy, unmotivated or correct in what they say is an honest and fair question.
I think some of the nurses here, instead of telling us pre-nursing and nursing students and new grads to "just wait until our lives too have been effed up, broke down, frazzled, ruined or destroyed by the dark, filthy, demon filled dungeon that is the inner stinch of this our great nursing profession", should place themselves in our shoes and consider how either terrifying or completely insane all of this "I hate this job that I have been doing for the last 15 years by my own choice" must sound. All I want is a sound answer that does not attack my passion, my goals or my "niave; judgemental" views and there seems to be a lot of that going around on this site. As a newbie, I must say, this site seems terribly negative and non-inspiring. I came here thinking I could learn and read some insightful and encouraging posts from seasoned field professionals. Honestly, there just seems to be a lot of whining. I am just trying to make some sense of all this. Considering the posts that are frequently posted here, again, I think my views are very fair. There are pros and cons to every job.
Ivy Bee :heartbeat
- Apr 3, '11 by linearthinkerI haven't read all this. Short answer, yes it is that bad and no, $50/hour isn't enough most days.