Rubs me the wrong way

  1. Hmmm....ever meet up with that one particular coworker that is out to create discord and tension everywhere he/she goes, lives to undermine, and seems to only work when the NM is present. Well, I have met alot in my short time as a nurse but this one wins the Witch of the Millenium award.

    She is a total ego stroker, takes credit for others actions, literally tells people that she should receive credit for being "one of the few good nurses in this facility", tells anyone who will listen about how knowledgable, compassionate, nonspecifically wonderful, blah, blah, blah she is.

    I can not take anymore, especially since I have taken over care of her patients and found assessments were not done or that she failed to find blatantly obvious deviations from from pts baseline, failed to give pain meds and charted "voiced no complaints" p.s. this pt she charted this on was NONVERBAL. Even though others do not like her they fear her so they pretend to tolerate her behavior because she is the Queen of the Incident Reports and a major suck up to anyone with authority.

    How do you handle this Joan Collins wanna be?
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  2. 11 Comments

  3. by   jnette
    "Pride cometh before a fall". Sooner or later she will cause her own undoing.

    Although it is annoying to be around someone like that, save your energy for being and giving your personal best. Any energy given to her cause is wasted energy.
    Ppl like this just need ignoring. Refuse to allow her to upset you or your day...concentrate on that which is good... in yourself, your patients and fellow coworkers whose noses aren't quite so far up in the air (or stuck up others' hind ends). I always like to remind myself that ppl who walk around with their nose in the air will drown when the rains come... and the rain is no respecter of persons.. it falls on the humble and proud alike.

    After having alienated herself with her attitude, who will be there to cover her with an umbrella when the proverbial "doo doo" hits the fan, or throw her a life ring when the torrents of rain threaten to flood and drown her?

    Don't get sucked into her negative space... it will only harm and weaken you.
    Save your energies for those who are worthy.
  4. by   BarbPick
    Quote from huggietoes
    Hmmm....ever meet up with that one particular coworker that is out to create discord and tension everywhere he/she goes, lives to undermine, and seems to only work when the NM is present. Well, I have met alot in my short time as a nurse but this one wins the Witch of the Millenium award.

    She is a total ego stroker, takes credit for others actions, literally tells people that she should receive credit for being "one of the few good nurses in this facility", tells anyone who will listen about how knowledgable, compassionate, nonspecifically wonderful, blah, blah, blah she is.

    I can not take anymore, especially since I have taken over care of her patients and found assessments were not done or that she failed to find blatantly obvious deviations from from pts baseline, failed to give pain meds and charted "voiced no complaints" p.s. this pt she charted this on was NONVERBAL. Even though others do not like her they fear her so they pretend to tolerate her behavior because she is the Queen of the Incident Reports and a major suck up to anyone with authority.

    How do you handle this Joan Collins wanna be?
    Here she is in all her glory

    http://www.mentalhealth.com/dis1/p21-pe07.html
  5. by   Tweety
    Document, yes via incident reports if you find errors or variances that are considered unsafe, and notify the manager. It's tough working with the personality, but that you can ignore. If she's unsafe, you have an obligation to document and report. Good luck.
  6. by   jnette
    Quote from 3rdShiftGuy
    If she's unsafe, you have an obligation to document and report. Good luck.
    Agree with Tweety there. I was focusing more on the "personality" aspect.

    But Tweety is correct.. we DO have the obligation to report unsafe practices.
  7. by   MandyInMS
    Ohhhh I feel ya huggie..we have a Joan Collins too she's so frigging wonderful...just ask her..she'll be glad to tell you just how great she is..bleh..at least our supervisors have a clue..we do as advised above..ignore what you can and write up what needs be.
  8. by   BadBird
    I would tell her really loudly in front of the other nurses, "the only one who thinks you are wonderful is yourself" or "self praise is no praise at all" then mention what she forgot to document while you are writing it up on a incident report.
  9. by   mattsmom81
    I enjoyed the pep talk guys...thanks...I need it myself this week! Hang in there Huggietoes.....
    Last edit by mattsmom81 on Feb 13, '04 : Reason: typo
  10. by   Tilleycs
    Honestly, what she really needs is love and sincere encouragement. All this is screaming "insecurity!" She probably, in her heart, hates herself and this is how she wishes she really was. But, in her heart, she knows the truth.

    Someone else quoted a verse that is very true. How about this one for us?

    "If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' love those who love them." - Luke 6:32

    Not trying to point fingers, it's tough for everyone to do this. Hang in there!
  11. by   angelbear
    Been there done that I can relate. Us quite ones are really the workers. Keep your chin up.
  12. by   sjoe
    ""Pride cometh before a fall". Sooner or later she will cause her own undoing."

    That gave me a good laugh. These people usually wind up in administration, or haven't you noticed?
  13. by   mattsmom81
    So true Sjoe...and it is one of the reasons I no longer venture into administration...the sharks seem bigger, meaner and hungrier there it seems.

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